Hi cinimini
Yes, as YYNYM says, he's "yours".
You may be wondering why he has the attributes you have been dreaming about. Well, that's hard to explain. In these sorts of dreams it seems to be normal to have some kind of link to the past and I can only assume that this is our way of illustrating our longing to be reconciled with the part of us which we left behind when we took our current identity - hence our dream partner is of the opposite sex for many of us. These kinds of dreams tend not to be sexual but there always seems to be a feeling that you've been together for a long time, or have re-found each other, and that you don't want the dream person to go.
For a theoretical approach, google "Jung animus" to find lots of info on what Jung says about our opposite sex archetype. There are many other theories too, all probably with their own strengths and weaknesses.
For a practical approach, again I'm with YYNYM on this. Try and find "him" in your dreams and also in real life. You won't find "him" in a real person, but you may sense he's around especially when you're feeling alone. You may find you can talk to him too and get to know him. I believe that in connecting with our dream lover we can experience more wholesome relationships with real people, because we don't idealise others so much. The idealisation I believe is linked to our dreams and fantasies of the perfect lover.
Any thoughts about the 1800s? Somthing about your family perhaps?
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