mmmk...

I've seen all these grammatical posts, and I gotta say, "who/whom" is definitely the strangest rule. I don't have any more trouble with it than I do any other grammar rule, but it's the only one that I'm not really able to come up with my my own explanation or rule of thumb. The only half-assed explanation I can come up with is that "whom" seems to appear in sentences concerning ownership: "to whom it may concern.." "for whom?" etc...

The one that pisses me off the most though is when people actually DO try to be proper, but misplace it. Example: "This is between you and I." See, the reason this is so sickening sounding is that people are trying too hard to be proper...and in the end they sound even dumber than someone that chooses to ignore these rules altogether. My rule of thumb for this is to just remove the other noun involved (he, she, you, etc.) the use of "me" or "I" will be the same without another noun. Example: "It's for her and I." just remove the other person/noun involved: "It's for I." See how dumb this sounds? Hands down, the most frequently- and easily-caught mistake for me...and the most terrible-sounding...