Multiple Dreams about my deceased dad?

**Clyde** · 09-17-2013 04:44 PM

These are dreams that I've had in the past since my dad was killed. (shot and killed by police, he was innocent.). As you can see it was from 11/12, around that time. He died on 10/17/12. Anyways I know it's been a while but can you tell me what these dreams are and if it means anything how some of them may be linked together? Thanks!

11/12, 3:10pm
Clyde Hammett
Dream #1: it was a week ago. My dad came to me in a dream he was his younger and more healthy self. Skinny with no gray hair. He got me and some other people and led me by the hand to an elevator. When we got inside the elevator he pushed a button and we started goin up. It was like we were going up forever or to Heaven because it seemed like we were going up for thousands of floors then I got woke up.

11/12, 3:12pm
Clyde Hammett
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Dream #2
In my dream, there were 2 dreams. The first one was my daddy getting shot... And I was all sad. But then It transferred to a new dream. My dad was loading someone's car up to tow it. And I had a gun. And I showed my dad the gun and I said this is to protect you. He said put the gun away and I said again its to Protect you dad! Then all of the sudden I hear a gunshot in the distance and I'm standing right by my dad it hits him and kills him. 2 separate dreams of him getting shot right in front of me just like how it happened in real life but different scenarios

11/12, 3:13pm
Clyde Hammett
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Dream 3
Then the last dream basically is the preacher aka my old baseball coach that did the service at the funeral.. Only thing that happened in that dream was I looked over and seen him laying dead in a casket I dunno why or anything All I focused on was him laying there nothing else then I woke up

Dream 4.
Last night my dream was my dad got shot again and went through all kind of suffering and pain but didnt die. Like his legs got cut off.. But he wouldn't die. He got shot and everything but survived in my dream
November 15, 2012

**JoannaB** · 09-17-2013 05:21 PM

Clyde, I am very sorry for your loss. I must admit that I don't think I really can understand what it is like to lose one's father like that, but I can imagine and I can tell from your post that it must be very traumatic of course. I think these dreams were your mind's way of trying to cope, realizing that it was broken with grief and trauma, and trying to problem solve in dreams.

The dream about going up in the elevator was a dream of hope and/or faith: a dream of you hoping and/or believing that he is better now (young and healthy) and going to heaven. It is a dream of an afterlife for your dad and being reunited with your dad in the afterlife someday. The elevator was just an image your dream used to convey that - I once had a dream about judgement day that involved my life being shown to me on a VCR and paused whenever I sinned to give me time to repent. I think my VCR dream and your elevator dream are alike.

The dreams of your dad being shot in different ways and you having a gun to protect him or the dream of him being just severely injured but not killed, I think all those dreams are your mind running through different what-if-scenarios, trying to find a solution in which your dad did not die. It's the denial part of grief as well as not wanting to accept the helplessness of your situation - wanting a more active part as a protector, doing something about it, something more than grieving. Your brain needed to problem solve this grief because sitting around helpless with no way to alter the outcome was traumatizing your mind.

The viewing of the casket dream may be about your facing the fact that your dad is dead, by seeing him dead. But your mind still was rebelling against it at this point, and so you then dreamed that he was just injured and did not die.

How are you now? I wish you peace.

**Superman1** · 10-05-2013 06:54 AM

November 2012, about a month after father's death:

Dream #1: WANTING TO RISE ABOVE IT
You thought of your dad when healthy, or maybe the good ol' days.
I think you wanted this idea to elevate you and other parts of you. It's understandable you wanted to keep going up and up endlessley, because you must have been going down, down endlessly. But maybe also because your father seemed now that far away above you.

Dream #2: YOUR MOTIVATION SHOT
Your dad's death inevitably comprimised your movement or motivation in life, or especially the part that was to do with him, making you feel you needed to be towed or pulled along, I think.
This put you on the defensive. You were wounded. Maybe you felt the need to protect or defend yourself against what was taken from you, but your thought of dad knew it didn't need it. It was a one-off really.
So you sort of replayed losing him again, and again, in different areas of your life, which would be normal I suspect.

Dream#3: SUPPORT IN YOU GOES DOWN
Now your next support in you represented by the next thing to a father, so a figure figure, died in you, toppled over like a domino.
Your Spiritual side or values perhaps, and the coaching you received or what you have learnt in life, can easily have been knocked out, or seem to, by this tragedy.

Dream #4: YOU CAN PROBABLY NEVER FULLY GET OVER IT
You thought about his death, and you went through all kinds of suffering and pain, but you cannot ever really lose or forget your dad. His memory can never really die. His movement through this life was cut off. But he won't die to you, and survives in your mind.
Of course I could say, similar to what Joanna said about the first dream, this probably parallels the after-life well.
I guess the title I put to this dream, if you accept that, can actually make it a bit easier, because you know what to expect. You accept it. In a sense what you accept defies it.
I hate saying you probably never will get over it and I heard it from Dr. Phil, so the chances are it's real but everything is determined by what you choose and accept.