Thread: I CANNOT get lucid.

I've seen all his videos all ready...
And yes, Maeni, we are on the same wavelength.

Same problem, 8 months for me

I'm getting close thou, i can feel it!

Anybody CAN have an LD, but for some people it takes a bit longer. I still don't know for sure if I've had an LD, and I've been trying for quite a long time too. I think I got into SP though, I heard someone calling my name and it was getting louder and louder. As I relaxed it stopped, but when I tryed to move it started again.

Just try to WILD in the weekend. Stay in bed for 10-11 hours, when you wake up, don't move, and try to WILD.

The 10-11 hour time spent in bed was the key for me. After about 8 hours of sleep I kept waking up and falling back to sleep repeatedly. First time I woke up, I moved, and I remembered myself to lay still next time I wake up. I did, and it worked.

first thing is that when you tell yourself it's impossible... it literally is impossible. same thing goes for when in a lucid, if you tell yourself something is impossible... it can't happen. so you have to believe it is possible because everyone can have a lucid. i had a lucid dry spell for like 3 months and didn't know when i would ever have one again. then i read stephen laberge's book exploring the world of lucid dreaming. i definately recommend this book to anyone having problems. he mentions this exact same thing and says that you need to believe that it is easy.
after 3 months of a dry spell i did this exact same thing coupled with stephen laberge's MILD method that he outlines in the book and had 2 lucids in one night. if you don't have one after telling yourself that it is easy you can't get down on yourself, you just need to keep the same state of mind and keep trying because it does take many tries for the majority of people. when i had these dreams i woke up at about six in the morning and told myself "next time i'm dreaming i will remember i'm dreaming" and the next thing i knew i was in a dream.
WILDing take a long time especially if you are having trouble with obtaining a lucid. i would recommend trying the MILD technique untill you get a lucid before trying new techniques. you also should be able to recall one dream per night before attempting to lucid. for all you know you've had a lucid but just don't remember it upon awakening which = never having one because you don't know if you did. also another thing that helps extremely well is during your daily routine imagine you are dreaming and what you would do. picture it like real life, because that is what a lucid feels like, but you can do anything you want (you believe you can do and you want). just take off on a tangent at work or school and picture yourself as vividly as possible doing whatever it is you want. it helps if it is something impossible in the real world like flying because it is a dreamsign within itself.
Also create a dream journal and then everything that wouldn't happen in real life, for example like being with people you wouldn't think should be together like 2 different groups of friends or being in an odd place, classify into: inner awareness (something you just know but shouldn't in real life), context (you shouldn't be in this place in real life or these people shouldn't be here), form (a person looks weird or looks like half animal), and action (something happens like flirting with someone you don't think possible in real life). count them up and then focus on whichever is most for you. for me context is the majority so when i'm in a weird place i as myself am i dreaming and then do a reality check like holding my nose and breathing through it and then bam! lucid.
if you have any other questions please send me a message and i will answer them. i may not have as much experience as other people but i assure you i could give some solid advice.
btw, if you have a couple drinks before bed and then wake up 6-8 hours later it suppresses REM until you are sober so you have REM rebound when you wake up in that time span and then go back to bed. it works wonders for me...have had more lucids when drunk the night before currently than without lol.... but don't drink to have lucids.

I read in a book[exploring the world of lucid dreams] that for some people, they try incredibly hard to build themselves up to lucid dream that they think of it as something incredibly hard to attain and therefore make it this way for themselves.

Maybe you want to lucid dream so badly that you have made it so hard for yourself because you're trying so hard?

I would suggest keeping up with a dream journal/reality checks but put a hold on trying to lucid dream for a while? I had this problem for a while myself, and after I took a step back and stop trying so hard they started to come to me.

You sound very defeatist mate; almost as though you don’t want to succeed because you want to prove to everyone that you’re hopeless and you fail at everything. Not saying that’s what it is, but that’s the impression you’re giving, which isn’t going to help things. I also agree with the above poster – seems like you’re trying too hard at the moment, to me. It can be like trying too hard to get to sleep – the harder you try, the more difficult it becomes.

Don’t despair; I doubt there is any such thing as a person who can’t LD – it just comes easier to some than others.

I've been trying for months and no results. And the other day, I was talking to a friend of mine, and I explained to her what Lucid Dreaming was. Then she goes, "Oh that? I do that every time I dream. *pause* Isn't that normal?" I then proceeded to bang my forehead on the wall.

Yah. Does someone have an actually success story? Like, they never LD'd before and finally, after WILDing or DILDing got one?

I couldn't get lucid for over a year, but now I get them every once in a while.

Yeah!!! It seems that everyone I know has had a lucid dream before! Even my grandma!!!

People who try try, people who don't try don't, and then the ironic ways of the universe go and switched the outcome of each of those people and they got the opposite of what they desired, thats relativity...

I CANNOT get lucid.

you've been trying for a long time?
how many RCs are you doing evey day?

Keep trying, it isn't impossible. Try one technique for a week or more, if it doesn't yield any success go to another. The easiest technique would probably be a MILD, for beginners.