emberassed that I told my family

[lagunagirl]

I know that there are already a bunch of threads like this but I just feel like saying it so oh well. I've already tried telling my dad about lucid dreaming once and he just thought it was total BS. Then I mentioned something about it today and he heard me and started talking about it, and because he was seemingly open-minded about it at the moment I just started going on and on about it, telling him practically everything. And the whole time he was just laughing and saying "okay okay I believe you" but it didnt sound convincing. I kept explaining trying to get him to understand but I guess I was digging myself a bigger hole and now I feel really emberassed about it. He keeps saying that it's just a vivid dream and it's only a theory made by a scientist who wanted to make a name for himself. He just wont believe me. Why do people think it's so weird? it's not that hard to understand!

[Camels, Candles, Castles.]

lol- ah yes, those magical scientists are at it again with their craazy theories. I know what you mean, it's not really that hard to comprehend the concept of lucid dreaming. Don't feel embaressed though, it's not your fault he isn't interested. Just keep it to yourself until you find someone who you know will find lucid dreaming interesting. The way I explain it to people is "becoming conscious within your dreams- it'd be like me telling you now that you are dreaming". Peace, good luck.

[Artixknight]

Heh. My Dad told me to get a life, yelled at me, and told me to "cut that shit out." My family gawks at me now, and some people have gotten the suspicion that I am getting into witchcraft or something. (Which totally isn't true !) I think you've got it lucky.

[Moonbeam]

Well, it's his loss, really. That's what I'd tell him.

[Captain Sleepalot]

Some people just have a hard time imagining that anything interesting in life might be possible. Ah well, that's why you have a community like Dreamviews - to share your interest in lucid dreaming freely. I don't really talk about it to my family either, because although it would be neat if they were into it, in the end I just want to deepen my own experience and skill in LDing so I don't really care if they believe in it or not.

[Mes Tarrant]

Some people just don't choose their words properly when explaining lucid dreaming. All you have to do is say, "Sometimes when I'm dreaming, I'll see something really bizarre, and after wondering about it for a while, I'll finally realize that I'm actually dreaming. Have you ever had an experience like that?"

[DreamingGod]

My mother thinks the whole concept of lucid dreaming is rubbish.

[camjim]

Thankfully both of my parents are very open to the idea of lucid-dreaming, and my mom has even had a few of her own. However, being in college, I am surrounded with my friends/peers rather than my family, and although some have thought the idea of it interesting, none seem to take it seriously.

[Fawkes]

You should tell your dad about how it's been scientifically proven when they had the guy move his eyes in a pattern every 10 seconds while dreaming. People usually believe things if Science is involved lol.

[Venomblood]

When you tell someone about it, they imagine that you are falling for an advertisement and you're overly excited about it. Just ease it into them. Don't talk about it like it's something you read online, but something you discovered on your own. I've mentioned it to my family, they don't really mind, they think it's just a little hobby that I've acquired.

[drmrgrl]

omg! i totally feel you there. i tried telling my boyfriend. he openly laughed and said, "rachel, thats sleepwalking." and then i tried to explain what it was. now eveeytime he sees me he makes fun of my lucid dreaming. he thinks im making it up and i dont know what im talking about (if i were making it up, why are there so many people just on one site talking about it...?) hun just come here and let it all out. we're gonna be excited for you here!!!!!!!!! if the people in ur outside world dont appreciate LDing, you know you have this site. just keep it up and dont ever think lucid dreaming is stupid or anthin.

[Mes Tarrant]

(if i were making it up, why are there so many people just on one site talking about it...?) Honey that's about the farthest thing from a useful statement in support of lucid dreaming there could possibly be. Just warning you not to accidentally use it when explaining LDing to someone. Like I said before, I really think that the only problem is our choice of words when we try to explain this stuff. We have to be careful. Otherwise, people automatically put up a bunch of barriers to the idea because it's easy to make it sound like some sort of religious cult or voodoo magick or... I dunno, psychedelic drug hallucinations... I don't blame them, really.

[drmrgrl]

when explaining LDing to someone. hahaha thats funny. i got so sick of trying to tell people what it was and then getting stupid responses and shit that i finally said "omg. just look it up and then come talk to me"

[photodreamer]

Frankly I'm stoked when people think I'm weird because of it. And also when I talk about it I think people get jelous cause they can see me glowing with excitement....their loss.

[Out of the Blue]

I tell everyone about Lucid Dreaming when something related comes up. People are usually pretty interested. A couple of my friends actually LD constantly. I know like 3 or 4 people who do. Every once in a while, someone I told about LD comes up to me and says, "Dude, I think I had a lucid dream last night, it was weird!" Heh

[Dreamworld]

Try logically explaining it. REM, sub,etc

[Snivellus]

My mother thinks its dangerous. Then again when I tried to explain meditation, she didn't respond very well either... "Mom, it's pretty cool. You just clear your mind an-" "Clear it? What, so the devil can get in?" "...Nevermind."

[Hiros]

Some people are just less interested in things of the mind. My mum didn't seem to understand why anyone would want to have a lucid dream, It was as if I was suggesting that I liked to go digging in peoples garbage. But she's fine with it and has no problem with it, just can't see the fascination. Me and a friend were trying to explain it to his girlfriend the other day too and she didn't see the interest in it either. She believed it and all, but didn't seem to understand why anyone would want to do it. I tried to tell her that its simply fun and you can do anything you want. Her response was that we can do anything we want now. We both jumped at that (we're both sci-fi/fantasy nuts) and came up with scenarios of flying to other planets and such, saying you can do that in a lucid, but not in real life. She still didn't seem to have any interest. Some people just think very differently I guess. I think a better strategy when approaching the topic is to announce it as something you discovered yourself, like Mes said. Then give a scenario they would be interested in that they could achieve in a lucid, like if they are a sports fan, tell them they can play in the grand final of whatever game they like in a massive stadium full of people... or something like that. Whatever they are interested in. I'm going to try this the next time it comes up in conversation. I also tend to not refer to them as lucid dreams. But instead call them "dreams where I realize I am dreaming", it sounds less occult-ish.

[zekobu]

When i first heard about LD'ing i was reasearching dreams and saw dreaming while u realise it and read it and thaught uh ok thats just day dreaming, but reasearch proves me wrong

[Scar21]

I told my mum, and she said that she'd had a few of her own, but didn't understand why you would want to. Her loss It's funny. I used to stay up as long as I could before I found out about LDing, because I hated sleeping. It was a waste of time to me. (I could never remember my dreams either). But since finding out, I can't wait for night time to try to LD again

[Frishert]

Luckily my dad is even way more into these things than me. He's just to lazy to actually start using a DJ, so I guess LDing is not going to happen with him. My mum, however, I'm not gonna tell. She'd declare me completely insane.

[Kael Seoras]

it's just a vivid dream But, his saying that to disprove it doesn't make logical sense! Yes it's a vivid dream, vivid enough for you to know you're dreaming! He just shot himself in the foot My brain is hurting now

[Holiace]

I have a feeling that if I'd tell my family, they'd laugh behind my back... People are having a hard time to believe in odd things.

[Moonbeam]

My mother thinks its dangerous. Then again when I tried to explain meditation, she didn't respond very well either... "Mom, it's pretty cool. You just clear your mind an-" "Clear it? What, so the devil can get in?" "...Nevermind." That's sounds like the Waterboy's Mama. No offense to your Mom. Funny tho.

[Bonsay]

I think the main problem is getting someone to actually listen. It seems that your father didn't listen, or think about what you said. The concept of Lucidity is very very simple. Saying that it's just a vivid dream only shows that he formed his opinion the second you mentioned Dreaming, probably because he wasn't interested. If you really wanted, you could convince him, but it depends if he's willing to listen. In the end, LDing was proven by Laberge, and the "theory" has existed for hundreds or thousands of years in buddhism, and different tribes around the world.