Romantic Dreams About A Man?

**enimsaj** · 03-03-2013 06:48 AM

Alright so I've been dreaming about a man. He's about 27 years old and I am 19. I don't personally know him and vice versa, but I know who he is because I've seen him around. His name's Jon. It started with this dream where we met in some sort of garden. He was with some teammates and I was walking on by. He stares at me in interest and looks away and we go on. Suddenly I'm at a table at my school it appears and I see a jewelry set. I'm with a female friend of mine and she says it's a gift for me from Jon. I blush at this and feel very flattered. I feel a twinge in my chest. Suddenly I'm in a cafeteria and I'm frantically looking for him. Once I find him, we lock eyes and he waves me over. I go over to him and we stare into each other's eyes. He smiles and takes my hand in his and he squeezes. I squeeze back not wanting to let go, all the while feeling my insides fluttering.

We stay like that for quite a while and then music plays and he asks me to dance, which I agree to. I feel content and right with him at that moment. Next, I'm walking down stairs and I see his friend. I ask where he is and he replies by asking 'Who? The man that loves you?' in a teasing manner. I smile and blush at that. I wake up.

A couple of nights later, I dream that Jon and I are in a pool flirting. He pushes me to a corner and kisses me and says to me that he could kiss me forever. I tell him to do so. We end up kissing, quite passionately. We end up having sex. I'm actually a virgin, so this dream was a bit weird. It was also very intense. So intense that I've felt a longing for him in my waking life. I see him and I feel different.

Over the next few weeks, I continue to dream about him. These dreams are pretty much the same. It's just us together, being happy around each other. We're always gazing into each other's eyes, not wanting to let go of each other's hands. The more I dream of him, the more my crush on him grows in my waking life.

The last dream I had of him was about four nights ago. It starts in a park. He takes me away to a secluded place, puts me against a wall and stares directly into my eyes. I feel my heart thumping against my chest and I tell him to kiss me, which he does. Upon feeling his lips, I feel a rush. He takes me to another place, pins me against the wall again and gazes into my eyes. His expression is serious, but caring. Suddenly we're at a baseball game. He's with his friends, I'm with a sibling of mine. We're sitting apart. We look at each other and smile. I blow him a kiss, which he "catches", not on his cheek, but on his lips. He blows me a kiss and I do the same. He looks at me again with a serious expression, he looks almost afraid and shy. He looks down and blushes a bit. Then we're in my kitchen eating with my entire family. I remember them giving us their blessing or something. Hearing this, Jon is ecstatic and I can see his blue eyes brighten. I wake up. Since then, I've felt Jon's presence in my dreams but I don't see him. I continue having feelings of some sort and I actually haven't been able to eat well this entire week as a result of my stomach feeling weird. I'm not sure if that has anything to do with that. I'd also like to add that, before this dream, I sort of noticed his personality. He's a nice guy with a good sense of humor. He's got ambition and confidence. He's pretty laidback. He's very intriguing.

So I was wondering what all of this could mean. If you could help me out here, I'd gladly appreciate it. Thanks in advance

**TwoCrystalCups** · 03-03-2013 08:00 AM

maybe it's time to face him in real.

**enimsaj** · 03-04-2013 12:11 AM

You think so?

**TwoCrystalCups** · 03-04-2013 01:41 AM

Well, have you been having recurring dreams of him? if yes then you need to face this person in real.

**JoannaB** · 03-04-2013 01:46 AM

Well, it depends:

I remember when I was young having crushes on boys/men where I would have died rather than actually face them. The last time I had such a crush, I think I was in college, so I was a late bloomer. There is a very real chance that he won't live up to your dreams of him, and if you are so in love with the idea of him, one very valid solution is just to enjoy the idea of him, but not approach him in real life.

You could alternatively approach him in real life, but I would be cautious with that if I were you. He for sure is not the same man as who you have been spending time in your dreams with. You would need to be careful not to make any assumptions about the real him based on your dreams. If he knew about your dreams there is a very good chance that he would run away fast, or laugh at you. If you do approach him, you would need to be very careful, and do not make yourself too vulnerable - leave yourself an easy out if he is not interested at all.

19 and 27 is a big age difference. That said, I actually for a while dated a 30 year old man when I was 19, and I too was still a virigin - as I said, late bloomer. I broke it off after we started kissing because I realized I was not ready yet, and that he and I were just in a very different place in life. However, that was my experience, and you are not me, so your experience may be very different.

**TwoCrystalCups** · 03-04-2013 02:02 AM

Originally Posted by JoannaB

Well, it depends:

I remember when I was young having crushes on boys/men where I would have died rather than actually face them. The last time I had such a crush, I think I was in college, so I was a late bloomer. There is a very real chance that he won't live up to your dreams of him, and if you are so in love with the idea of him, one very valid solution is just to enjoy the idea of him, but not approach him in real life.

You could alternatively approach him in real life, but I would be cautious with that if I were you. He for sure is not the same man as who you have been spending time in your dreams with. You would need to be careful not to make any assumptions about the real him based on your dreams. If he knew about your dreams there is a very good chance that he would run away fast, or laugh at you. If you do approach him, you would need to be very careful, and do not make yourself too vulnerable - leave yourself an easy out if he is not interested at all.

19 and 27 is a big age difference. That said, I actually for a while dated a 30 year old man when I was 19, and I too was still a virigin - as I said, late bloomer. I broke it off after we started kissing because I realized I was not ready yet, and that he and I were just in a very different place in life. However, that was my experience, and you are not me, so your experience may be very different.

I agree, i had a crush on a guy when i was around 17 or 18 and he was about 10 years older like 28. I then had dreams about him and then after a few weeks of seeing him everyday, he would look at me and smile and wink, he actually approached me and started talking, he looked very good looking to me and we spoke about each other, he was Italian.
He asked me out for a small date during his work break, and it was agreed. After days i realized he was a player and nothing else happened to us and i had to forget him.
I agree, it depends on the guy, you never know if he is a player....but doesn't hurt to try and see for yourself and be rid of your obsession once you know he isn't right for you.

**enimsaj** · 03-04-2013 04:25 AM

Thanks guys. Yeah I agree with you Joanne because the man in my dreams may not really be who he is in reality. I also agree with you hather28. I won't approach him in any way yet. I'll just see what happens, ya know? If we end up interacting one day, then we'll see. It's just so weird dreaming about him one night, then seeing him the next day. Wherever things go, that's how it will be I guess.