Thread: My dream last night...

Although it’s always best to have a lot of background information about the dreamer including events that occurred just before the dream in order to provide an accurate interpretation, in general terms a public bathroom would relate to the necessary “expression” of feelings to others at large (“public”), even feelings that a person might view as “disgusting” and “dirty”,

You partly hit upon this idea in your thought about how everybody has to go to the bathroom. When you think about it, peeing for example is a bodily urge that that can’t be put off very long at all, unlike the urge to sleep, drink or eat etc.

Following along with the analogy of a strong necessity to express feelings (peeing etc.) that can’t be put off (people going into the bathroom), the bathroom in your dream isn’t equipped to allow this (no toilets, sinks).

Perhaps you may resist saying what you feel or maybe can’t even acknowledge to yourself what your emotions and values really are in the first place (no toilets, afraid of footsteps, hiding by standing on “invisible” toilet).

In this take on your dream, something (zombie-like people who don’t want to be in the bathroom) may be getting in the way of this normal and necessary function of self-expression.

Without knowing anything about you or what comes spontaneously to your mind about the fat white bald guy, it’s hard to say what he would specifically symbolize in the dream, but generally he would tend to represent a part of your makeup that you don’t like acknowledging.

In this approach to your dream, whatever this disliked part of you is could be an overcall clue as to why you perhaps may have tended to shut down too much the experience and expression of emotions.

The healthy instinctive experiencing and communication of felt emotion could be symbolized by the monkey who appears to be angry with you for not doing this.

It’s possible that something may have happened a day or two before the dream where you tended to be “exposed” by an unexpected outburst of emotion (falling through stall door), but this won’t apparently tend to change your current habits about this part of you (didn’t have any lasting effects).

Especially if you are white, the comforting black lady would tend to partly represent an “opposite” part of you related to acting kindly and acceptingly toward yourself and your felt emotions. Doing this would apparently allow you to gradually be more assertive when among others in expressing your true feelings as opposed to maybe covering them up too much.

Waking at this point is probably the dream’s way of saying “OKAY, now it’s up to you to keep in touch with the black lady inside so that you won’t be so frightened by the monkey and the people in the bathroom”.

Anyway, these are just some general ideas that I hope will fit your personal situation in some way and help to unravel the important message of the dream.

WOW!~ ok so I read your response a couple times and started writing back and then this really hit me:

Without knowing anything about you or what comes spontaneously to your mind about the fat white bald guy, it’s hard to say what he would specifically symbolize in the dream, but generally he would tend to represent a part of your makeup that you don’t like acknowledging.

In this approach to your dream, whatever this disliked part of you is could be an overcall clue as to why you perhaps may have tended to shut down too much the experience and expression of emotions.

The healthy instinctive experiencing and communication of felt emotion could be symbolized by the monkey who appears to be angry with you for not doing this.

I do remember the feeling I got from the fat bald white guy very well because it was the exact same feeling I recieved from a person who gave me a very bothersome threat. It was a creepy/defensive feeling (the guy in my real life does not look like the fat white bald guy though). I think you might be right on with the monkey as well because I've been very upset by the threat a guy made and I reported him to my superiors but I don't feel that the problem is going to be taken care of and I do want to just let everyone know about the situation but I feel like I can't do that at this stage of the game because my superiors havn't finished their investigation and that would make them look bad. Maybe you might be able to come up with some more good ideas for me on this question

The fat white bald guy was no different from all the other people who were in their sleep walk state other than the fact that he gave me that creepy feeling. All the sleep walking people including the fat white bald guy seemed like they were stuck on a track when compared to the monkey or the black woman (they seemed to be controlling themselves, able to move freely.)

Based on the idea that these sleep walking people represent things blocking my expression then the fat white bald guy would stand out the most because he represents a very big (probably the biggest I've had) stress. So would these other people that were unnoticable be other problems I have in my life as well? And what could I do now that I can't really remember how many people came in and out (at least 10-30), or what they looked like?

Hah! maybe the "I don't want to be here," was me saying I don't want these problems. I have really become very interested in dreams now!

Thank you so much for your in depth and wise interpretations Athanor! It really let me see clearly. Sorry that it is such a long read.

Also if this helps anything for info I am white 20 y/o male.

Hi again,

From what you’ve said, it’s possible that the fat white guy tends to represent some deep hesitation on your part to stand up for yourself in general. This carries the idea as well that you wouldn’t want to acknowledge such an inner “fault” although it’s something quite natural among most people.

Although you did act appropriately regarding the threat, the underlying idea as shown by the dream could be that there might be a fear that you won’t carry through with handling the situation and this is reflected in your hiding in the stall.

The zombie-like motion of the fat guy and the others might be suggesting a certain repetitive presence of such doubts about whether you can always deal with outer issues effectively enough in general terms.

This situation would tend to keep your personality “scattered” in a way (10-30 people) and the need could be to consolidate yourself more firmly.

For example, perhaps you could beef up your assertiveness skills by reading a book like “Asserting Yourself” by Bower and Bower, or “Your Perfect Right” by Robert Alberti and Michael Emmons. These can easily be found on a site like amazon.com for example, and would provide good tips on how to handle such situations as you’re going through right now.

So don’t give up because you’re a young guy who can quickly practice assertiveness skills that will help to overcome any hesitations you might have at this time and in the future.