Dreams As An Escape From Real Life

[Ben_]

I think I may be using Dreams as an escape from my real life. Does anyone relate to this.?? [size=3] the thing is that I have been having some problems, that are affecting my family and indirectly to me,, it seems that I donde like my reality anymore,, so what happens is that my body starts to ask for sleep, like for naps in the middle of the day that turn into 1 or two hours naps... not good.. or when I go to sleep at night and wake up in the morning I feel a desperate feeling to go back to sleep..! Because it felt so good.!.. the problem is that I have millions of things to do in my day, but this feeling towards dreaming is strong it feels like is pulling me towards it..cant get the things done. about my Lds,,, Not good, I had my last Ld the 8 of january, so I'm in a kind of a dry spell//a little bit frustrated... but not loosing hope..lol. But I'm recalling like 5 dreams per night.. with good detail. So it is like my dream life is more interesting, full of advanture, free of problems with the big PLUS is that I can become LUCID,,.. I know this is not a good situatuion,,so guys any suggestions , ideas or related storys>? Ben

[Bonsay]

Do you just get tired or do you want to go to sleep to have dreams. Because you might have an ilness or maby you're just so tired. Oh and wanting to go back to bed in the morning is probably quite normal , except if it's just because of dreams?

[Never]

I think I may be using Dreams as an escape from my real life.[/b] First of all, I believe the most important thing here is to really ask yourself what "real life" actually means for you. People use that term as though dreaming were not part of a "real life". I have certainly never heard of a fake life. Correction: Yes I have actually...people who are not self aware usually live "fake" lives. Those people who listen to others who tell them they need to "get a life" and stop being so fantasy oriented. Really consider this. What is it that you could be doing better? Perhaps you are doing just fine. Perhaps not. You say that you "know" something is wrong. If that is the case, then you need to find out exactly what that thing is. Just make sure you are not following the collective majority view of what constitutes a "life". I cannot stress this enough. The blind leading the blind seems to be the most major flaw of humanity. In the end, you may be correct; perhaps you need to be awake more, perhaps not. There is no right answer one can give you. Most days I sleep ten hours; sometimes 6. I do whatever I want when I can. Life is too short to listen to the "experts" on all things unknown. I mean, isn't that a contradiction?

[Tornado Joe]

I think I may be using Dreams as an escape from my real life.[/b] Did you ever consider using dreams as a way to enhance your real life? Think about it: there is this life in which you a restricted to certian things (or have the perception of being restricted) - we'll call that your "real" life. But... Just like there is no top without bottom, good without evil, Yin/Yang... etc - you need to balance this "real" life with your dream life. Maybe that's what our dreams are for.

[Ben_]

Do you just get tired or do you want to go to sleep to have dreams. Because you might have an ilness or maby you're just so tired. Oh and wanting to go back to bed in the morning is probably quite normal , except if it's just because of dreams? [/b] It is like desperate feeling towards dreaming..//I need to dream. Did you ever consider using dreams as a way to enhance your real life? Think about it: there is this life in which you a restricted to certian things (or have the perception of being restricted) - we'll call that your "real" life. But... Just like there is no top without bottom, good without evil, Yin/Yang... etc - you need to balance this "real" life with your dream life. Maybe that's what our dreams are for. [/b] YES,, I completly agree.. but to do this in better way you need Lucid Dreaming,,, so you are aware of the balance. here is the problem... I cant get Lds,, I'm like in dry speell or something..// sure i find comford in my dreams. thanks First of all, I believe the most important thing here is to really ask yourself what "real life" actually means for you. People use that term as though dreaming were not part of a "real life". I have certainly never heard of a fake life. Correction: Yes I have actually...people who are not self aware usually live "fake" lives. Those people who listen to others who tell them they need to "get a life" and stop being so fantasy oriented. Really consider this. What is it that you could be doing better? Perhaps you are doing just fine. Perhaps not. You say that you "know" something is wrong. If that is the case, then you need to find out exactly what that thing is. Just make sure you are not following the collective majority view of what constitutes a "life". I cannot stress this enough. The blind leading the blind seems to be the most major flaw of humanity. In the end, you may be correct; perhaps you need to be awake more, perhaps not. There is no right answer one can give you. Most days I sleep ten hours; sometimes 6. I do whatever I want when I can. Life is too short to listen to the "experts" on all things unknown. I mean, isn't that a contradiction? [/b] I dont think this is the problem, but sure I need to find the root of the situatioin that is surrounding me,. Thanks

[Marvo]

How old are you? edit: Nevermind, it's in your profile. You're 18 years old and it's very normal to be sleepy around that age. The fact that you want to dream, is just a delusion. You're making yourself believe, that it's you wanting to dream and not your physical body being tired.

[~Erin~]

The best thing that your dreams can do you for you is to help you like your waking life. So in the end you won't have to think dreams are an escape. Though, I can relate. Like you I tend to use dreams as an escape from waking life . Whenever I'm really sad I leave waking life to become lucid or just dream. It is an escape when I use dreaming that way, cause you don't have to deal with it. You just have to look at the bad from a different angle instead of using dreams to runway from the problem use the dream to solve it.

[Vex Kitten]

I had a pretty craptastic childhood and I did one of two things to escape reality back then. I'd either read like it was going out of style or find someplace quiet and sleep so that I could dream. When I hit my teens my mindset changed and instead of recoiling from life I decided that I would start striking back. I started involving myself in things outside home. They were little things but they were enough to draw me out of myself and start living again. Now days, I look forward to dreaming, not nessesarily as an escape but as a reward for making it through the day. Dreams, in my opinion, are sort of like dessert... a little taste of something sweet to finish off a full day.

[BrotherDown]

Hey Ben, I can relate. I like sleeping too much. Whenever I find myself bored I feel sleepy, then I take a really long nap. Which disrupts my sleeping schedule and I end up being awake all night. but hey, at least lucid dreaming is something productive to do with it

[Code Name]

hahaha i have that same feeling too when i wake up, the need to go back to sleep & dream...& when im forced to get up im pissed (people'll bast my phone all day)...its not that serious tho, i overcome it half the time. but in my case, its probably cause im pretty tired ...i usually get an average of like 4 hours of sleep cause my social life kinda went loco when i got into college (im 20 btw)...shit, im working off of 2 hours of sleep right now lol well since you said i have alotta stuff to do throughout your day, MAYBE you're have the same case...though i dunno about the family part....

[Ben_]

thanks for the replays... I have been thinking about this a lot.....Due this started since I started Lucid Dreaming.. I think we all need to be carefull about LD because we can become addict to dreams.. Stephen Laberges mentions it,., I think we have to find a balance between this two realitys. The solution that I have found for my problem is not using my dreams as an escape,, but use them as a tool, (like a lot of you said). the key point here is have restrinction to this "tool". we cant be sleeping 18 hours a day.. It wouldent be functional... So keep strict Sleep hours,, dont sleep less, dont sleep more.. (dicipline) and work harder to become Lucid, so this becomes a stronger tool. Dreams are a product of your mind... your perception of your everyday expierences are a product of our mind.. so we need to learn to have healthy, sharp, and calm mind... this is the root to all of our problems. sounds easy..?sure... is it easy?... Fu!~*& NO!!.. but do we have something better to do?.. than seek for our own tranquility?>. Let me know what you think of this..