Thread: Conintuing romantic dreams and guilt afterwards

Almost every night I dream of these exotic and romantic situations. Last night I found myself falling in love with this very ideal looking man - black curly hair, vivid blue eyes, very tall very toned. I could feel he was falling in love with me too, I knew he was - hey its my dream right what I know I definitely I know in my dream. I ended our affair because of my in dream remembrance of my real life boyfriend. While still dreaming I felt that sick tearing in my chest that happens to me when I lose a person from a relationship - heartbreak. I felt it, I know I have had those phantom physical experiences before in dreams but this was vivid. It was not lucid, had I been I would have not broken my own and his heart at all. <sigh> Really though. I felt like I was falling in love physically and I felt my heart breaking physically. I felt the turmoil that an moralistic person might feel when they are doing wrong by being totally in love with two people. Even in my dream I was able to acknowledge that I was in love in two places. I swear hearts are not meant to be stretched that way - at least not mine.
When I fell asleep again I found myself camping somewhere on a Hawaiian shore line. I explored this site in my dream and found the most ideal little lovers hide-away ever. I knew in my dream that should anyone come here with me I would most definitely achieve some kind of love affair there. I noticed the irony when I waked that in this dream I never was reminded I had a boyfriend in reality. Well I was camping with a random nondescript friend and her father so it seemed, we were supposed to be on some kind of fishing trip. (This girl does not exist anywhere in my reality at all and neither did the boy from my previous dream.) Despite all my attempts I was never able to get my friend to my lovers nook. Eventually I gave up until some friend of hers came to join us on our trip. She kept the father distracted and I was able to sneak my friend and myself away. I will not go into details because I don't know how much is allowed but it was ideal and wonderful and well hott. After waking from this dream I felt even more guilt for not having remembered my boyfriend.
I think the only real reason I posted this is because it may work to alleviate what guilt I feel for something that didn't really happen. I think if other people can see it and maybe sympathize it would help. So thank you for your time if you read this.
If you want to ask me anything - I am an open book you just have to be brave enough to turn the pages.

Remember now, dreams are not the same as real life. Though telling your boyfriend this story is most likely not advisable for obvious reasons (I frankly would not care if I had a girl who "cheated" on me in my dreams), your dream was completely harmless. It simply was not real.

Many of us believe that one of the best things about lucid dreaming is its freedom. You can go hog wild and throw your inhibitions out the window (yes, two cliche points!) without worrying about the consequences. My dream alter-ego has done some things that nearly make my stomach turn, but I always look back at them afterwards and chuckle.

My advice? Avoid these kinds of situations in your dreams if they make you feel uncomfortable, but don't dwell on it should you end up repeating this performance.

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I tend to agree with hoppingsnail about the freedom in dreams. In a dream, death is not always a bad thing, it can be simply ending something the needs to end. Lust can be simply total abandon and passion of something. It doesn't always have a literal 'translation.' Your dream brought you guilt of betrayal. Perhaps someone has betrayed you or you feel betrayed in another way in real life?

S

I am married and sometimes I have dreams about having an affair. When I wake up, I am so shocked because I would never EVER do that in real life and am very happily married. It's natural to want to experience new and exciting things, and dreaming is a way of experiencing it without actually doing it. There are no negative consequences if these things happen in a dream. Obviously, I never disclose these dreams to my husband because it may make him feel insecure that I am dreaming of someone else (I know that's how I'd probably feel if he were having those dreams). But in reality, it's nothing to do with being unhappy with who you're with in real life - these sort of dreams and urges are natural and nothing to feel guilty about.