 Originally Posted by Universal Mind
I am talking about opposing wills. An alcoholic might cry every day and go to AA meetings twice a day in a struggle to stop drinking, but he would not be doing it if he were not also craving alcohol. You are assuming that opposing wills cannot exist. They can, and they do.
Have you ever resisted a temptation? If so, then you have experienced opposing wills. You might want to stay on a diet, but you still really, really crave that doughnut in your pantry. If you eat the doughnut, it doesn't mean you didn't want to stay on the diet. It is a matter of one will overriding another one. Have you ever been in that situation?
As I said above, I use the term 'will' in another meaaning: Will = The one wish out of many that is translated into action. There can be only one will, but many wishes. Having a strong will is a skill much like any other, it has to be learned and it depends on practice. If you don't practice honestly willing things to happen, you'll end up with a lot of opposing wishes and literally no will at all. That's what have you have in a fatty who pretends to want to lose weight, but still finds himself eating trash. He never actually committed to losing weight. He has a wish to lose weight, but he also has a wish to eat trash. Pretending to want to lose weight without real commitment is a perfect defense mechanism. This person didn't have a will in the first place, so it's hard to say that there is any such thing as an opposing will to a will that can barely be said to exist. To me such a thing as an opposing will does not exist, only opposing wishes. Instead of picking a wish and translating it into a will by real commitment and action, it's a lot easier to not commit to anything and play the victim by acting like each wish (eating donuts, jogging, watching TV etc.) has equal weight in the decision making process and there's nothing one can do about it.
You might argue that I'm only playing around with words and giving them weird definitions to suit my argumentation. If that is true, so be it. If 'will' is defined in such a way that there can be several opposing wills in a singular person, one would still have to pick a word for the single psychological instance that is responsible for picking the one will that gets translated into action at a specific time and place. This faculty is a lot more complicated than the simple construction of "wills" as it is connected with conscience, values, motivation, belief systems and so forth.
If this "will-choosing-power" is weak, you find yourself sticking to one will at certain times and to another one at yet other times. As you sit at home you might be utterly convinced to never eat trash again but when you're out with friends later that day you might be totally certain that this specific hamburger in front of you will be OK to eat because it's only that specific single one. All of this only shows lack of commitment, willpower and planning. Actually picking a "will" out of the many, translating it into action and sticking to it over an extended period of time can need quite a lot of psychological self-analysis and redirection of goals. I don't want to get too far into this though...
The same concept works for addictive substances, although in most cases you need external help to bring your will to reality as there are biochemical implications controlling your behavior outside of the usual frame. So in severe cases, the most your willpower can do is find a way to let the external world control your body so that it will not be controlled by a psychological faculty that is outside of conscious control (substance addiction). It can be virtually impossible to overcome the addiction alone, even in persons with the strongest willpower.
Depression would be yet another example. The most and best a highly depressive person without proper knowledge could do would be seeking professional help.
So you could give that faculty the name "will-choosing-and-to-action-translating-faculty", but I figure it sounds better to name it will and to name the objects of the will wishes. 
Flies avoid death even though they don't see a purpose in living. Humans have the same tendency.
I do agree here in the sense that up to a certain age the human need for a purpose is non-existent, just like in flies. But from a certain point on the human being decides in each moment how valuable he considers his own life, and this evaluation is for a great part based on the meaning he or she finds in his life situation. And based on this evaluation certain situations might be approached in a pro-life and anti-life manner. The cliché 40-year-old manager might be too tired and indecisive to actually point a gun at his head but shall he get into the situation of severe illness, some accident or anything of that sort, internally he will be more than glad that fate gives him a chance to rid him of his meaningless life. In extremely negative situations, those who see no meaning in their suffering will tend to seek ways to end their suffering as soon as possible. Those who see meaning will endure the most intense pain and hopelessness, be it only because they have the intense wish to write a book sometime in their life.
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