Thread: The future or wishing?

I have no experience with that kind of thing, but if I were you I would visit anyone on my mother's side who does have that kind of experience and discuss it with them. They may be able to explain a difference in the 'feeling' of different types of dreams. Is your grandmother still in this world? Does your mother dream prophetically?

Sorry I can't be of more help. I get visions/intuitions/'parcels of knowledge' about future events/probabilities or present advice, but in waking life only, never in my dreams (to my knowledge).

Also, why do you say 'wishing' if you are happily married?

My mother and her side do not speak to me anymore. They consider me to have strayed from the True Path (in another words, I don't partake in their cult), so we have parted ways. I say wishing, because I forgot to include something else. My other sister and I have not spoken in nearly a decade, yet, in my dream, she was there as a bridesmaid. I miss her terribly; she was my best friend for twenty years. She got sick of the family cult and cut everyone off, and it seems she is not aware that I am no longer in communication with them. Sad bunny! Anyway, throughout my series of dreams, she sometimes appears.

This is going to sound a bit out there, but hey this is the Beyond Dreaming section of the forum, so that's ok.

What if the way that precognitive dreams work is that we somehow make them come true. If I were you, I would choose to believe that the part about your sister being back in your life somehow is precognitive, and the part about your second marriage is symbolic. Live your life with that understanding, unless you get proof that the truth is different. If you expect precognitive dreams, they are more likely to come true, I think, and you are more likely to discover more of them. I think our minds are more powerful than we think they are, and I suspect we can create reality based on dreams, though we do not quite know how that works.

My own three precognitive dreams, there was no pattern to the feeling that I could discern, and I only discovered them to have been precognitive after the fact. Now I expect more of them, and perhaps after a while I will get a feeling for them. For what it is worth, my own precognition thus far has been mostly trivial stuff, not important stuff, but that is bound to be different for different people.

I don't want to dismiss my dream and be unprepared if my husband goes. He is currently the sole provider, and I stay home raising the three children. I also don't want to weird him out by suddenly getting a job, life insurance, and updating our wills. Then again, perhaps it isn't death. Perhaps he cheats on me, and my dream was showing me that I need to pay attention to signs that I've missed, so that I can prepare to leave him. Then again, I don't want to start snooping.

I suppose that, assuming the death scenario, I can just tell him that I've had some worrisome dreams and would like to feel prepared. I can make sure we have our wills up to date and look into life insurance. We've always joked about it, but perhaps it's time to get serious.

Also, I do not consider any ideas too weird. If I had not experienced the power of dreams myself, I would be a little skeptical, especially since people tend to say things after the fact. "Oh, I totally dreamed this!" I had a friend who dreamed of an earthquake -- that's it. No more information. She looked through the news until she found a tiny one had happened somewhere in the world. She's convinced she dreamed the future; I think it's likely coincidence, but it's possible.

My future dreams have been specific before, and they seemed to be impossible. I lived in the south and dreamed of moving up north, meeting the lead singer from Maroon 5 in a building that shifted from school to a church and back again, and met his friend who was a guy, shifted to a girl, then back to a guy. A month later, my dad's job transferred him to Maine. I met a guy who looks just like Adam Levine, in a church that doubled as a school, and his friend introduced himself to me as Phyllis to make me laugh. That was the moment I knew I had the gift, and I should take it seriously. These dreams seem incredible and unlikely... but...

Bah. I don't want to act on them and be wrong, but I don't want to shrug it off and get hit.

I have Asperger's. I ramble. Forgive me XD

Sounds like you want to get back in touch with your sister. Maybe, as JoannaB suggests, the marriage was a representation of a new family life, one which includes your sister (twin baby girls may represent the close link you have with your sister).
I too believe that we can influence future events by focusing on certain things, although Joanna puts it much more eloquently.

If we can, than how I can stop dreaming of marrying someone else?

To misquote a person I don't recall the name of "There are so many signs in the world, you must choose the ones you want to pay attention to".

The advice I am about to give you is subjective, and based purely on my own life experiences. I believe that there are different truths for different people, and ultimately we must listen only to our own knowing. Keeping that in mind, I hope to be able to pass on knowledge gleaned in my lifetime that may help others to find that place in themselves where they are coming from a place of their own knowing.

Due to my beliefs and the the thoughts that continuously chatter away as a background to my daily life, I create the reality that I see around me. If I focus on a particular thought/dream/'external sign', I bring about changes in my 'external' reality that cause those events upon which I focused. I may or may not be aware that I am doing this. If I were to dream of an event which I did not wish to come to fruition, I would remind myself that I am in control of my universe (to the best of my ability at this present moment), and focus instead on the events or scenarios which I did wish to bring to fruition. So, for example, if I were to dream that in the future I was no longer with my current partner, to whom I had three beautiful children and loved very much, I would dismiss this as an event that I did not want to call into my future. If I found myself thinking about the possibility which the dream induced, I would stop myself, and instead focus my attention on the love I share with my partner, and the bond that I share with my partner and children. I am not saying that this is an easy thing to do, to redirect ones thoughts, but it is most definitely possible, and becomes easier with practice.

If these dreams were reoccurring, as I was falling asleep I would think of all the wonderful times I shared with my partner, I would (if it were a pleasant one) think about our wedding (and if it were unpleasant for any reason, I would imagine it going just how I wanted it to). I would also imagine sitting down to a coffee/beer/beverage of choice with my partner and my sister, and enjoying their company. This is known as dream incubation, a subject about which you may find much information on this site and the broader internet.

I hope I have been able to assist a little, and I wish you good 'luck'

Here is a link to a movie scene that resonated with me in terms of what the *future* actually is. Namaste.
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=fgvhMnzlYaE