Dream about this girl?

[r2d2]

There is this girl, whom I used to have a crush on until two weeks back. We even used to be best friends, but I never had the courage to say what I had in my heart to her in fear of losing her. Now, as I've already lost her, I do not have anything to worry about. Things between us ended peacefully, I just stopped returning her calls, and she understood, and now its been two weeks we haven't talked once. Earlier, we used to talk everyday, or almost everyday, so this is kinda a big deal for me. Now to the topic, last night, I had a dream about her, and I guess it occurred right before I woke up, and so it was left in the middle, or I do not remember what happened in it after a point. It started with me waking up in my dream, like I actually wake up everyday, and then I checked my phone immediately, and it had two messages, one from her, and one from my new best friend. I read her message straight away, but I do not remember what it was. Most probably, it was a hi followed by some very important message, that forced me to go to her house. This is where scene two starts. I've been to her home quite a lot of times, but this time, the main entrance door was much more heavier and it was black and wooden. She went out of the door(it was the door of the colony, not her home), and then the gap between the doors got stitched with plastic tying wire. I cut all of them but one with my hand, and then the last one with a iron wire hanging just above the plastic wire. Scene 3 Then, as soon as I went out, I told her something, and then, she started kissing me on my cheek and went down till my neck, but she was trying to pretend it was platonic(It was obvious in the dream that it wasn't but the way it happened, her licking my cheeks, biting them, and licking my neck, etc.) Then she said this is your reward or good job or something that made it sound like I had done something good that she was rewarding me for. Then scene 4, I said I have amazing will power, even now, I am only talking to you because...(thats all I remember, I dont remember what I said after that) I have never been able to remember a dream so much till date, and I think this has a hidden message somewhere. Also, by looking around during my dream, I could tell that this was set in the forseeable future, since the door of her house was different(better than the current, and improvement possibly means future). And also I was a little bigger, and she was the same. Someone please help me interpret this dream. I had gotten over her, but then this dream caused me severe headache throughout the day.

[eyeoneblack]

I might have had a similar experience a few years ago. My GF had dumped me. I felt guilty. On the verge of waking one morning I heard her voice clearly: Its okay, don't worry about it. One of only a few astral voices I have heard.

[r2d2]

I might have had a similar experience a few years ago. My GF had dumped me. I felt guilty. On the verge of waking one morning I heard her voice clearly: Its okay, don't worry about it. One of only a few astral voices I have heard. Thanks for the reply. could anyone else help me as well?

[JoannaB]

I would say that you may be having some second thoughts over whether it was right to end things with this girl, or regrets? Or maybe just reminiscing since this breakup is still raw. You say you ended it peacefully by just not returning her calls - sorry, I don't think that is peaceful at all: you have no closure and she has no closure. If you did not talk it out then you may think you know what she is thinking and be wrong, and vice versa. The kissing that obviously was not platonic but was pretended to be platonic is probably a reflection of your feelings for her: you say you had a crush, but never admitted it, so you were just friends, but clearly in your wishful thinking you were not. And this dream reflects that. You may be wondering whether things would have ended differently if one of you had made the move, and in your dream it is her because your mind knows that you were unwilling to make the move, so it would have to be her initiating it if it were to happen. But since you know that you were not willing to make the move so your mind couches this in terms of some excuse pretending it is platonic whereas it is not. You are very young, right - I am assuming based on crush and all that? If yes, then all this is normal, and relationships usually do get better, and don't worry too much about it. You can decide whether or not you think it would be better for you and for her to call her to sort this out to at least have some closure so you can maybe be more reassured that there was not some sort of misunderstanding. Or you can decide that it really is better to leave it alone, and eventually you will get over it and so will she, and it just takes a bit more time than weeks.

[Scionox]

*Moved to Dream Interpretation*

[r2d2]

I would say that you may be having some second thoughts over whether it was right to end things with this girl, or regrets? Or maybe just reminiscing since this breakup is still raw. You say you ended it peacefully by just not returning her calls - sorry, I don't think that is peaceful at all: you have no closure and she has no closure. If you did not talk it out then you may think you know what she is thinking and be wrong, and vice versa. The kissing that obviously was not platonic but was pretended to be platonic is probably a reflection of your feelings for her: you say you had a crush, but never admitted it, so you were just friends, but clearly in your wishful thinking you were not. And this dream reflects that. You may be wondering whether things would have ended differently if one of you had made the move, and in your dream it is her because your mind knows that you were unwilling to make the move, so it would have to be her initiating it if it were to happen. But since you know that you were not willing to make the move so your mind couches this in terms of some excuse pretending it is platonic whereas it is not. You are very young, right - I am assuming based on crush and all that? If yes, then all this is normal, and relationships usually do get better, and don't worry too much about it. You can decide whether or not you think it would be better for you and for her to call her to sort this out to at least have some closure so you can maybe be more reassured that there was not some sort of misunderstanding. Or you can decide that it really is better to leave it alone, and eventually you will get over it and so will she, and it just takes a bit more time than weeks. Thanks for the amazing explanation.

[warriorof]

You woke up to a message from your ex-friend telling you something important. This is part wish fulfillment (I wish she'd talk to me first) and partly your subconscious creating a scenario where you can return to her for a reason. You obviously still have feelings for her which is why you'd rush to her house. The black door was heavier and larger than you remember. Black is often a color of mystery, the unknown and new beginnings. The door being heavy could mean that it would be difficult for you emotionally to "make the first move" by opening the door. In real life there is a situation where there is a barrier now, and by reconnecting to this person you will not know what happens... She might realize she has feelings for you, you might go back to being friends, or she may not want to see you again. Who knows..? The way you described the wires confuses me, but it sounds like they where holding the door back? Perhaps this means the wires prevented the door from opening. The wires are "restraints." Something is restricting your reunion, perhaps the awkwardness of not talking to her? By cutting the wires, this means you may have to confront these issues head on without lying to anyone. You subconscious is trying to solve this problem: if you two are having trouble reconnecting you must be honest - "I stopped talking to you because [insert honest reason here]." You told her something and she kissed you, but claimed it was out of friendship... Whatever you told her, your subconscious basically did a "fill in the blank." The kissing is what you want, a relationship, but claiming it was friendship could be a a facade in your relationship. You are pretending to be friends, but you want more. (life sucks like that sometimes, lol) The romantic kissing could be more wish fulfillment. When she said "this is your reward or good job" this is a subconscious way of saying "you have to make a grand stand to get the girl!" (usually a bad move btw unless shes headed to the airport and you'll never see her again.) When you said " I said I have amazing will power..." could mean you want to will yourself into a relationship with her. Or maybe you feel the need to change yourself. When you said "..., even now, I am only talking to you because..." means you are either trying to create an artificial reason to talk to her, or you want only a relationship with her; friendship may not cut it anymore. By artificial I mean you are trying to a situation where you have to talk to her "hey you left your shirt at my house" or something like that. Finally, you feel that the scene takes place some time in the near future... though not prophetic it would be technically true.. it may take time for you to build the courage and reform a new relationship. The jist of this is basically this: the problem your dream was trying to solve is "how do I talk to girl again?" You may have ended the relationship too abruptly. Now you feel the need to mend the relationship. You are trying to find a way to get in a relationship with her. You fear rejection, and she may question your motives for just leaving her. You also may feel the relationship has changed. I've been through a similar situation. I would recommend you text her/call her, and ask her to grab a coffee (if she's not seeing anyone. If she is and she has to let you go then let her go because you'll make it hard for both of you to re-salvage a relationship if her BF questions who you, etc.). If she says yes, be prepared to be honest with her. She may ask you what happened... And if she says no to coffee, then give it some time. Once in awhile an occasional "hi how are you" is enough; she might come around. If she still acts like she wants nothing to do with you, then move on.