apartments, plants , and other stuff, really weird

[cherrypie]

Well , I dreamed of the same man again ... of course he's on my mind all the time , maybe that's why. So the first dream I had last night was about us having fun together , I can't really remember I guess we were just hanging out. The next thing I know I was upstairs in my old room and he sneaked up on me and hid behind my big curtains , he whispered pssst and then called out my name , I laughed because he was stupid ( he always made me laugh by the way, that's why I loved him so much, he made me laugh even when I was sad the only person in my life that could make me laugh when I was angry or sad ). Anyway , he had this HUGE pizza with him and I said , can I get a piece ,he said no "I`m hungry ", I said not even a slice , he said ok, you can get a slice, he had a black coat on with a few orange stripes and walked down the stairs. I wonder what that means. Second dream I had was about him moving to a new apartment that he rented from a friend, he had two rooms and the weird part of it all is that his friend was living in a one room apartment with his newborn baby. Now after me and him were cuddling in bed upstairs we had a conversation , for some reason an elderly lady stepped in and that was his friends girlfriend. The lady was also a psychic ( I've been asking a few people to read tarot cards for me in real life to try and find the answers that he won't give me, it's crazy and I feel like I`M obsessing over this ) and she said I really want to read your relationship with him, but unfortunately it''ll be years before you see each other again she said , meaning I will not be the woman he will end up with. I told him why don't you care for me anymore, he said " you made sure of that yourself ". he said I was so in love with you that year , you couldn't imagine. I sat there shocked and then the lady cut some plants up and threw these on my belly , these weird shocks went trough my body as pieces of the plants fell on me and it was so weird because the three of us were in the same room. His last words in the dream were "you approved your mother " ... I have NO idea what he means. I hope someone can help me with these dreams.

[JoannaB]

"You approve your mother." I once heard that we tend to live our lives either being like our parents more than we are willing to admit, or trying hard to not be like them perhaps more than possible or more than desired. Which one is it in your case? Do you think you are like your mother or completely unlike her? And are you right in your assessment of that? When other people who know your mother and you, think about the two of you, would they think "she is just like her mother" or "how can she be her daughter, they are so different." (For myself, I have begin to suspect that I spend so much time focusing on the differences between my mother and me, that I fail to admit the similarities.) How is your mother in relationships to other people, especially men? Do you approve? Should you approve? Do you use your mother's relationships as a role model for yours, fall into similar traps, or do you think that you have gone a different way too much? If your mother is alive, and if you are willing to listen to her advice, have you told her about this man, and if not would you be willing to, to get her take on the situation? If she is not alive or the last person you would wish to discuss this with in real life, consider incubating a dream (plan a dream with strong intensions) in which you discuss this with your mother.

[cherrypie]

I think it has something to do with my mother and my father always cheating on her. I've never wanted to be like her in that way, she tolerated him cheating for years, she just learned to live with it. The man I love now has a girlfriend and I can't be the other woman, I simply don't want to. In real life he has told me before that he wanted to be with me and at that time he was single, I didn't want to be with him. He also told me I would be a great woman for him but I was acting fickle all the time so he changed his mind because I wasn't reliable and didn't know what I wanted. My mother told me to stay friends with this man, because it's wrong to have an intimate relationship with a man that has a girlriend and that I didn't want to end up like her. Do you see what the rest of the dream means ?

[JoannaB]

He had a huge pizza. He had a lot to share, enough to sate both of you. You wanted a part of what he had to offer. At first he did not want to share because he was hungry: he was worried that if he shared with you, his hunger would not get satisfied. You pointed out that you did not need much. He was willing to share after all. From your description of him, a man who made you laugh even when you were angry or sad, it sounds like he was a sharing man: he shared a slice of that with you. But are you willing to be satisfied with the slice you got? He went downstairs, left your presence. What you are left with, is a slice of pizza, which is enough to ensure that you are not hungry, if you readjust your thoughts to adapt them to being satisfied with the slice you got. Why was he in your dream reluctant to share the pizza before? Perhaps he knew that you did not really want just a slice, that a slice of him would not satisfy you, and yet that is all he could offer you because he was hungry, and sharing with you would not have satisfied his hunger, you think (remember this dream is from your perspective, it is your dream, so even his motivations and his actions are your interpretation of his motivations and actions). Now that he is gone, you want more pizza, but you yourself had limited yourself to only one slice: he gave you what you said you wanted, but only now do you realize that you wanted more.