Thread: Possible big change coming in my relationship?

Originally Posted by videogamer99

Thanks for the input. Well, videogames have always been a big part of my life. Ever since I was about 3 years old I was playing them. I am currently 16. I do not know if I still have feelings for Kara or not though. I have known her for about 11 years. Ever since about 6th grade (we met in 1st and we are in 11th) I had a crush on her but never asked her out due to the risk of losing our friendship. In 9th grade we tried dating. It lasted about 1 month and just didnt work in the long run. I had feelings for her up to about a year ago. That is when I told her my complete feelings for her. After telling her what I did, she said that we should date again because she thinks that we can work out. The problem is she was dating someone at the time. Over the summer I met my current girlfriend and she broke up with the person she was dating in November. She then went on to date another person whom she broke up with last Friday. I had this dream on Saturday night. That might hold correlation to something.

Like you say, the timing stacks up. But remember the Kara in your dreams isn't the real one, "she"'s a person you've created. But knowing she's available and the feelings that evokes for you does seem like a cause for the dream.

Originally Posted by videogamer99

I have had a few other meaningful dreams in the past. The first was around 3 or 4 years ago in which we had sex and it was an odd feeling from that dream but I eventually had another similar dream with a much less odd feeling afterwards. I currently do not know how I feel about what but I do know that after having this dream I keep thinking and am starting to doubt my current relationship even though I loved it so much before.

That can't be easy. Torn between two special people. But don't throw her away because of one dream. Your feelings will evolve in their own time. You'll doubtless have more dreams and feelings will emerge from other experiences too. The dream was about you, remember, not about any person in particular. You can feel like that with anyone or no-one.

Originally Posted by videogamer99

The alien part may be my feelings of other people. Possible a fear of meeting new people or just a way of expressing people whom may not be on the friendliest of terms with me. I do think that there are many different things that can come of this dream and I hope that something positive comes from it.

Yes it does sound like that. I think "positive" can be a difficult concept to apply to changes in life. But I do believe that by allowing ourselves to experience the emotions in dreams, remembering that their ours not the fault (or gift) of anyone else, helps us to cope with people in real life.

Best of luck with your love life. Sounds like you're taking your feelings seriously.

Originally Posted by Burned up

Like you say, the timing stacks up. But remember the Kara in your dreams isn't the real one, "she"'s a person you've created. But knowing she's available and the feelings that evokes for you does seem like a cause for the dream.

The thing is that, although the people werent real, they seemed very similar to their real counterparts. Kara acted, sounded, and did everything that real Kara would normally do. I think that most everyone else were the same as well.

Originally Posted by Burned up

That can't be easy. Torn between two special people. But don't throw her away because of one dream. Your feelings will evolve in their own time. You'll doubtless have more dreams and feelings will emerge from other experiences too. The dream was about you, remember, not about any person in particular. You can feel like that with anyone or no-one.

I dont know. There was a big emphasis of Kara in the entire dream after my GF died. Seemed like we were both the main characters of the dream. She played a more important role than I in many cases.

Originally Posted by Burned up

Yes it does sound like that. I think "positive" can be a difficult concept to apply to changes in life. But I do believe that by allowing ourselves to experience the emotions in dreams, remembering that their ours not the fault (or gift) of anyone else, helps us to cope with people in real life.

Best of luck with your love life. Sounds like you're taking your feelings seriously.

I think that if there is a change for the better than it will be positive.
Thanks for the luck.
I do take it seriously. It is important.
Thanks for all the advice

Originally Posted by videogamer99

The thing is that, although the people werent real, they seemed very similar to their real counterparts. Kara acted, sounded, and did everything that real Kara would normally do. I think that most everyone else were the same as well.

I dont know. There was a big emphasis of Kara in the entire dream after my GF died. Seemed like we were both the main characters of the dream. She played a more important role than I in many cases.

I guess all I'm saying is that the real Kara will think/do/feel different things than the Kara in your dreams. And doubtless you'll dream of other wholesome relationships in due course.

Originally Posted by videogamer99

I think that if there is a change for the better than it will be positive.
Thanks for the luck.
I do take it seriously. It is important.
Thanks for all the advice

My pleasure. Sounds like you're doing all the right things.

A new dream recently happened.

I moved away to Italy and then she proposed to me. I accepted and we were happy together.

Any ideas on that?

Originally Posted by videogamer99

A new dream recently happened.

I moved away to Italy and then she proposed to me. I accepted and we were happy together.

Any ideas on that?

First, it sounds like a nice dream.

The meaning depends how it felt for you. If it felt natural then I would say it means you're now closer to your feminine side (NB this has nothing to do with sexuality) and are less likely to be looking "out there" for what you already have "in there". You have your own "internal Kara" as it were. Likely you will be less anxious about relationships etc if you keep this in mind.

But the meaning will always be your meaning, so go for whatever feels right. You'l probably need to modify it as further dreams add to your experience anyway.

Originally Posted by Burned up

First, it sounds like a nice dream.

The meaning depends how it felt for you. If it felt natural then I would say it means you're now closer to your feminine side (NB this has nothing to do with sexuality) and are less likely to be looking "out there" for what you already have "in there". You have your own "internal Kara" as it were. Likely you will be less anxious about relationships etc if you keep this in mind.

But the meaning will always be your meaning, so go for whatever feels right. You'l probably need to modify it as further dreams add to your experience anyway.

I meant it was my GF that proposed to me and married me.
Thing is that me and my GF are going through some odd changes. She suddenly wants to not have sex anymore and its just feeling weirder and weirder. Maybe we are becoming more of just friends than more than friends. I dunno what to think right now. My dream may have predicted what is happening now.

I don't believe dreams can predict the future. But they can reveal information about the present that your conscious self wouldn't have spotted. Sounds like you're conjuring with the friend <-> sexual partner conflict.