When I dream, I'm always in control. I rarely realise that I'm dreaming though.

We all dream in the same way, though some people percieve the experience differently. You can lucid-dream just aswell as anyone else, but if you start doubting yourself because of this, you will have a hard time.

Once you become lucid, you will come into control, and be in real-time, and the experience will feel like something you did, and not something you just saw.