Jungian Archetypes?

[Dreamergurl37]

I have these dreams every so often about a boy I liked at church (when I was 14-17). I don't remember much about the drams except he is there, sometimes we talk, sometimes we are walking somewhere. I have been having dreams about him for almost 7 years! I am now happily married and I have no interest in him now. So it's strange... I think "he" may represent a repressed part of myself... And am hoping for some insight as I am new to interpreting my dreams I was raised in a very strict religion that eventually really didn't feel right. I eventually left when I was 17, loosing all of my friends and my family which was heartbreaking but I knew it was going to be the consequence for "leaving". This boy, who I had liked for years finally started showing interest in me right around the same time I started questioning the religion. He was very dedicated in this faith and our teachers always used him as an example of perfect husband material. I felt like I was "unworthy" I guess and also knew he would never date someone not as dedicated as he was. We never dated. Do these dreams of him reflect this part of my life? If so what could they possibly be telling me?

[Morningangel]

Can you provide one or two dreams in which the image appears? Context and associations are everything. What we have to look at is how your subconscious is presenting him to you. If he is the animus, I can usually tell that from his behavior in the dream. If he is representing a singular trait or attitude of the past, we might be able to tell that, too. For example, by the setting. The Dream is the thing.

[Superman1]

That you cannot remember the dreams maybe says it all. The whole point and meaning is what he represents to you, which you explained fully. Sometimes you talk with this part of you, sometimes you go somewhere with it. He represents: You liked him. He finally showed interest in you, after a long time, when you broke free of restriction. He was the only one who stayed with you. (I think THAT is the strongest key) An example of perfect husband material. He made you feel unworthy. He would never date. ==================== Can he represent the part of you wanting to break free? The part that stays with you, no matter what. The true faithful one, the true faith, within you. Can he, therefore, represent your resolution of religion? That must be the sorest point. That blasphemy pretending to be holy that severes friends and family. Stretching it: Is he the symbol for the perfect union in yourself, that religion could not do? That perhaps you feel unworthy of and fear never happening? Everything you said, he may represent. But I reckon you have been dreaming of him 7 years because of an issue connecting with the ideas he meant to you. But is it past or now? Or both? In all the hell that happened, he represents the one good point. Or maybe he haunts your dreams because simply a part of you naturally 7 wonders what could have been.

[Dreamergurl37]

Thank you both so much for your insight!! really helpful, and also really making me want to figure this one out, there must be something here since these dreams have been coming for so long... I wake up from them in a bit of a daze, remembering how I felt for him then feeling a bit guilty since I'm married... Morningangel you asked for a little more about the dreams, it's not much but here it is: I vaguely remember 2, the first was in that church my family went to, I think I have had a few in the church setting... I was outside of the sacrament service, it was in session already but I was alone outside the door in the hallway. I knew he was there and I wanted to see him. I know in these dreams I always go back to that age and stage of life. (my hubby isn't there and the feelings I have for this guy are innocent and ok to be having). It's that young nervous crush I-like-you-to-much-to-talk-to-you feeling. Overwhelming. I have 2 images from this dream, one in the hallway then one with him walking towards me after the service is done and people start coming out. The recent dream I had I also just remember 2 images... a group of us (possibly my youth group) walking towards a ferry (that we took on temple trips and closer to where i live now than then) but instead of being in a bus we are walking a long distance. He is there, possibly walking in front of me with the guys. Then we are in the town waiting for the ferry and we are standing beside eachother (possibly in a circle of friends but I just notice he is there.) Does that help at all? Maybe Superman1 you are right that not remembering means everything? I wake up feeling pretty strong emotion... I used to wonder if it would have been an easier road just following along with something I didn't believe. But now having the life i have I know I made the right decision so it's weird being "pulled back" to that time. Maybe your right Superman1 with the severing from family and friends and it was very sore for a long time that religion can be more important than family, I miss my family and it was then that I was fully accepted...* After one of these dreams I did wonder if it was a "what could have been" dream and looked at his FaceBook he is STILL single and I had zero attraction. Which was a relief Thank you so so much for your help and interpretations SOO appreciated!!