Lucid sex, dream recall... problems >_>

[Erinn]

First of all, hello to the DV community... it's been a while since my last post here. Anyway, my problem... For the last three years I've been trying to master lucid dreaming. I had some success, nothing big, not too often, but it was ...well, awesome. Unfortunately, lately (and I'm not talking about a short period) I have very poor dream recall and my biggest problem (however strange it might sound) is the sexual desire in my lucid dreams. I don't have sex dreams often, but every single time I become lucid I just want to have sex and every single time it ends in the same way... well, it ends abruptly It kinda demotives me and I feel like giving it up all together more than ever, but on the other hand, now, more than ever, I want to slap myself to reason and "train hard" in order to achieve lucidity (again). Almost every night before I go to sleep I decide I'll become lucid, but it never works. I don't really have time for trying to WILD (or that's what I want to believe ). I tried taking B6 too... and I've never thought of lucid dreaming as of something incredibly hard to achieve (or have I ?). But what actually bugs me the most is the laziness after I wake up in order to write down my dreams... I've tried it for so many times and it's not as half as easy for me as it was before, I just can't be arsed to write down my dreams and I always regret it later, because I know that helped me a lot with my dream recall and lucidity before... It might sound like a desperate call... but... help me ? XD

[Thorim]

There might be several reasons to kill ones dreamrecall, like smoking weed, irregular sleep times, (drinking alcohol in brackets because not true for me, I nearly always have a ld when i drank, but I read about that). Maybe you should think about that. Setting an alarm clock which wakes you in the night during or after your REM cycle may help also. Well to your sexual desires in ld's I can just recommend sex or masturbation before going to bed. And try to set some goals hope I could help Thorim

[3FLryan]

Sounds almost exactly like my current situation. I'm willing to bet religiously keeping a dream journal will help tremendously with lucidity. I'm talking averaging 1 lucid a night. If I ever can stop being lazy, I'll let you know if I was right. As to the sex thing...haven't figured out that one yet.

[blak278]

First i have to say i thought i always had special powers because as a kid i would always be able to end any bad dreams just by taking a controller out and pushing quit and id wake up, like a video game..but i guess others can controll there dreams, as far as the sex the FIRST thing i do when i become aware im dreaming is start having sex with someone next to me lol, hottest girl i can find, but the sex usually feels dull and climax is impossible i usually wake up, now that i know lucid dreaming is a skill though im going to practuce see if i can get to the point where fantasy is my reality

[Shift]

http://www.dreamviews.com/community/...ad.php?t=49240 LOL You must take it with many grains of salt. But maybe the ideas mentioned will help

[dk2852]

I love this thread, because its so true. I asked some friends today if they ever had a lucid dream, and many said they don't even remember most of their dreams. Me on the other hand, I have had several lucid dreams, all on accident. I don't use reality checks, I can just figure I'm in a dream based on the feeling(things moving quickly, etc). However recently my lucid dreams all turn into sex dreams. Some of them last a while, and in some of them I will start masturbating in an attempt to masturbate in real life, but I'm doing it in the dream only. Usually they break down quickly with vision disappearing slowly, and soon I wake up. I have had non-sexual lucid dreams, although the only recent one, was a dream in which I would fly all over the world.

[jumpinjester]

I havn't been on these boards too long, so I'm not sure how spiritually inclined most people here are, but if you are familiar with Astral Projection, you may get some assistance from that realm of study. I've read before that sex during an astral projection uses lower chakras, which are also used to stay "grounded"; essentially short-circuiting the experience. Seeing as how in terms of the Astral, there is seemingly only a vague difference between AP & LD, lessons in one may help the other. Whether you believe it or not, its always been in my case, at least, that sex degrades LD experiences dramatically, so it may be wise to avoid it. I feel really weird conjuring up girls that I know, also....in fact it's bothered me so much I decided to stop recently. It's good that i feel that way because I have more pressing pursuits anyway!

[Erinn]

Thanks a lot for the help and for sharing your experiences, it's nice to see I'm not the only one with these kind of problems. I'll surely take your advices and report back here if any progress occurs. Btw, it would be nice if everyone posted their problems (if they are similar) or the solutions and ideas for the sake of the community, I guess it would help others out there too...

[robbiek]

Take good sleep, eat healthy and try and do some cardio 3-4 times a week. This will keep you fresh the whole day and you can easily concentrate on your work and the time when you will feel sleepy you will have a good 6-7 hr sleep. If in any case this does not help, try consulting a physician and surely you can get over your problem.

[konj]

u can't have "sex sex" in LDs,you will wake up,try to ignore it,do something else

[Shift]

u can't have "sex sex" in LDs,you will wake up,try to ignore it,do something else It's probably mostly expectation that wakes you up during sex. Some people have sex but don't wake up.

[Exdream]

I've had LD sex a couple of times, aside from being AMAZING (Sorry to rub it in ) I can only recommend practicing not getting excited. That's what will wake you up. I'll also recommend not going straight for sex, you'll have greater success later on once you've mastered control and not waking yourself up from excitement. You're starting too big. Not that I'm a master LD'er, this is just the small pearls of wisdom I've got since joining DV and being more dedicated to LDing. Goodluck.

[konj]

I've had LD sex a couple of times, aside from being AMAZING (Sorry to rub it in ) I can only recommend practicing not getting excited. That's what will wake you up. I'll also recommend not going straight for sex, you'll have greater success later on once you've mastered control and not waking yourself up from excitement. You're starting too big. Not that I'm a master LD'er, this is just the small pearls of wisdom I've got since joining DV and being more dedicated to LDing. Goodluck. thats what i initialy suspected,thx! Shift thx aswell

[Conquer]

There might be several reasons to kill ones dreamrecall, like smoking weed, irregular sleep times, (drinking alcohol in brackets because not true for me, I nearly always have a ld when i drank, but I read about that). My success rate for lucids when going to sleep while drunk is higher than when sober. As for going to sleep high, the SP usually just feels more intense and I get too overwhelmed with sp hallucinations to stay focused enough to WILD. I agree on the irregular sleep times, school always gives me lots of broken recall (probably from waking up early) but less lucids (maybe from going to bed tired).

[Erinn]

I've had LD sex a couple of times, aside from being AMAZING (Sorry to rub it in ) I can only recommend practicing not getting excited. That's what will wake you up. I'll also recommend not going straight for sex, you'll have greater success later on once you've mastered control and not waking yourself up from excitement. You're starting too big. Not that I'm a master LD'er, this is just the small pearls of wisdom I've got since joining DV and being more dedicated to LDing. Goodluck. Thanks man

[Lime Cat]

Most of my sex dreams either throw me in to it straight away, or I have little control over the actions. In fact, I find sex in my dreams better than it is in real life! These dreams also end very abruptly, before any climax. My advice: fill yourself with a sense and self-belief of possessive power. This has helped me in the past.