Pregnancy dream

[dwoollies]

hi so my name is daisy, im 18, currently working an office job in the summer before going to art school. i live with my mum and dad. i had this dream last night that i couldnt quite understand. i was pregnant with twins, and i was on a kind of business trip. i only remember getting on the plane, on the way there and the way back. i remember that most people were looking at me with distaste because i was clearly heavily pregnant and also clearly in my teens. but on each of the flights there was a woman- a different woman both times- who would scream at me as soon as i sat down, telling me that my children were going to be evil, that they were the spawn of satan- theyd scream until the cabin crew came and escorted them away. i remember being really upset in my dream! to the extent that i nearly considered trying to get rid of the twin babies (which would be unlike me). when i got home, i told my mum how i felt and she tried to cheer me up by showing me lots of sonogram pictures of the babies feets and hands and heads- which did really cheer me up! (me and my mum are quite close in real life) i laid in my mums bed and looked at the pictures and i remember feeling very very happy! (i also recall in the dream i wasnt aware of who the father was, i couldnt recall having had intercourse with a guy or anything!) then i had to go to work. i worked as the secretary to a head master of a school- but he was very very cruel. he treated the students like sweatshop workers and there was no real teaching! i really didnt like him- but he didnt resemble anyone from my real life (no one in this dream apart from my mum was anyone i recognised). anyway, the kids were protesting, saying that they wanted to learn, not just do the horrible work (i think it was making clothes) they wanted to learn about maths and english and everything. i stood up and agreed, shouting at the head master and telling him how wrong it was, how i wouldnt let my not-yet-born kids go to a school like that. he didnt listen to any of us- in his office he forgave me but told me never to challenge him again. he left me in the office- it was really horrible with dark wood panels- and told me to do his filing. but when he left instead i took all of his paperwork, brought it out to the paved garden outside the school (which was really just my own garden) doused it with some flamable liquid and dropped a lighter onto it- setting it all on fire! (i dont know if its relevant but i am a smoker in real life- also, there was a red headed guy helping me, but i didnt recognise him, and he was gone once the fire was lit)- i was taking a picture of the burning paper on my phone and accidentally sent it to the head master- i realised i would be in trouble. then i was back in his office and he was telling me off- i remember he was pudgy, in a bad suit, with balding black hair- telling me that i should be greatful he gave me a job- and then he told me he was in love with me and that was the only reason he had hired me. he said he could forgive me as long as i entered into a relationship with him and never questioned him again. i said no (he was also wayyyy older than me) that i didnt have feelings for him. he kept protesting and saying that i must love him- he showed me, i dont know how, but images of how our life could be, how we would live happily, and i still said no. he said i needed him to support me because i was a teenage mother- and i said he was so awful to the children in the school i couldnt let him near my children- he finally realised i wasnt going to say yes- and then the dream ended! i know this is really quite convoluted, most of my dreams are and i remember them in a lot of detail. i understand if no ones sure about this but just wanted to check- for some reason it really shook me. about me in real life- im nowhere near to being a teen mom, but i do want kids eventually. thats all i can think of thats relevant! feel free to ask any qs!

[JoannaB]

How are your career prospects and job or studies? I am thinking that this dream is more likely about work and such than about actual pregnancy. Often in dreams preganancy is about new project and new beginnings and potentials, and often not actually about real pregnancy. In your dream at the beginning you were going on a business trip and later there is the job also, so I am thinking it may be about work. Also there is the aspect of the kids not learning enough, could be about life lessons for example about feeling inadequately prepared or something like that. The relationship request from the head master could be in general about relationships and if you are not in one now, whether it would be a bad idea to be in one and why or why not. There is the theme of good and evil running through this dream, a strong sense of morality being crucial to it all - in career, life lessons, relationship, whatever. I am guessing that based on your age you are probably in a transition phase, and your mind is mulling over what you should or would like to do, who you want to become, and in some ways you have already formed some strong views and thus dream is perhaps working on this puzzle of your life and your self, piecing it together and strongly reacting to the potentials and ideas there. Of course, I may be wrong, and if this does not sound right to you, please ignore.

[Athanor]

As JoannaB says, you’re in an important period of transition what with starting art school in the fall and perhaps wanting to make this your career. At such times, dreams often are like a snapshot of the dreamer’s situation, pointing out certain things that will help during the overall transition and others that might get in the way if not seen more consciously. So your “business” right now (the business trip) is probably to navigate (flying on a plane) this important period of your life. Symbolically, the image of a plane points to the area of thinking, opinions and the intellect. This is based on the analogy that a plane moves high up through the air and the blue sky which usually are related to the “airy regions” of thinking as opposed to the area of emotions, values and relationships that you probably feel more comfortable with. The planes you’re in are also “collective” places as opposed to, for example, driving your own car which is “individual”. So this fact could also be emphasizing the idea that you’re moving into the outer world even more fully at this time and will have to meet various more demanding collective standards, e.g. the standards set by your art school. Though of course I don’t know anything about the one you’ll be attending, some art schools tend to be extremely competitive and perhaps your dream is hinting that any setbacks and challenges etc. might set off interior “screaming matches” where you might be in danger of coming to doubt your talents and potentials too much (e.g. being pregnant with twins but you start doubting whether you should carry them to term). Your caring mum in the dream partly symbolizes your own deep-seated feminine nature which knows what’s right for you and which will support you if you trust your instinctive feelings when any doubts come along as you move forward through art school for example. The dream then apparently shows that standing up for yourself internally and perhaps even externally won’t always be very easy (the cruel headmaster gets very angry with you etc.) One way to succeed in fighting through to the end appears to be learning to stand up for yourself when required with strong emotional responses that might even involve an occasional fierce, spontaneous use of anger for instance (e.g. setting fire to the professor’s dry intellectual notes) though you may currently not be used to doing this at all. The dream might also be hinting that there could still tend to be a kind of nattering away inside yourself by way of various dry opinions about “what everybody else feels is the right thing to do” etc. (the old professor declares his love for you) instead of sticking enough with your own unique growth as a person (the twins). If anything in this way of looking at your dream seems to fit your personal situation, you might like to brush up on your assertiveness skills with a book like “Asserting Yourself” by Bower and Bower. Anyway, without knowing anything much about you, this way of looking at the dream might not fit your current circumstances very well, but I hope these ideas can be helpful in some way. Please feel free to make any comments or to ask any questions you might like to about this particular way of looking at your dream.

[dwoollies]

hi guys! these both seem very accurate actually! im only a little way from enrolling in my new college- and i have exam results coming out in the next month- so career and study paths are definitely playing on my mind! this is actually really helpful- especially when you wrote about nattering vs uniqueness, Athanor- i think the nattering could be that i shouldnt be going to art school (a lot of teachers/family members have thought i should do something more academic) versus the twins being art school itself- and maybe because a pregnancy is where you create life they represent creativity? or a creative project that i want to pursue in future? after reading your replies, i definitely think this dream is about me standing my ground when it comes to my creative pursuits! i think the headmaster might represent both a more academic and less creative path, but also the idea of being tied down? because he offers a relationship, but also because i work for him, and he is telling me what i must and must not do, and how to behave. so i think its probably about avoiding restriction and not caring what people think, and pursuing my own wants and doing what i think is right even if other people disapprove- and asserting myself, definitely, thank you for the book recommendation Athanor, i will check it out thanks to you both!