Why did I have this dream...?

[TomL]

Hi, all. First time poster here. Looking for any opinions as to why I may have had the following dream. The dream occurred Wednesday night/Thursday early morning (1/7, 1/8). The dream was very atypical as far as my dreams go, and ended up unnerving me a bit... About five or six years ago, I had a crush on a gal I worked with. She was attractive, very quiet and reserved, and would've likely had nothing to do with a guy like me, so nothing ever came of it. We remained "work friendly" -- nods, smiles, hellos, etc. I left the company about five years ago, and that was the last time I'd seen her. We had no mutual friends, so I never got any updates as to how she was doing, etc. I thought about her a few times over the course of the first year after I left, and then gradually "forgot" about her. Last night, I had a dream that I ran into her (it seemed like it was at a ball game or some other type of outdoor event), and we got to talking, and at some point, I think I told her that I'd always had a thing for her, that I'd leave my wife for her, etc. She told me that she was married (which surprised me in the dream) but would leave her friends to be with me. I specifically remember her saying "friends", not husband, family, etc. (not sure if that's relevant...) I woke up at that point. I laid there for a few minutes digesting the dream, and then for the heck of it, I went to find her on Facebook, and I did in fact find her... I learned that she got engaged on Tuesday (1/6!) The dream itself was atypical in that I rarely talk to people in my dreams, and I don't go to ball games, so the scene itself was unusual. But to have a dream where she tells me she's married -- and then I learn that she got engaged one day before I had this dream... Sometimes a coincidence is too large to be just a coincidence, so I'm left to wonder how this dream came to be -- and in such uncanny timing relative to her engagement. Open to any insight... -Tom

[Paradox-db3]

Well...would you leave your wife for her? If you think you actually might, I'd simply walk away and try forgetting her. She'll no doubt be a stumbling block in your marriage. But I don't think that you're supposed to get involved, if that's what you're wondering. As for why you had the dream when you did...that's the mystery of our minds. Perhaps your mind picked up on her getting engaged somehow, although I don't know how!

[TomL]

No, I wouldn't leave my wife for her. I was just more curious as to how my brain picked up on her engagement after not seeing her/thinking about her for years. Maybe some kind of cosmic energy...!

[Captain Frapo]

That's some awesome shit, dude. I don't know what to make of something like that, but it's amazing nonetheless. I would just take it as a sign that things are connected and you're lucky enough to be given a look. Totally awesome and bizarre. Good for you.

[forsakendreams]

funny coincidence i would say, as your brain entertained other possibilities based on past desires. Being engaged is not the same as married though.