Thread: Wierd And Freaky Mermaid Dream

isn't this a disney made-for-TV movie or something?

You know what they say?

"There are many fish in the sea".

And you are one of the many fish in the sea.

At the first sign of commitment you will run back to the water to grow your "tail" back.

God bless you. There should be more women just like you. Men would be much happier.

Leo Volont, what do you mean? I am slightly confused.

Originally Posted by tiakitty16

Leo Volont, what do you mean? I am slightly confused.
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How do you see yourself? What are your hopes and dreams for the future?

In this dream you are a fish. Fish get caught, fish get tossed back. Mermaids are known because they have TAILS.

When you think of yourself, do you think that your most important part is the TAIL?

You ran away from being fully human.

You ran back to the pond so you could be a piece of TAIL.

So what do you want from life? How do you see yourself?

I don't want to be insulting. Some girls may embrace their Sexuality and have very successful careers entirely on the basis of their Sexuality.

Marilyn Monroe was Mermaid. Madonna is a Mermaid. Brittney Spears is a Mermaid.

But if you have more traditional aspirations in mind, then you need to stop worrying so much about keeping such a noticeable TAIL.

But if you really want to embrace the Mermaid, then stop coming up on land. That is what killed Marilyn Monroe... trying to be both Human and Mermaid at the same time.

Be like Madonna. Wow, was she focussed for years on end on being entirely the Mermaid. No let up at all. At no time ever was Madonna ever human.

Britney may have retired her TAIL to become human. God bless her... I think she will be happy.

How do I see myself? I see myself as a secluded girl who is just now discovering her own body and who has never known the love of a boyfriend because I am a horse lover, a band geek, and a 4-H nerd, and none of the guys I know like those hobbies. I would like to go to college to be an equine vet assistant, and someday own my own ranch/breeding business. I can't explain how much I wish every day for a boyfriend, and to be accepted for who I am, and not put down the instant someone meets me and finds out what I like and enjoy doing. I wish people would look deeper than the outside and what their hobbies are, and look on the inside, that is where the person's true personality lies.

Originally Posted by tiakitty16

How do I see myself? I see myself as a secluded girl who is just now discovering her own body and who has never known the love of a boyfriend because I am a horse lover, a band geek, and a 4-H nerd, and none of the guys I know like those hobbies. I would like to go to college to be an equine vet assistant, and someday own my own ranch/breeding business. I can't explain how much I wish every day for a boyfriend, and to be accepted for who I am, and not put down the instant someone meets me and finds out what I like and enjoy doing. I wish people would look deeper than the outside and what their hobbies are, and look on the inside, that is where the person's true personality lies.
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I have an, erm, different interpretation than Leo's...

I think that you see yourself as beautiful because of your non-standard abilities (mermaids = strange and exotic, your hobbies = strange and brainy). You're afraid that people in authority figures (ie. the boy's father) will not approve of you because of your oddities. You are searching for someone, like this guy in your dreams, who will accept you for who you are, despite or because of your oddities.

In truth, your hobbies aren't that weird. They're just not the ones that are always the "coolest" ones to be involved in. There are plenty of cowboys who want to live on a ranch with horses and such. There are plenty of guys who like smart girls. You might just be having some trouble finding them right now because of your location, age, etc. Just keep doing what you love doing and you'll end up finding someone who loves the same things you do.

as long as you're not a senior in college who's never had a boyfriend I wouldn't worry about it.

Originally Posted by tiakitty16

How do I see myself? I see myself as a secluded girl who is just now discovering her own body and who has never known the love of a boyfriend because I am a horse lover, a band geek, and a 4-H nerd, and none of the guys I know like those hobbies. I would like to go to college to be an equine vet assistant, and someday own my own ranch/breeding business. I can't explain how much I wish every day for a boyfriend, and to be accepted for who I am, and not put down the instant someone meets me and finds out what I like and enjoy doing. I wish people would look deeper than the outside and what their hobbies are, and look on the inside, that is where the person's true personality lies.
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Oh, please, go on to be a Full Veternarian. You should talk to Burns... she is a Vet. I think she is a qualified Large Animal Vet but works a practice of mostly dogs and cats.

So, you are a NICE GIRL.

Well, the Mermaid isn't. The Mermaid is all tail, and you would wish to be known for more than that, is that not so?

Yes, yes, yes, sexuality is healthy and all of that; however, you DO have your career to think about, and you can only do that while you are young. You cannot allow your hormones and passions to draw you away from pursuing your best interests while you are still young enough to serve yourself well.

You need to get exemplary grades. You need to get some Animal Work on your Resume -- what were those Farm Clubs? 4H where the kids would raise prize sheep or pigs. Well, to be a Large Animal Vet and to get accepted into the Finest Graduate Programs and Med Schools for such a thing, you NEED to be winning these Big Pig Prizes and such. Also, Riding Competitions would help on your Applications. You need to be assosciated with Large Animals in every way that you can.

And all of that requires that boys be a very minimal priority.

Just think of how many young ladies had wonderful career prospects only to let them get blown away by too early marriages after getting 'knocked up'... or being so silly as to get married just out of HS or even College, without going on to Graduate Work WITHOUT having been preganant (why on earth would one then get married for?). Or far worse, just get knocked up and be a single mother on welfare with no prospect EVER of a decent career.

So put that tail of yours aside. Stay on land. Let that little tail of yours shrivel up and die, and you pursue that career of yours. When you are 33 years old and have established yourself in a Practice THEN you may look around and then marry a Rich Farmer with a 10,000 Acre Ranch. Not some scummy HS boy leaking out his body fluids for you. Yuck!

Originally Posted by John

as long as you're not a senior in college who's never had a boyfriend I wouldn't worry about it.
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Actually, that is HOW one gets to be a Senior in College, by foregoing the distractions of copulation.

Originally Posted by dreammask

I have an, erm, different interpretation than Leo's...

I think that you see yourself as beautiful because of your non-standard abilities (mermaids = strange and exotic, your hobbies = strange and brainy). You're afraid that people in authority figures (ie. the boy's father) will not approve of you because of your oddities. You are searching for someone, like this guy in your dreams, who will accept you for who you are, despite or because of your oddities.

In truth, your hobbies aren't that weird. They're just not the ones that are always the "coolest" ones to be involved in. There are plenty of cowboys who want to live on a ranch with horses and such. There are plenty of guys who like smart girls. You might just be having some trouble finding them right now because of your location, age, etc. Just keep doing what you love doing and you'll end up finding someone who loves the same things you do.
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From the Everything is Wonderful School of Dream Interpretation.

But I would smell something fishy in telling a young girl that she has absolutely nothing to worry about or to think about, and that life will be a complete bed of roses for her if only she never think about the results of anything.

But I see how the Everything is Wonderful Method of Dream Interpretation would make the Interpretor feel good. All goodness and light and all that crap.

But you should consider the damage you could be doing.

What if she believes your encouraging crap and goes out and gets knocked up. Where is your responsibility there? Will you still feel so good about yourself then?

To tell ANY teenager to just keep doing what they are doing has to be the quintessential formula for disaster. This the period in their life when they need guidance. Careers don't land in young people's laps. What lands in their laps are silly unplanned pregnancies and early marriages to incipient white track wife beaters.

"Follow you Heart" is the path straight to the Trailer Park.

Great Advice!

No, you got to get these kids thinking and then to Follow their Heads.

NOT their Tails!

Originally Posted by Leo

From the Everything is Wonderful School of Dream Interpretation.

But I would smell something fishy in telling a young girl that she has absolutely nothing to worry about or to think about, and that life will be a complete bed of roses for her if only she never think about the results of anything.

But I see how the Everything is Wonderful Method of Dream Interpretation would make the Interpretor feel good. All goodness and light and all that crap.

But you should consider the damage you could be doing.

What if she believes your encouraging crap and goes out and gets knocked up. Where is your responsibility there? Will you still feel so good about yourself then?

To tell ANY teenager to just keep doing what they are doing has to be the quintessential formula for disaster. This the period in their life when they need guidance. Careers don't land in young people's laps. What lands in their laps are silly unplanned pregnancies and early marriages to incipient white track wife beaters.

"Follow you Heart" is the path straight to the Trailer Park.

Great Advice!

No, you got to get these kids thinking and then to Follow their Heads.

NOT their Tails!
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Funny, my statement did not say that she has nothing to worry about or think about. It said that she should keep going for what she loves - animals, veterinary school, etc. Seems you said the same thing, if I recall. You may have had a distinctly different way of putting it (saying she shouldn't become a slut who gets married before she's in her 30's), but we did both say she should stick with what she loves and the men will come with time.

You sure have some gall telling me that I'm causing damage by being optimistic and telling her she's not a freak. You go around telling her she wants to be nothing but a piece of ass, and you think I'm doing damage? That's a crock of donkey dung, if you ask me. If she follows my "encouraging crap," she'll end up sticking with her hobbies and finding someone who will enjoy the same things she does. Whether or not she gets knocked up is up to her. I won't feel a bit of remorse if she has sex before she's 33, as you're suggesting.

If you're really worried about unplanned pregnancies or "early" marriages (and who are you to judge when it is too early?), you should be suggesting that she get on birth control and refrain from seriously looking for marriage before getting her career under way. Telling her to hide in the lesbian-only club to avoid all men's advances isn't going to help her or anyone else to avoid confusion and an unhappy life (unless, of course, they're a lesbian).

Oh, and there's another thing about waiting so long to find a mate and procreate. At the age of 35, a woman's chances of having serious problems during pregnancy increase quite a bit. You automatically enter the "high risk" category of pregnancies. If she wants to avoid that stress, she should start having children at least a few years before 35. Starting to look for a husband at 33 just won't cut it. By then, you're desparate to find someone to fill the job. She also should know that people with timelines for her like yours are completely out of it. Being 33 years old is way too old to START looking at men. Biologically, psychologically, emotionally...

Your opinion is not useful for a woman, whether she be 15, 25, or 35. You simply don't know what it is like to be a woman at any of those ages. You don't seem to have a grip on what a woman wants at those times in their lives, let alone what to tell one who might want advice.

She needs to know that there is nothing wrong with her hobbies and drives, that there is nothing wrong with wanting men at this time in her life. She needs to know that she should follow her long-term dreams (not the short-term ones of lust), and that there's nothing wrong with balancing boys and careers. She needs to beware of getting pregnant before she can handle that, but that's easy enough to avoid (abstinence or birth control, preferably both).

Anyone else want to give this a try? And someone who can put Leo's interpretation into more specific english terms for me?