Every night

[laurennashlleyy]

I keep dreaming about my ex boyfriend and my best friend being together and going out to do things and I'm not for sure if they're doing it in really life but they have flirted with each other a ton. Also in the dream I get super mad about it. One time I started crying. I dream about it every night sometimes twice a day.

[JoannaB]

You're jealous. In a way it is normal because you still have complex feelings for you ex. However, you have to let go, because you no longer get to decide who he goes out with or not - once he is an ex, you don't have a rightful claim any more. But of course your dreaming mind is not rational about that, and so the emotion of jealousy can rage free in dreams. On the other hand the best friend is still your best friend, right? If I were you, I would talk to your best friend about this: it is something that is on your mind, and part of the job of a best friend is to listen. Make sure not to accuse but rather to say something like that you know this is just a dream and irrational and based on emotion of jealousy, but you can't help it and those dreams are bothering you. I bet your friend will reassure you, and if not, well at least you will know. In my experience recurring dreams are much more likely to keep recurring when something is unknown, like our mind is working on an unsolved problem, a question that is unanswered.

[warriorof]

I agree with JoannaB, you are having reoccurring dreams because there are still some lose ends in your issues that you feel you need closure to. It is very difficult when our friends get with our ex's, but you just have to get on with life. Try practicing a grateful attitude, which sounds hard when you feel upset; but it works. The human brain cannot be both resentful and grateful at the same time, so whenever you start to feel upset try thinking of things your grateful for. Try to send them positive thoughts wishing the best for them. Spend more time with your friends and keep busy. Exercises has also helped me a lot, too. It's all part of our growth process to make us better people.