Soul Mate Dreams

[LostSoul]

Ok well I'll start by saying i know a lot of people have a thing against the term soul mate. But hear me out first. Since about the time I was fifteen (am now 32) I have had on and off dreams about searching for this place. I've tried flying there, running there, swimming there, on boat, walking, you name it. Location of the dream changes, never the same, never the same people but I'm always looking for this place...like it's my home. The reason I'm looking for this place is to find a man. I have no idea what he looks like or sounds like but in these dreams I KNOW him. I have never gotten to him, ever. But I always try and sometimes the desperation of almost getting there makes me wake up with my heart aching. It's nuts right? Well a couple weeks ago I had another dream. But this time I was stuck in this gray fog stuff. All around me is this fog and I call out a name. Kao. The next instant this hand shoots out from the fog and grabs mine arm and then I wake up. My heart was pounding like crazy cause the arm grabbing mine actually scared me. I wasn't expecting that at all. It felt...and this will sound weird but it felt like somebody else was in my dream with me. So anybody else ever have anything like this happen or what?

[smitgin]

A couple different parts I want to address... First the gray fog... It sounds a lot like a veil, I've heard it described as a veil between different realities or dimensions. I took a dreaming class with Robert Moss one time and they talked about veils in there. I wish I could remember more about it, but I've definitely had it or similar circumstances appear in my dreams as well. Each time something interesting happened. Sometimes the people or places I've dealt with in these types of dreams felt like I was really talking and interacting with other dreamers inside the dreamscapes. At times I was pretty sure the people I was interacting with were real, but not necessarily alive today. But that's a whole other discussion.... 2ndly the soul mate search... I've had a couple sets of dreams with similar themes. One set lasted several years. I would be in a dream, sometimes with two children, sometimes with their father, sometimes with all three of them. At times we interacted and at other times I was watching from above as they went about their life in the dreamscape. I felt so connected to the father and throughout several of the dreams I felt like we were meant to meet and be a family. I had a dry spell of dreams for a couple months and then I had the last Lucid Dream, where he came to visit me and brought his girlfriend and her mother to meet me and to tell me that he had committed to someone else. I felt devastated but I tried to be kind. Crazy thing was even after waking I felt like I'd been dumped, and dumped by someone I had been thinking of as my soul mate in waking life, the person I was meant to be with. It was hard to rationalize my feeling with the fact that it had all happened in a dreamscape. Even crazier was I came across the man about 6 months later. He was a patient I was working with. I looked at him and recognized him, he even had the same name as he had in my dreams, and I was stunned. I felt so odd, and he was so sick he never really looked at me so I don't know if he would have recognized me as well. It didn't matter though, because when I took him back to his inpatient room I met his new wife and his two kids. I haven't dreamt of them since. Long story short, I believe we really do connect with people in our dreams and when you talk about an arm reaching out and grabbing you through what I would consider a veil I would consider that in some way, in some place, it really happened. Now I'm left to wonder what would have happened if it hadn't scared/startled you so much it caused you to jerk out of the dreamscape. If it was the Kao you seek, could you have pulled him into your reality? You're dreams in the future will be telling. Robert Moss speaks of a technique where you meditate, best done with drumming music, and once your mind is clear and you are deeply relaxed you bring the dream image into the forefront of your thoughts and ask a question of it. I've had some pretty cool results from this technique and you might try concentrating and asking who grabbed you and if they had a message for you. I didn't always get much out of this, but when I did it was really cool. I'm sure this web site has some kind of similar technique that would help as well. I haven't had a chance to explore all the techniques they have listed, but I look forward to it. Those of us who haven't been lucky enough to truly find someone we connect deeply with in this life understand that need to find our 'soul mate' or complement. There have been lots of documented cases of people who met or dreamed of their future significant other a long time before meeting them. I knew a woman who could describe her future husband down to the finest detail because she'd been dreaming of him and with him for most of her life before she met him at age 37. Have faith, believe in your dreams, play with your dreams and enjoy them deeply. Best I can offer I hope it helped.

[Baron Samedi]

That is awesome Lost Soul. I actually dreamed of my soul mate for years, but I forgot the dreams! Then, after meeting her in dreams again, I slowly recovered the old dream memories. I must point out that my dream lover (Selene) is not exactly the same person that I ended up meeting in waking life, but another version of her from another dimension, parallel universe. Selene and I actually got married on the dream plane. So, anyway, when I met my current girlfriend, I knew she was The One because of her pendant, and a few other things about her from dreams. It was an amazing experience. Though it was so mystical, and I would even go so far to say that she is my soul mate, she is still a real person. So, we still argue, and are not always as nice to each other as we should be, but I am very happy to have finally found her.

[rockit2themoon]

sounds a bit scary to me, but i'd try and figure out where this place is if i were you and GO THERE! my mom used to have recurring dreams about going towards a place with mountains and trees and she kept getting closer and closer in the dreams and eventually it became clear and she moved to BC. her life changed when she moved there and it was a very important decision in her life - perhaps when it becomes more clear to you you'll be similarly inspired. as for the hand grabbing you, that sounds a bit scary, and a bit like something that happened to me last night but mine turned into sleep paralysis which was really really scary. something basically whipped me out of my dream, and next thing i know i'm in a sleep paralysis state being lifted from my bed and tossed around in the air not being able to scream or do anything about it! anyway, i know the feeling of someone else being there, and i don't like it.