Originally posted by eebee65
Hello everyone.. I have been looking for a board that deals with dreams, and this is the first and only one on my search that I had immediate good vibes greet me when I logged on and began reading. 
I'll have lots to talk about on other threads, but what drove me to find a safe dream message forum is that I have a recurring dream that's beginning to take its toll on my psyche, and I wanted to see if anyone here could help me. I've been dreaming a dream with a recurring theme for 5 months now; I lost my mother suddenly 5 months ago, and since then, 6 out of 7 nights a week, I have a dream about her that is so intense and so real that I wake confused and remain so well into my workday, and I am not the type of person to ever become mentally distracted like that. The theme of the dream is that my mother shows up to me, out of the blue, and she tells me that she didn't really die, and that it was all a misunderstanding. The whole focus of the dream is to resume her caretaking and to try to figure out how I can explain this situation to the wonderful nursing home in which she lived at the time of her passing. Even though I am happy to see her in the dreams, the prominent feeling I have is a sense of nervousness and panic about how I am going to explain and fix this situation, because even in the dream, I know it's not possible for her to return from the dead and resume life where she left off. Occasionally, my father is in these dreams as well, and he passed away 12 years ago, so when he is in the dreams I have to figure out what to do to make both of them feel better. As I said, when I wake, the afterfeeling of these dreams literally confuses me, and I genuinely have to force myself to name the date and bring myself back into my life as it is today, and I'm embarrassed that a dream makes me so befuddled. I've never had this happen to me before.
I know one obvious message in this dream is that I haven't dealt with or accepted my parents' deaths on some subconscious level, and yes, that makes sense to me, but this is more than that. It's getting now that I get nervous before sleep, because I wonder what predicament my mom will be in the next round of dreams, so I quit focusing on that in case that was what was bringing the dreams on. What I am looking for is twofold: I would like to *not* have such unpleasant dreams about my beloved parents, first and foremost. Secondly, I would like to know what you folks here think these dreaams might mean, or what definition they might have.
I give you all a great big Newbie hello wave, and I thank you in advance for any suggestions or answers anyone might have for me.
Hi.......just some suggestions okay? I'm not sure if they will work for u.......
Why not ask your mum how she plans to 'come back'? Then hint to her subtly that she is no longer in the world of the living. That might get her to accept her death and move on.
You could also enjoy the time you have together in the dreams and then when u feel she should move on, suggest to her that she should move on, as written above.
Are u lucid in those dreams? Do u know u r dreaming during those dreams?
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