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      Question Surprise wedding - quite unsettling

      First, a little backstory. My boyfriend and I have been together three months, which is a huge achievement for me as I usually can't deal with relationships or commitment, and he is the same. I don't want to ever get married or even start considering it, I'm only 20, even just the thought of it terrifies me. This dream is so unlike me it's a little confusing.

      I dreamt last night that my boyfriend and I were getting married, only I didn't really know it was going to happen, he just sort of sprang it on me, just before the wedding was due to start. I wasn't really nervous in the dream, so I went to get ready. I was waiting outside the door, and almost came in the wrong time, panicked and had to dart back out again before anyone saw me.
      At the right time, I walked down the aisle in the hall, past all my friends and family and up to my boyfriend who had this huge smile on his face. The only thing that I was concerned about was that the ceremony was going to be carried out by a priest and be Christian (as I am Wiccan), but he assured me that he had sorted everything out, and it would all be fine, I would love it. The guy carrying out the ceremony started giving a sort of short biography of each of us to the congregation, and when he started to talk about my boyfriend he said all this stuff that I didn't know about him. We were holding hands and whispering to each other throughout the man talking, and I wasn't freaking out or scared at all and although I can't remember the rest of the dream, I felt an overwhelming sense of happiness that lingered even after I had woken up.

      I know there probably isn't much subtext to this, but the whole thing is so unlike me that I find it quite unsettling and confusing and can't stop thinking about it.
      Any advice or suggestions would be welcome, thank you.

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      Was it the idea of getting married that surprised you or your feeling of being quite relaxed and even very happy?

      Sounds like you enjoyed the feeling of being secure and loved. And marriage does indeed suggest that. I would say that the dream has alerted you to how much you like that feeling, although the fantasy in the dream doesn't imply that the reality of marriage to your boyfriend would work out. The husband (I suppose) in the dream is not really your boyfriend, of course, it's an idealised lover who appears in his form.
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      It was definitely the feeling of being very relaxed and even happy about it that was surprising, I don't usually last more than a few weeks before with someone I get bored, or feel trapped and have to and move on.

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      You sound like you got some serious commitment problems and I also believe that maybe your parents or other people gave up on you a long time ago. someone wasn't very committed to you when you where younger. See they way our parents loved us as a child is the way we love our spouses.

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