Thread: The Birds & the Bees & the L's & the D's

Wow, great question! No easy answer there. I imagine that if my son and I ever discuss dreaming, as I plan we will, then I'll just tell him that it's a hobby of mine. If he has any interest in it beyond the simple definition, I'll point him to DV!

Woohoo, look out for Christopher in about 12 years and 3 months!

will dreamviews still be here then?



as for the question...I'd suggest maybe when your child has a nightmare and is having trouble sleeping, as I'm sure most kids do at some point right? though I don't have any children and don't plan to any time soon :

Originally posted by Paperdoll EP
as for the question...I'd suggest maybe when your child has a nightmare and is having trouble sleeping, as I'm sure most kids do at some point right? though I don't have any children and don't plan to any time soon :

Whew, That's a relief! There is only room enough for one paperdoll.

I would think that they would be suseptible to Lucid dreaming before twelve. No?

Well its a lot easier to learn stuff like that when your young.

I'm twelve and I think I started to Ld quickly, though I had very little control at first and I'm still acomplishing more (Like flying . But even though I have had 4 Lds they have been very non-vivid and low lucidity.

I think parents should tell them about it when they start having nightmare troubles. But before the age of 11. I've not had a nightmare for about half a year and I didn't know abvout Lucid Dreams back then. Nor had I ever had one....Recently.....I think it is easier for little kids (before the age of 7) to Lucid dream because When I was around 6-7 I had a few repeating dreams about being stuck in a level of a video game under water and I couldn't get out....About on the 3rd time it repeated I was like "Wait. this is a dream. WAKE UP!"....I wish I'd known of LDing back then...Or when I had those Repeat dreams of being stuck in a window sill and I never became lucid even though I had about 7 of them.. >>. So....I think Tell a kid before they are 10. Or having nightmare troubles...Which ever comes first..xD

Also, try and get better dream recall when you are little because before a month ago I didn't care much about dreams and only found this site through a dream site that tells the meanings of your dreams. That I got to because of a very disturbing dream that I had...o.o.....*shudders at the thought of the little gnome type creature, killing her*....And since I didn't care much about dreams I had very bad dream recall. So now it is alot harder to improve it.

I was thinking around the age of 6 would be good.

My dad told me about LDing (specifically, "taking control of your dreams") when I was about 7 or 8, to help me cope with my nightmares. He said he could control his dreams very easily if he thought about it in advance a bit. With a little practice, I was controlling dreams as well, though I didn't really use a lot of the techniques that I'm reading about here, might have made things easier on me.

If my child (who as of yet does not exist) is anything like me and has serious nightmares, I'll probably teach him/her how to LD at a very young age.

I agree with you all.

I don't see any harm in teaching kids to LD. On the other hand, your kid might already be LDing, since I believe it's more common in kids than one may think.

It really depends on the circumstances and personality of the child.
With your average 'not a monster' type child, I would have no problem in speaking to the child about it. Theres no need to force the subject, but hand it out on a need&want to know basis.

As already mentioned, a lot of kids already do it without really knowing what it is or what its called.

There are exceptions of course - for example a kid that has a personality that lends itself to irresponsible violence, mayhem and destruction.
Dwelling on such things in lucid dreams may only worsen the problem in the long term.

On the other end of the scale, a child may have problems with nightmares... and LD's are a great solution to this.

When I was a kid I had really stable LDs, so much so that it was tough work getting out of them. I wish I'd had known then and actually used the experiences for my own gain instead of hiding behind sheets of paper in a desperate attempt to return to the waing world (didn't work mind)

I think that when the child first starts talking about dreams, you should matter-of-factly say:

"You can control your dreams. You make make things happen." in a way they can understand.

It's my personal opinion that if they think its easy at an early enough age, it will be, and they'll be able to do it consistantly for the rest of their lives.

I think the only reason why some of us have trouble is because we have convinced ourselves its hard.

you will just end up confusing them before the age of 10

Originally posted by lord soth
you will just end up confusing them before the age of 10

How?