Originally Posted by
SeaDragonLife
I dream about my ex boyfriend fairly often. I was in a similar situation, though we didn't exchange virginities persay, he was my first sexual partner, my first boyfriend, and we dated for 3 years and just in general had a terrible relationship, up to and including the messy breakup. He started dating somebody about 10 or so days right after we broke up, and I was crushed. Heartbroken. This was almost 3 years ago and I still dream about him, though it isn't in a romantic sense, more that I have a constant feeling of dread and avoidance. I also have dependency issues, and those are difficult to work through, but they make relationships kinda difficult, especially when you suddenly have to deal with not having it.
I dont have much experience in dream interpretation, but I will tell you that 9 months is not long enough to get over a very deep relationship, and you'll likely have it rough for a while. But you can't blame yourself for this dream, and you're not losing progress at all for it, trust me. You're coming to terms with it, and this is just part of that process. The dream is related to the time you spent thinking about her, and the self-blaming you were doing. If you feel you did something wrong, honestly and not just blaming yourself out of habit or low-confidence, then you just have to accept that as part of your past and learn from it. But if you're blaming yourself, and you honestly feel you were in the right, then you need to accept that you really feel you did the right thing, then let it go.
You will be able to move on in time. I would recommend you try to figure out how to stop seeing her so often, if you can. That will help, though you don't have to do that to heal, it makes it easier, at least from my experience. I'll repeat that dreams like this are perfectly normal, and you should expect to see her in your dreams again. If you become Lucid, maybe try to talk to her or work things out in some beautiful dream-like way. Either way, give yourself more time. Change never comes easy, and healing is best done slowly. You don't have to rush yourself, you have plenty of time.
Good luck.
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