Hmmm, well i can tell from the start that this dream is a result of you current situation, its a terrible situation, i've had a similar experience before, now the dream represents the doubts you may have that she may reject or not like you in the way you want her to, but just because the dream depicts this does not mean it is true, it is only a worry in the back of your mind, your worry is that you will lose these strong feelings for her if she backs down and rejects you, but i'm not as knowledged in the situation as you are, however i can help you get through it if you want my help. Ok, now its obvious you really like her, these strong feelings and emotions that make you drawn to her are making you like you said "clingy", you feel asthough she is the only thing in the world that is special and because you look at her as the most important thing in your life currently you don't want anything to take her away, so you keep in contact with her regularly, checking up on her in a way, making sure she is ok and that she isn't interacting with anyone else, from there on its pretty simple what is needed to do, but its doing it that is the hard part, you need to accept the fact that at this current moment in time feelings may not be mutual, you need to losen the rope a little bit and realise that she is not the only girl out there that you will meet, i'm not saying you should leave her but you need to realise that she may reject you and if you know this then you will be able to handle the rejection alot better. However if you want to try your best to strengthen the relationship you should stop trying to talk to her everyday, by seeing her everyday she may get sick of talking to you, i found this with a girl i fancied, i talked to her everyday on MSN but she never spoke to me directly, i always had to make the first move, i think this drove her further away from me, you can love a girl but you don't want her to think your obsessed with her otherwise she may get a little freaked out and back away, now i'd say that you should maybe cut down the time you speak to her, give her some space, don't worry about these things however if you have feelings for her you should make it clear that she is taken, mark your territory, but you can only really do this when you are both dating, the dream however did give something valid maybe even a sign that can help you, you should try and make friends with her friends, that way if you have a problem you can speak to them, they have better contact with her and they can offer better advice, thats a good step especially if you want to get closer. Now you don't want to leave it too late to ask her out, she may be interested in you but she can sure as hell get bored if you don't get your feelings across at some point, if you don't make your feelings obvious at some point she will not know if you like her or not so she may move onto someone else, but you have an opportunity, your older and mature, girls seem to like that, be individual, make it obvious that your not going to be like any of the other dicks she has dated. I can talk to you more if you want via PM but thats enough for now, but what i'd say is that you should try and cut down on the amount of time you talk to her, try to become friends with her friends so you can know a bit more about her, get some advice. Hope things work out dude, dreams can be powerful things, great for interpreting things aswell, hope that helped dude.
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