Boyfriend traveled to the future to be with his future gf

**CrystalDiamond** · 05-30-2016 07:38 PM

To start of, I want to mention that the people in my dreams never have a face. It's always blurred, but I know exactly who they are. This dream was very vivid as the main people involved had a very clear face. I would be able to instantly recognize them if I saw them in real life. I woke up in my dream and then went back to sleep in my dream. I'm so confused as to what reality is anymore. I'll try to remember as much as possible, but the only thing that won't leave my mind is the main event that happened in the dream.

Today is memorial day, so I have a day off. In my dream, I told my family I don't have work but need to get to class. I'm working on my Bachelors online, so it doesn't even make sense that I would need to go on campus. Right before I left the house, for some reason I was helping my boyfriend of 5 years to do a magic spell in the bathroom. It was a spell to travel to the future. I helped him, left the bathroom to gather my belongings, and when I went back into the bathroom, he was already gone. So now I'm on campus, but it felt like my high school campus instead. In the middle of the day, he texted me saying his phone is already at 5%. To which I replied saying, didn't you bring your charger with you? It felt like I woke up and read that text and replied in real life. But I checked my phone and that never happened. In the dream, I haven't heard from him since I replied. I don't remember what happened after that exactly. But now I'm driving and it's still the middle of the day as it was really sunny outside. I parked outside a house for some reason and waited. As I was waiting, I was thinking about what I should make for tomorrow's work lunch. The neighbor came home and was suspicious of me and kept driving back and forth, trying to see what I was up to. He gave up eventually and just went inside his house. Moments later, a bunch of teens were coming my way (they looked like high school kids and school just ended? They all had backpacks on them) and one of them was going inside the house I parked in front of. It was a girl, and I felt she's the one I needed to talk to. I yelled out excuse me and she turned around. As I said in the beginning of my post, people in my dreams always have a blurred face, but this girl's face was clear as day. I could even see that she has a tongue piercing. I asked her what is her relation with... I didn't even mention a name, and she said oh you'll see soon enough. Something clicked inside my mind, and I said wait, is he going to the future to see the future you? And my eyes started to water and she had an annoyed face. She said look don't do this here, don't start crying. I toughen up and said I'm not going to cry, but I want to know if that is the case. Before she could say anything, a white ice cream looking truck ran over a teen. She started screaming and crying because I think it was one of her friends, and it made me feel good. I started laughing hysterically. Somehow, 4 teens got in my car and they all started screaming and laughing loudly as if to mock me. Everything just got a lot louder, and I just kept honking to get everyone to go away. As I was trying to drive off, a woman was determined to block my way. She has super speed and every time I tried to swerve to dodge her, she would appear before me again. This is only down the street from that girl's house, but it looked like the street near my elementary school in real life. That girl's house is way too big and fancy to be there, but the street resembled the street I used to walk home from. I guess I should maybe mention my boyfriend currently lives in the neighborhood across the main street from my elementary school. Back to the dream, I couldn't avoid the woman, so I drove across some empty event and drove over all the tents and chairs. I figured at least the objects would get her away from me and I wouldn't hit her. I drove back home and texted my boyfriend, asking him when he will return back to the present. He never responded. And I think that's the end.

I know I did wake up in the middle of the night because I wake up easily and he texted me saying he lost his id at the bar. It was around 3 in the morning and I was too confused between dreams and reality, so I didn't even respond. When I woke up again, it was around 4. I texted him telling him I had a nightmare, but he probably already called it a night by then. That girl looked very familiar and I had a previous dream where I saw her facebook profile picture. She was friends with him on there, but when I checked in real life, she's not there. It's scaring me because she's the only one who has such a clear face and it won't leave my mind. The logic of what I got from my dream is that he traveled to the future because they are dating in the future. In the future, she's obviously out of high school and became an adult. He traveled to the future to be with her more, thus leaving me behind.

I'm feeling really insecure and scared. The main thing is, again, how visible her face was compared to everyone else. My boyfriend and I only see each other once a week now since he started working full time. I work on the weekend part time, so I can't even spend time with him at night. He goes to bars with his friend who is emotionally broken from recent events (babymama drama), and sometimes comes over drunk. I don't like it because I'm afraid of what might do when he's drunk. He says he's in control when he drinks, but everyone says that! He says he just wants me to be happy and not to worry about such a trivial matter. He gets really cuddly and touchy feely when he's drunk. He says he only gets like that with me and he wants no one else but me. However, I feel like people can't think straight when they drink. If he can get like that with me, I feel he could be like that with another girl. I'm normally not this insecure, but adding the dream made it worse. Any insight?

**Athanor** · 05-31-2016 08:54 PM

This is a complicated dream that would need a lot of time and discussion to work out, but here are a few general ideas about its possible meaning which hopefully can be helpful in some way.

For example, blurry faces in dreams usually symbolize that the dreamer is unclear about various aspects of her own personality and therefore, probably about the true motives etc. of some other people in her life.

The fact that you “know exactly who they are” in your dreams even though you can’t see their faces is possibly the dreams’ way of pointing out that you don’t REALLY know how certain of your own ideas, impulses and opinions etc. affect your everyday decision-making, including judging correctly about other important people in your life such as your boyfriend.

This idea of a sometimes faulty ability to uncover the genuine nature of yourself and others comes up in the idea that you’re “on your day off”, i.e. not really “there” about working at finding out what might be going on in this area of your life.

In fact, you apparently have to make a point of learning more, e.g. you have to go to the college campus.

Before leaving, you help your boyfriend in the bathroom with a magic spell to go into the future.

Generally speaking, the image of a male in the dreams of a female symbolizes such things as her way of handling thinking, reflection, the intellect, opinions vs. logical decision making and how to be assertive etc.

Since you probably try to mostly use your emotions and values when making decisions (e.g. you tear up later in the dream when realizing that your boyfriend has apparently decided to meet up with the girl in the future), your ability to put feelings aside and to rationally look at a situation (e.g. your boyfriend getting drunk in real life) is probably not very strong. This is very understandable in a young person.

So the dream is probably trying to shock you into seeing this fact by having your boyfriend use an “irrational” way (e.g. magic) to do something impossible (e.g. to go into the future).

Your boyfriend disappears, meaning that this part of you related to thinking and decision-making etc. is often unconscious and does its own thing without you being aware of this fact.

Similarly, he calls to say that his phone battery is already down to 5% which probably means that any “contact” you have with this inner part of yourself “comes and goes” and is basically unreliable in important matters.

This part of yourself might be unconsciously projected onto your boyfriend who might have a similar way of acting, forming part of why you’re attracted to him.

The idea of waking up in your dream and then falling back to sleep etc. is probably a way in which the dream is trying to emphasize that you’re probably “too asleep” and “unaware” of what’s going on in this connection.

Also, there’s a kind of movement which takes place from being on a college campus to an area related to high school and then to elementary school which is possibly trying to underline that you might be overly unmindful of how you act in ways that are reminiscent of these various earlier periods in your life.

On a sunny day, you park in front of what turns out to be the house of the unknown teenage girl you’re suspicious of being linked to your boyfriend. When she arrives, her face is extremely clear and you have a conversation which confirms she and your boyfriend are an item.

The light of the sunny day, the clear face of the girl and the conversation are probably meant to represent the need to become totally conscious and aware of this inner part of yourself who is still a “teenager”.

The suspicious neighbor who kept checking up on what you were doing possibly represents another part of you that could discourage you from “finding out” what’s really going on by thinking about it etc.

The girl and yourself in the end unfortunately act in a kind of similar selfish way, perhaps hinting that a still “teen-like” level of values could sometimes interfere with making good decisions.

Apparently, there could be a danger that this and various other teenage-level values and impulses etc. could tend to get out of control too much (e.g. the wild teens in your car, the woman with the super-speed etc.).

Also, it looks like you might have too a strong need for “status” (e.g. the girl’s big house in an inappropriate neighborhood), possibly involving having a boyfriend as part of an expression of success or “rank” among your friends.

This isn’t unusual for a young person but the dream might be showing how such an unconscious belief and feeling might cloud your judgment about your boyfriend who is often drunk.

You don’t specifically mention whether being drunk has been a part of your five year relationship or whether it’s appeared mostly after his getting a full-time job.

Either way, if it’s been going on for a while or only after getting the job, it can point to an underlying serious inability to handle stress.

Unfortunately, stress is a very major problem for almost everyone in today’s overall employment/unemployment state of affairs and I’m not saying your boyfriend should a Superman, but only that the dream might be trying to help with this issue because it does seem to upset you a lot.

For example, something in your early life might have affected you in such a way that you are attracted to someone like your boyfriend (e.g. “elementary school”, boyfriend lives near this area in real life), part of whose personality can be very upsetting.

Trying to “dodge” any such issue if it exists (e.g. trying to get away from the woman by crashing through and destroying the event tents etc.) probably won’t work (you text your boyfriend asking when he will return from the future but he doesn’t respond).

The problem is that you could end up always feeling insecure and afraid unless you get a hold of being able to think things through coolly and being aware of parts of yourself which might get in the way of doing this.

It’s possible from what the dream’s also saying that your boyfriend could unfortunately go behind your back and find another girl. It’s also possible that he could be more “loyal” in the end to some very strong interest that he has for sports, work or anything else, being more “in love” with it than in love with you.

It looks like you don’t drink or if so, only very little. Just as an observation, it could be very disruptive to your emotional health if this pattern of getting drunk becomes worse, even if there are some periods when it stops because the signs might be there of an underlying potential addiction.

Anyway, without knowing anything much about you or your boyfriend, this way of looking at your upsetting dream might not fit your personal circumstances very well, but I hope these ideas can be helpful in some way.

Please feel free to ask any questions or to make any comments about this particular way of looking at your dream.

**ThreeRainbows** · 06-01-2016 12:07 AM

One thing that stands out to me in this dream is the theme of being abandoned. You might want to do a google search for abandonment fears and see if you think it applies to your life (it's a pretty common thing; I know I've struggled with it to a degree. Some sites might scare you with extreme versions, though). Anyways, good luck.