Use it as a dreamsign. |
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Hi, My husband left me a few weeks ago and I keep dreaming that he has not left me, or that he comes back to me and apologises for all the pain he has caused me. These dreams are causing me great distress as I wake it feels like it's happening all over again as I have to remind myself it's not true. How can I make my dreaming self know what my waking self knows? Can I dream that I am feeling ok about him leaving me and just dream about the bad things about him, so I wake up glad he's gone? |
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Use it as a dreamsign. |
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Exactly what I was going to say, tell yourself that if you're in that situation again you know it's a dream and then you can become lucid. |
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What you're going to want to start doing is reality checking every single time you: |
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Thanks so much to you and the other 2 responses. Basically I need to recognise I'm dreaming, which I will do by initially reality checking all my thoughts about my situation when I am awake. So I can eventually recognise when its a dream, and ultimately reworking the dream to allow myself to stop the dream becoming a fantasy that ultimately hurts me more, and direct it to a become a healing and empowering dream. Yes, it makes sense and I'm very grateful. |
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Awesome, glad we explained it well! Good luck, and make sure to let us know how it goes, if you need more help or if you're successful |
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What's strange is that although I am taking the preparatory steps, reality checks and preparing to remember the dreams, since I wrote the posting I haven't had the dream again, but am on the alert, so if it starts coming back I will get in touch, thanks for answering. |
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Lucid Dreams:-
MILD/DILD: 79
WILD: 13
DEILD:13
(TOTAL: 108 )
You are very kind to address the actual misery behind the dreaming problem, it's really tough, and it is a form of bereavement: the loss of a significant relationship, yet there's that horrible sting that the other person chose to remove themselves, which obviously is why my mind wants to tell me that it's not so, I sometimes just still can't take it in. But I'll bear in mind the processing thing, coz at times I want to rush away all the pain and I know I've got to feel most of it. Good luck and thanks! |
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As bereavement goes, this is the worst kind. I remember thinking it would have been easier on me had she just died... that way I could grieve for someone gone, instead of grieving for a time of my life that had been taken from me at anothers' whim quite beyond my understanding. |
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This has sold nearly 1,000,000 copies and is frequently recommended. |
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yeah what shift said, hes an expert at lucid dreaming. |
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