Most of the time I go to bed I tell myself two things. I want to have a lucid dream, and I want this ex-girlfriend to be in my dream. Whenever I am lucid, I am unable to summon this girl. I try very hard, but it never tends to work. And other times when she is in my dream, I am NEVER lucid. I must of had 50 dreams of her in the past year and none of them lucid. And 50+ lucid dreams that she is never in. What's the deal? I tried telling myself that she is a dream sign, but that didn't seem to work.