Hello, DV!
Whenever I'm lucid (still a beginner) I've noticed a reoccurring theme. I wake up several times throughout the night, and use the Wake to Bed technique (although I'm guilty of going straight to bed instead of actually waiting 20 minutes.) I'm lonely in real life and never seem to have luck with women, so they constantly appear in my dreams. (I want a relationship with one sooooooo bad in real life, and only had one relationship a year ago when I was 22.....
When I am lucid after seeing a mirror, I find myself in a department store, and immediately search the crowd for an ideal woman to date, etc. I also become lucid after focusing on a particular object. However, I always appear as a spectator, and can't seem to control the actual dream. The only time was when I was in front of a mirror, and tried to change my shirt green, but only turned a sleeve green instead. I need help, and tried the twirl method to keep from fading out, but that woke me up instead. Any advice appreciated. Thanks! -Shawn