Hi there. There are different kinds of dreams and I think the ones you mention are healing dreams. From what you say, you are/have been in love with a man who is unattainable. This doesn't make your love any less real or the fact that you can't be with him any less painful, so you are going through a type of, very real and very painful, grief. Remembering that everything in a dream represents you, or a part of you, in this dream, there are two yous, one at either end of the bridge - one that is in love with this man (represented by him) and one who is no longer in love with him so intensely and is able to move on (represented by you at the other end of the bridge). A "bridge" joins two different places, in this dream "suffering you attached to a man you can't have" and "free you able to walk away to a new place".
You say "I have tried to forget this beloved man because it will be best". . . but something is stopping you moving on. . . and that is represented in the dream by "his wife". I am not sure whether this is his waking life wife or someone you made up in the dream but either way I think she represents the same thing, i.e. the reason you can't "walk on" from this place of being in unrequited and hopeless love, the thing that is "standing in your way".
The central question in this dream, the one the dream is asking you to ask of yourself is: what/who is standing in the way of my moving on with my life free of the pain of unattainable love? Why are you in love with someone you can't have? Sometimes we unconsciously deliberately pour all our love into someone we can't have because in some ways it is easier than dealing with love in real life. You might want to have a look at your relationship with your mother (sometimes women in dreams represent our relationships with our mothers). It is hard to pinpoint it exactly without knowing anything more about you but, for instance, this scene might come up in a dream when the dreamer had a mother who "screamed" at them, or a mother who blamed their child/ren for not being able to live the life she wanted, or a mother who made their child feel unlovable (someone who feels unlovable may find someone to love who can't love them back so they never have to face a personal rejection). Please note: I am not saying the woman in the dream is your mother but could represent your relationship with your mother. If you have always had a strong, loving relationship with your mother, the woman in the dream might represent a part of you that feels unworthy or fears rejection - again, when we love someone unattainable it means we are acknowledging that that person is out of our league (we are not worthy) and doesn't know us (so we can't be rejected in reality). Do you sometimes think things like "noone could ever love me" "I'm unlovable"?
The other reason you may be in love with this unattainable man rather than someone you can have a real relationship with is if he is substituting for your father. What is/was your relationship with your father like? Was his love unattainable? Did you feel your mother kept you and your father apart?
The second dream about the man at the children's playground also suggests your love for this man and the dreams about him might have something to do with your feelings about your father, and perhaps something stemming from your own childhood. When he looks into your eyes deeply, he is trying to tell you something, remind you of something, asking you to "look" at something. Parks, in dreams, being green represent the heart chakra, heart, emotions etc. If you read what you said about your dream: you are going to the park (to your heart and emotions) but you are "stopped" by the man among the children. This sounds like it might refer to your emotional development being stopped by something which happened when you were a child - this could be, for instance, the loss of your father through death or divorce or something like that.
In a nutshell, I think your dreams are using the man you love as a symbol to try and help you heal something in your waking life which is "stopping" you, making you unable to "walk on" from a safe (but painful) unrequited, unattainable love so that you can enjoy a real life love with someone.
I hope this helps
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