Thread: Falling in love in dreams

I have dreams about a specific person who isn't anyone I know. It's created some problems for me. I've always had trouble defining my emotions when I'm awake. I'm not necessarily unhappy, but I can't say I've ever truly been happy. Most of the time I just sort of...exist.
I had a dream where he showed me what joy felt like. Not mild happiness or contentment but true, blazing joy. I haven't quite been able to forgive him for contrasting it for me like he did.

I've had recurring dreams for years about this guy I've never met in waking life but in my dreams he's always my husband or in some role close to me (I have a husband irl lol not the same person). It's really odd cuz the dreams are always really specific and I learn new details about him and his life in each dream. I always feel really happy in the dreams and he's usually walking beside me so I see him usually in my peripheral vision; often he's cheering me up when I'm in a bad mood over something in the dream or he's protecting me from some bad thing that happened. I would like to think he's a sort of guardian angel (I'm not religious but yea) and the only way he can reach out to me is in that unconscious state, kind of like giving me a sign he's there.

Just last night in my dream I see a girl that I've never seen before in life. She was amazing. She was beautiful, sweet, and I fell in love with her in my dream. I knew I was in love with her when she almost burned to death and I almost died knowing that she might not make it. I woke up wondering if this girl is real and hoping I can find her in real life. I really want to find her.

i remember having a dream w/ a wife... it was weird sauce lol

I've had a couple of dreams in which I fell in love with a dream girl I didn't know and wake up with mixed feelings of euphoria and loss, but a couple of months ago had a different one:
A girl (13) that I know in RL approached me in a dream after a public event to ask me if it was a good idea to marry that same day a boy she was in love with. I was quite embarrassed as I don't like to tell anyone what they should do with their lives, so I looked around trying to think what to say and saw a 15 years old boy that I didn't know, and thought to my self "This is the boy! So these two are in love!!" And just wake up.
I opened my eyes awake and realized I was feeling their infatuation myself, even though I was not in the dream any more. I was like "WHAT THE ... ?!?!?" And the feeling stayed for a couple of hours.

I guess I did swap character point of view before I woke up (as so many times happens in dreams) and I don't remember. The other options are: I fell in love in a dream with a 13 years old girl or with a 15 years old boy, and I don't like these options, being myself a 33 years old man.

It happens to me all the time...I fall in love with these great men in my dreams and when I wake up I am deeply saddened and have even cried a few times. It is what I wish for in real life but can only seem to find it in dreams so I want to hold on to it because it seems unattainable in real life.

I completely agree

My take on this: I have felt horror in dreams before. Pure shots of adrenaline, anger. Hormones creating feelings I don't understand in my dreams.

So why would love be any different? A dose of something like oxytocin.

I had a dream once in high school where I was on a bus with a girl. I don't know her name, don't remember what she looked like, and she wasn't somebody I knew in real life. I felt love, happiness, etc. It was a nice autumn day with sappy golden light coming in through the trees. There was no commitment, no problems, no work, not even a real personality, just the feeling of being happy and accepted. I can still remember a glimpse of the feeling if I try hard enough.

I completely agree with oniman7. My dreaming experience seems to back this up in my opinion.

Originally Posted by Vance

Obviously this thread has been done before, but I think it needs refreshing.

Most, if not all of us, have probably "fallen in love" with someone in a dream, waking up wishing we were back in the dream, when later, we wonder at our infatuation. Some of us have dream after dream about the same person. And some of us have even lucidly fallen in love. Besides being an interesting experience (or strange if you have a wife) there are times where waking up is a literal nightmare, a paradise lost. I thought it might be interesting to hear some stories of this, and of people who literally have someone to look forward to at night. To further deepen the discussion, is lucidly falling in love a healthy or safe way to enjoy your nights?

does sound interesting

Originally Posted by Vance

is lucidly falling in love a healthy or safe way to enjoy your nights?

well to me it's obviously a good way to enjoy the nights but the prob lies when waking up and finding out that it was just a dream, it's just so frustrating

So after reading a few of the posts on here I just wanted to say I am glad I am not alone.

I have been dreaming of the same man for over three years now. It doesn't happen every day and I have a high suspicion that it is due to the loneliness I feel in real life. I have never actually seen his face either.

In my dreams he is the perfect person I could ever have chosen. Patient with me and sees the best in me. Heck he chases me half way across dream worlds when I am being difficult. He protects me and is a partner, I constantly dream I am some kind of military person saving the world.

Together we have three beautiful children and a house near the sea that I have drawn, the home not the children. I guess the thing I hate most is the waking up part because I feel at home there. Although when I am awake I always wonder if its real, usually decide its not, and if I will have a relationship like that one day. I am thuroughly in love with the man and I have even told him so in a dream which is out of context for me since I never tell anyone I love them not even my family.

Thanks for listening and sorry if there are multiple posts my iPhone keeps messing up,

Kayla

just had a dream like this im in a relationship, but met a random girl in my dream was a very dark setting industrial/military type future like, she worked there and I don't know why I showed up there merely by accident and the front gate greeted by guns and spot lights I saluted with the military salute and got in said something about disposal bla bla. anyways I walk in meet this amazing girl perfect figure beautiful no makeup shy looking said hi very shy but I felt something at that moment,scene cut off shes gone continued on to whatever I was doin only to meet her up later on somewere in the complex we talked laugh felt a strong connection looking into each others eyes silent smiling then out of nowere im in another setting shes gone im trying to look for her nothing I go back to the complex and its like she finds me cause in every occasion we meet up shes like looking out for me as well am I, and when she finds me she gives me a little wave and smiles I wake up from the dream and want to sleep again to meet her up again miraculously I meet her again I woke up several times but every time succesfull in finding her again everytime both of us looking for each other its amazing how real it can feel that your in love like silent love nothing has to be said you both just know it now I cant wait to fall asleep again its like an obsession ive had dreams like this before but haven't tought about others like this one. she was like the perfect girl I cant describe her just beauty!

after writing it down kinda helps to forget about it and just look back and smile weird and im not much of a talk about your dreams kinda person this dream was just so real had to keep a record

Welcome s281!(and others)...Isn't it wonderful that you can have those deep feelings in your dreams? I had a dream a few months back where it felt like love at first sight and after losing her she found me and as soon as we started kissing I became lucid. It was magical. It is good you & I were able to move on though. I do have a recurring character that I look forward to seeing but thankfully she doesn't interfere with my waking life relationships!

I had a dream last night that really confused me and made me think alittle..im a senior in highschool now but In my dream I was older.. but not by much...probably just going to college. I was in a hotel room with this other girl. She was gorgeous with long blonde hair. I remember specifically that she was younger than me, but not by much. She swore to me that she wasn't "like that" (meaning she wasnt a lesbian) when I tried flirting with her. I don't know why we were together in a hotel room or why I was even there at all! But during my dream Im pretty sure I knee exactly why I was there and who she was... it probably wasn't an important detail and that's why I forgot.. but anyways it started storming and I'm not sure why the storm was so scary for me, in waking life Iove storms, but in the dream it frightened me.. but then the girl grabbed my hands and held me and promised that she'd keep me safe... the emotions I felt for her were so strong.. I felt nothing but love for her in that moment in my dream, then I remember myself saying to her "are you sure you aren't like that?" Ans she only smiled and held me even closer.. then I woke up. And now looking back on my dream I'm wondering how I can have such strong feelings for someone I've never even met.. does she exist? Is this dream something that's going to happen? Am I going to meet her in my near future? I feel such a connection with this girl in my dream its crazy.. I feel like I know her, but I've never met her.. and now I miss her and hope she's in my dream again!! This is the weirdest feeling I've ever had..

I've had both lucid and normal dreams in which I fell in love. Both type are extremely enjoyable, though I do enjoy lucid dreams a bit more, for the obvious reason of being able to make my own decisions. Falling in love dreams with people who don't exist can be disappointing to me for the next couple of days, but having dreams about someone I know (whether I know them well or not) cause me to be downright depressed, especially if they are different in the dream than they are in real life. I have recently tried talking to a girl who I dreamed about (and fell in love with her dream-self) with little success of actually managing to engage in any lasting conversation (though I did try very hard. Now I wish I would've never tried though because it makes it more sad to me.) In fact, last night I was dreaming and suddenly realized I had control over it, and started to form a dream about her. However, I accidentally woke up a few seconds later. Despite the feeling of disappointment for the next day or week or however long the feeling lasts, I feel as though it would be worth it if I could have falling-in-love dreams every night. They are by far my favorite type of dreams, and I would very much love to find a way to consistently have dreams like this.

Welcome JakeB! the euphoria can be so strong in these dreams but I wonder is it mostly good or is it mostly bad in the long run. Mine have always been positive and I seem to be able to look at them as simply dreams so that I don't read too much into them. But maybe I should, who knows? I see you already have a good number of lucid dreams under your belt, how did you start lucid dreaming?

Thank you fogelbise. Yes the euphoria is very strong, and I might agree that may be mostly bad in the long run, but trying to create similar dreams is... addicting to say the least, at least to me. And I do agree that they are most likely just dreams, but there is always that good feeling that I want to return to again and again. I'm sure I shouldn't be spending too much time thinking about them, but I feel that if I can return to those dreams consistently (which I can't at this time, though I have been trying to learn and have gotten steadily better) that it can be a way of feeling good unconditionally, because I am not thinking at all about things going on in my life. And the 15 lucid dreams may not be 100% accurate, but those are all that I can remember (and some only barely.) I started lucid dreaming on accident, really. I was in the middle of a normal dream and suddenly realized I was actually dreaming, and kind of woke up inside my dream. It started off with me having little control, I could stop things from happening if I wished hard enough and I could change somewhat of the way I am acting. I've gotten to the point now where I am able to completely change everything about the dream, including the setting, the mood, the people around me, and more. The only problem with that, though, is that I often accidentally wake up. I see that you have recently gotten back into lucid dreaming. What are some good methods that you have found to do this consistently?

This is really the major reason why I want to learn to lucid dream. I'd only felt physical attraction up until last September. I had just moved and was attending a new school, so I decided to "scope out the ass" (I was 15; cut me some slack). There was one girl who stood out from the rest. She made me feel differently. These feelings were so foreign to me. I've pretty much been in love with her ever since (call it infatuation or a crush or whatever; I call it love). There was one dream I had... she said she liked me back. We were together for the rest of the dream.

I want that sort of dream again. I want to be with her in my dreams because I can't be with her in real life (I kinda screwed up and she has a boyfriend).

Originally Posted by TimeDragon97

This is really the major reason why I want to learn to lucid dream. I'd only felt physical attraction up until last September. I had just moved and was attending a new school, so I decided to "scope out the ass" (I was 15; cut me some slack). There was one girl who stood out from the rest. She made me feel differently. These feelings were so foreign to me. I've pretty much been in love with her ever since (call it infatuation or a crush or whatever; I call it love). There was one dream I had... she said she liked me back. We were together for the rest of the dream.

I want that sort of dream again. I want to be with her in my dreams because I can't be with her in real life (I kinda screwed up and she has a boyfriend).

I don't think I could handle constantly losing someone I love that much, it would eat me up inside.

Originally Posted by JakeB

Thank you fogelbise. Yes the euphoria is very strong, and I might agree that may be mostly bad in the long run, but trying to create similar dreams is... addicting to say the least, at least to me. And I do agree that they are most likely just dreams, but there is always that good feeling that I want to return to again and again. I'm sure I shouldn't be spending too much time thinking about them, but I feel that if I can return to those dreams consistently (which I can't at this time, though I have been trying to learn and have gotten steadily better) that it can be a way of feeling good unconditionally, because I am not thinking at all about things going on in my life. And the 15 lucid dreams may not be 100% accurate, but those are all that I can remember (and some only barely.) I started lucid dreaming on accident, really. I was in the middle of a normal dream and suddenly realized I was actually dreaming, and kind of woke up inside my dream. It started off with me having little control, I could stop things from happening if I wished hard enough and I could change somewhat of the way I am acting. I've gotten to the point now where I am able to completely change everything about the dream, including the setting, the mood, the people around me, and more. The only problem with that, though, is that I often accidentally wake up. I see that you have recently gotten back into lucid dreaming. What are some good methods that you have found to do this consistently?

Hi JakeB, I don't know if you want to change up too much as it sounds like you have a good amount of control in your dreams. If you accidentally wake up check out stabilization methods such as spinning if you start to feel the dream fade to prolong a dream; when you find yourself back in bed, keeping your waking body still and then sit up with your dream body or roll out of bed with your dream body to re-enter a dream (thanks Meskhetyw), or a difficult one without practice or a good level of lucidity is to constantly notice gravity, lack of gravity or warped gravity common in the dream world as it is supposed to keep you in the dream longer (thanks Hukif). So again, I am not sure how much you want to change but to answer your question: I find SSILD effective to induce lucid dreams, for fundamentals I like Lidybug's Clear Light Perspective thread and Sageous' 9 page thread Lucid Dreaming Fundamentals (thank you Lidybug and Sageous).

Back to falling in love in dreams, I am not sure either if it is mostly bad or good in long run, but it sure is captivating. I had a dream last night on the other end of the love spectrum where I met a woman, fooled around, but it just didn't have the passion or love that is felt in other dreams(or real life). Felt like a lesson that such "hook ups" are not very fulfilling in the end without love, though they can be fun in the moment.

Originally Posted by fogelbise

Hi JakeB, I don't know if you want to change up too much as it sounds like you have a good amount of control in your dreams. If you accidentally wake up check out stabilization methods such as spinning if you start to feel the dream fade to prolong a dream; when you find yourself back in bed, keeping your waking body still and then sit up with your dream body or roll out of bed with your dream body to re-enter a dream (thanks Meskhetyw), or a difficult one without practice or a good level of lucidity is to constantly notice gravity, lack of gravity or warped gravity common in the dream world as it is supposed to keep you in the dream longer (thanks Hukif). So again, I am not sure how much you want to change but to answer your question: I find SSILD effective to induce lucid dreams, for fundamentals I like Lidybug's and Sageous' 9 page thread (thank you Lidybug and Sageous).

Back to falling in love in dreams, I am not sure either if it is mostly bad or good in long run, but it sure is captivating. I had a dream last night on the other end of the love spectrum where I met a woman, fooled around, but it just didn't have the passion or love that is felt in other dreams(or real life). Felt like a lesson that such "hook ups" are not very fulfilling in the end without love, though they can be fun in the moment.

Thank you for the tips, I will be sure to try them out! I haven't looked too deep yet into lucid dreaming because it always came fairly easily and wasn't as important to me, but lately I have been thinking about it a lot.
Thanks!

Hi,

Two month ago I had a beautiful dream where I could control things in it about falling in love with a woman I didn't know. If someone could help me out that would be nice. I’m warning you guys that it is around 1000 words so if you want to be entertained go ahead. So here’s my story!

I'm 21 in real life, but in that dream I could felt that I was a little older, probably around my mid-20. When I looked myself, I could see that I was wearing a shirt/tie with a pant and I think I had a suitcase as well. It was probably in the afternoon so I think I just finished working. Please note that my dream only started as I walk through that bus so I don't know what happened to me before that moment.

As I walk in the bus I start sitting down beside a gorgeous woman. She had light blond hair, absolutely stunning green eyes and was relatively skinny. I think she probably was around 5' / 5'2 tall and weight around 100lbs.

The bus I took is usually the one I take to go home in real life. As I came in the bus near this beautiful and attractive lady, I looked in her eyes; smiled and she did the same to me. The moment I sat down, she asked me if I went in the same elementary school as her. I replied that I'm sorry and I really don't know who she is but right after I said that, she could tell me the name of my elementary school with my name exactly. I thought for a moment about the classmate I met in elementary school back in the days and I couldn’t associate her face with someone I met 9 years ago. At the beginning I was shocked about how she knew those information but as we kept talking I felt more comfortable around her.

To understand the setting of the conversations, last summer I went on a trip alone to France visiting my family for about 1 month and a half before returning to Canada in real life.

So I started talking to her and taking some news about what she has done with her life and what she is up to this summer. She then told me she will actually go to France /Europe in the next week for about a month and a half. While we were talking we made a lot of eye contacts and I touched her hands and her arm as well during that conversation. As we were talking about that country, I could feel that the love at first sight I felt for her was completely mutual and I could feel her love for me, which is pretty strange since I never had any relationship in my life before.

I knew I missed my bus stop but I didn’t want to go off that bus since I didn’t want this conversation to end. We were probably in the bus for an hour or so before the bus start taking another route. I noticed that they weren’t any construction work outside so when I asked the bus driver why he took a detour, he told me it was to make the overall trip shorter. I was pissed at first because due to that detour, I missed my stop so at that moment I told myself I won’t lose anything if I kept talking to her and didn’t give a single fuck about where I was in my city.

As we kept talking together something strange happen: the two seats were merging together. We became closer and closer to the point where one seat remained so she had to seat on me. I then asked her phone number to contact her again and took my cellphone (which is the same I have in real life) and saved it in my contact. Then, before I leaved, I cheek kissing her, then, as I removed my face, I looked in her eyes, smiled, approach my face near hers, took my hand to her head and started kissing her passionately. At that exact moment, I could feel all the love in the world. It was the most beautiful emotion I had in my entire life and I could project our relationship in a couple of years to last very long, how we looked like when we were older/elder and to be a good one for both of us. It was during that projection of us when we were older that I woke up with my heart beating at a fast pace.

I could feel every beat; I could feel that strong emotion when I was in my bed. I could remember every possible detail about that dreams, about the kiss and the touch of her skin so I wrote down this dream so I can read it again once I’ll forget it and I decide to share it with you guys. I don’t know what was that dream’s meaning or signification for my life but I do know that when the time will come, I will be ready to commit myself into a long, durable, faithful relationship with that special someone. During that conversation, it is weird but I could felt what she was thinking at the same time. I could get out of my point of view and see me talking at the same time through her eyes. That’s why I think that I was just talking to myself the entire dream through the form of a lady I could possibly love, share stories and commit myself to her in real life.

Thanks to this forum, I learn that I’m not the only one dreaming about giving/receiving love from someone we don’t know and when we woke up, that strong emotion stays with us. This one has stayed for a week with me before I could move on. I was happy at that time even thought I knew it was just a dream but at least I had a sample of what a happy relationship/married life would be.

Thank you for reading my story and any insight/tips of what I could apply in my life would be really appreciated!