Few questions bout a dream last nite, pretty confused please help.

**Confusedguy82** · 09-07-2013 07:23 AM

I've got at long question about a dream I had last nite. I dreamed that I had been seeing a psychologist and I was undergoing hypnotherapy and as a result it came to be known that my life up until this point, every person I'd ever met, both family and freinds, as well as everything I'd ever done nad everywhere I'd ever been, was a creation and nothing more than false memories. The reason that my mind had apperently done this was because I had a child hood friend who i grew up with and I did everything with, basically not just a friend but a soul mate, and the pair of us were beaten up by a gang of thugs, him until I was dead and me until I almost died but managed to survive, and I had created another reality to escape the pain and guilt I felt about surviving when he didn't. To add to the pain that this revelation had bought back, I had the added pain of knowing that a particular friend of mine who is a member of the fairer sex never even existed. This suprises me bacuase out of all the people I've met in my years, it was her that I grieved the loss of most, not my Mother who I belive is hands down the most important human being in my life or my three nieces. I've know this girl for about five months now, and even though she isn't intersted in me romantically like I am intersted in her, we still have a very close friendship and are quite affectionate torawads each other and often tell each other that we love one another. Another point I think worth mentioning is that in the dream the psychologist turned out being another of her guy friend of hers who I only recently just met. My questions abouth the dream are as folows: I lost my baby sister when I was 2yo to SIDS, could the friend that I lost in my dream repesent her, and if so the the heck does it have with my lady friend? Is the fact that I lamented the loss of her out everone of ever known a sign that I'm becoming co dependent or obssessed with her or something? And finally, do I feel threatened by her other guy firend on subconcious level, even though I don't feel threatened by him conciously and actually quite like the guy and could see the pair of us becoming friends too down the track, beacsue I think he's going to take her away from me like the shrink did in the dream?

**JoannaB** · 09-07-2013 12:52 PM

I think that if you in waking life after you had this dream analyzed your feelings and you do not feel threatened by the male friend of your romantic interest, then I would trust your waking assessment of your own feelings and not base a sense of threat on one dream. In dreams our subconscious often uses other dream characters for different reasons such as because of a trait they represent, because something in the dream reminds you of something about them. Also often other dream characters stand in for a part of you, so the other guy in your dream may actually be a representation of part of you that is like that other guy for example. I hope I am not making this more confusing rather than less confusing, anyway: dreams are often not literal, and thus if the guy in the dream is a threat to your romantic interest, if you do not share this sense of threat upon waking, this part was likely not literal.

Yes, I do think that your sister's death from SIDS is related. Here is one way this could work: you are romantically interested in your friend, perhaps on some level so interested that maybe you are starting to think about the possibility of someday building a family with her, having kids. That would bring out the fear of your child dying of SIDS, which could bring about this dream.

There may be other interpretations of course, and please disregard mine if it does not sound right. I also did not go into the dream details, and I hope someone still will, I just addressed a few points as hopefully a starting point. Best!

**Superman1** · 09-10-2013 04:55 PM

No, it is not your sis, for you grew up with this person in the dream. It is your soul. Truly the closest one to you.
So, you have come to realise, without that, everything seems fake.

Were you perhaps beaten up when young, or perhaps you felt life beat you up then? Your soul 'mate' was killed, and so it nearly killed you.
So you created another reality, to escape the pain and guilt from not being youself, your real self.

Your lady friend has a place your mother can't fill in the same way, which is why she took prededence I think. She may represent a friend, or potential partner, which can become more central to your future life.
So you grieved the loss of your outer soul mate, if you like, really the second most important person in most peoples' lives, at least later on.

So the psychologist is a part of you that relates to her, symbolized by the guy she knows, so you can understand yourself better, and therefore who you relate to.
But maybe this was a fleeing moment of revelation, that perhaps is not so cut and dried. Maybe you were too harsh on yourself. It's impossible not to be you to a degree. So it could have been a time of anger or where falseness seem to take the stage.

**Sover** · 09-10-2013 10:27 PM

It doesn't seem to me that the psychologist is a threat to you. He is trying to help you see the truth even how painful it is. Hypnosis is a form suggestion. Mayby somehow this guy made you feel a deep sense of loss. What yoo feel you have lost is the one you like. So mayby he's not a threat to you, but made you realise something.

Mayby the dream is telling you just that memories are just memories. You can not have what has been. If whe feel that we have lost someone it may not be that we can not meet that person again. But people change and so do we. Or mayby you do not feel as connected to others as you would like to, and in that sense feel that you have lost touch with others or yourself.