Thread: reoccuring dream components

Wondering how you feel about these events. Is it like you've been violated? Like you've lost something and feel sad? Like you feel powerless? Something else?

If one were to believe that dreams are a form of communication, one would want rather to learn the art instead of just having someone explain one or two communications. The best guides to learning, if there were any, would be what were once called prophets, I would imagine.

Originally Posted by Burned up

Wondering how you feel about these events. Is it like you've been violated? Like you've lost something and feel sad? Like you feel powerless? Something else?

Hi, thanks for the reply.

Yes, I definitely feel violated... even hours after I have woken up.

Sounds like a powerful feeling to experience, Cndgirl. In which case I'd be looking at how the dream symbols refer to your person, and perhaps how you may feel unsafe. If these were my dreams I'd be thinking of a car as being my freedom, my physical freedom to be more precise, in which case the car relates to my body and my power to make changes to my life. Feeling violated sounds like you're concerned that you're not in control of these things - someone else is (or could easily be).

Money may represent not just money but anything we value. Again, if this were my dream, I'd be thinking about how I might feel powerless about someone taking something from me which I want to keep. Again, this could be something physical like money, or something more conceptual like trust - i.e. someone taking us for granted.

Wonder if anything there might mean anything to you?

Hi
Pretty much new on this forum, hope it doesn't bother.
The thing I see in your reoccuring dream symbols is that it seems to turn your attention to the fact, that some(thief) aspect of yourself (kind of a sub-personality) is stealing something, which is yours. A car can often represent your psychological space. It is interesting though, that the car is not always the same. I would meditate on the thief...what asociations come to your mind, when you think of him...you can imagine that you speak to him, ask him, who he is, why he keeps doing that...thief can be kinf of your own "disowned" personality, but everything depends on what he means to you.
It seems as if dreams always choose a car which is yours/your parents...what comes to your mind, if anything important.
I am not such an expert but it seems that along with your car goes away your wallet, which seems to make you feel violated as you say, kind of powerles.

I hope I have been just of litle help.
Wish you all best.

Thank you BurnedUp & wunderkind.

Many of the things you brought up are true.

If these were my dreams I'd be thinking of a car as being my freedom, my physical freedom to be more precise, in which case the car relates to my body and my power to make changes to my life. Feeling violated sounds like you're concerned that you're not in control of these things - someone else is (or could easily be).

Money may represent not just money but anything we value. Again, if this were my dream, I'd be thinking about how I might feel powerless about someone taking something from me which I want to keep. Again, this could be something physical like money, or something more conceptual like trust - i.e. someone taking us for granted.

I am sure its related to my personal life. When I was young child I was sexually abused by my neighbour. Ever since then I have not trusted males, other than friendship. In high school I never dated, turned everyone down that was interested in me. Finally after graduation around 19 was the first time I trusted a man enough to act further than friendship. Then around 20 I had my first serious relationship which ended up being a disappointment because I found out he was cheating on me with dozen other women, yet he begged me to stay with him. The next couple relationships were ok but not perfect. Then my very last relationship was with a guy I knew for 4/5 years before we dated, we then dated for 5 years, which ended last summer. I again discovered he too was cheating on me with dozens of women. We broke up for 3 months then he apologized and asked me to give him another chance, he wanted to change, wanted to make a relationship work for once instead of running away. He never expresses his feelings so I thought he was really really serious, I ended up giving him another year just to find out he was still cheating. I ended it last summer. I just find every guy I am involved in hides secrets and cheats. I am getting older that I want to find that Mr. Right, I want to marry, I want kids, I want to move forward in life but I can't until i find this person.

I am one of those people that always helps others, and rarely get anything in return. I don't like conflict, so I am pretty easy going, etc. People say I am too nice, people take me for granted & take advantage of me. Yes, I know I need to be more assertive. I started to be assertive to friends who treated me like shit but I now sit here with no one as the handful of friends, or lack there of, are all married and have kids so they don't have time for me.

I guess this could explain the dreams.

That's some story, Cndgirl. Your childhood sounded very isolated and lacking in positive intimacy. And I guess you wonder how it is you end up with all the wrong people. My guess also is that it was a male character in your dreams that broke into your car and stole your money. (Even if you didn't see the person, your dream self will know).

Your dreams arise from the same unconscious processes that drive your waking thoughts. Which implies you believe that you could even now be violated, compromised or (ab)used. In the crazy world of being human, we tend to act out these stories and make our decisions as if we want to prove that history repeats itself. It's hard to break out of a cycle of trust and betrayal when your subconscious draws you to people (and even affects them) who ultimately betray you.

Going forward, my guess is that you'll find happiness where you least expect it, with someone you may not be naturally drawn towards. But you also need to get out of the cycle of trust and betrayal that isn't working for you just now. Maybe like you say, you need to think of yourself more. As someone recently said to me "Being assertive means you don't respect others. Being passive means you don't respect yourself." So just because others don't respect you, it doesn't mean that you shouldn't either!

As this is a dreaming forum, I wonder if you ever have dreams where you feel secure and have your needs met?