Lucid dream sex = cheating?

[apollocre]

My girlfriend seems to think so. I'll respect that, but I was wondering what you guys thought.

[RockNRoller123]

No, it's not cheating. Crazy bitches these days.

[ChaybaChayba]

If you have a shared dreamed with another girl, and the dream is as real as reality, and you have sex with her, is that cheating? I mean, what's the difference from real sex and dream sex, if the experience feels real or even more real?

[maxy126]

No, it's not cheating. Crazy bitches these days. Lawl

[Fergie1]

you cant really cheat on your girlfriend with someone in your mind imo.

[spockman]

I'm going to tell you what somone once told me... Having sex with a manifestation of yourself is glorified masturbation. Ask her if she thinks THAT is cheating... (Although I do respect that you respect her wishes...)

[shotbirds]

she must keep you from touching yourself ^_-

[spaceexplorer]

Um obviously not. Tell her you extended your penis in the dream world. And ask her if that counts as being well hung in the real world? Or give money to charity in the dream world, and see if she considers that as genuine charity. etc. etc.

[yuriythebest]

My girlfriend seems to think so. I'll respect that, but I was wondering what you guys thought. lol iz you crazy? watching porn, LD sex and RL oral are NOT cheating.

[Sotik]

If you did have LD sex, why not just not tell her? LD's are all in your head, there is no way anyone else will ever know what happened within your dream unless you tell them. However to answer the question no, have you ever thought about boinking another female? Or ask your girlfriend if she has ever thought about doing it with another guy. She will most likely say yes, if she says no I am willing to bet that there is a 90% chance she is lying. There is some movie star, or really hot guy she knows of that she thinks or has thought about about sleeping with. Trust me it is human nature to have these thoughts. Well all LDing is, is thoughts with images and sensations, but they are nothing more then thoughts produced by your brain. If she has a problem with that, she needs help IMO. No offense, but it is just a dream...

[Adam24]

lol iz you crazy? watching porn, LD sex and RL oral are NOT cheating. LOL!!!! I can see why she thinks its cheating. Its good that you respect her wishes. Okay so if your having a none lucid sex dream and then become lucid do you have to stop half way through? or do you have to change it into her?

[DreamQueen]

lol iz you crazy? watching porn, LD sex and RL oral are NOT cheating. So you wouldn't mind if your girlfriend or wife gave another guy a blow job? Crikey, not sure many guys would agree with you there yuri! My husband sure doesn't! As for this thread, I just can't believe it. How on earth can someone be jealous of a figment of your imagination? What about if you think about a film star as you whack off? Is that cheating too? How utterly absurd. Is your girlfriend worried that you might get your dream character pregnant perhaps? Or that you might starting buying flowers and gifts for her instead? Or spending Valentine's Day sleeping instead of taking her somewhere special? What is the world coming to? I mean, we're supposed to be evolving but this really is a new level of stupidity. Tell your girlfriend to get a grip

[Jadestar]

How on earth can someone be jealous of a figment of your imagination? What about if you think about a film star as you whack off? Is that cheating too? How utterly absurd. Is your girlfriend worried that you might get your dream character pregnant perhaps? Or that you might starting buying flowers and gifts for her instead? Or spending Valentine's Day sleeping instead of taking her somewhere special? I've been thinking about this, too. I agree with you, she should not be jealous. However, I doubt that telling her to get a grip will actually help; her jealousy is most likely just a symptom of the real problem, and that's what should be addressed. The OP, I think, should ask his girlfriend why she thinks it's cheating. Of course, she might not want to say and she probably doesn't know herself; a lot of these things are unconscious or repressed. Maybe she simply needs some assurance; maybe she's not feeling secure in the relationship and is afraid that her boyfriend will meet someone better. Maybe she just needs to know that her boyfriend is treating it only as fantasy and not something he'd ever do in real life. Maybe she had sex with someone else in her own dreams and feels incredibly guilty. Hell, maybe she had a traumatic childhood and could have any kind of issues. Who knows? I suggest you guys have a talk. I think you, OP, have already taken the first step by respecting her feelings about it. That's cool.

[The Scrybe]

How on earth can someone be jealous of a figment of your imagination? Perhaps because it is in an LD and he is in control of it, thus making it a little more than a figment of the imagination. I agree though, if she is jealous of your dreams then you should have a talk with her, it could lead to more serious issues later on.

[DreamQueen]

Perhaps because it is in an LD and he is in control of it, thus making it a little more than a figment of the imagination. Ummm.. newsflash! A dream, whether lucid or not, is a figment of the imagination. It is not real, it is imagined. Anyone trying to argue this point needs to do a reality check lol!

[The Scrybe]

Ummm.. newsflash! A dream, whether lucid or not, is a figment of the imagination. It is not real, it is imagined. Anyone trying to argue this point needs to do a reality check lol! I was just trying to rationalise his girlfriends way of thinking.

[yuriythebest]

So you wouldn't mind if your girlfriend or wife gave another guy a blow job? Crikey, not sure many guys would agree with you there yuri! My husband sure doesn't! not if it was in a dream

[Jeff777]

My girlfriend seems to think so. I'll respect that, but I was wondering what you guys thought. If your girlfriend thinks you can't have sex with dream matter that "looks" like a human female then that screams "too possessive" if you ask me. It starts like this...they first start telling you what to wear, what to think, and then what to dream (or what not to dream) about.

[yuriythebest]

If your girlfriend thinks you can't have sex with dream matter that "looks" like a human female then that screams "too possessive" if you ask me. It starts like this...they first start telling you what to wear, what to think, and then what to dream (or what not to dream) about. good thing them nasty "thought scanner #9000" thingies are not yet invented

[TheMoon]

If your girlfriend thinks you can't have sex with dream matter that "looks" like a human female then that screams "too possessive" if you ask me. It starts like this...they first start telling you what to wear, what to think, and then what to dream (or what not to dream) about. I agree 100% with jeff honestly. If she feels like that, well you need to get away from her. Shes just going to cause you problems. Males need by nature to have sex with multiple people. However, since we want to stay faithful to one person, we have porn and lucid sex dreams to help us get through it. I'm just being a bit funny of course but serious too. No relationship ever works out unless you have sex with more then just one person. Also id like to point out, just because you have sex with someone else, doesn't mean you love them or want to be with them. Id only agree with your female, if you were falling in love with the girls in your lucid dreams, not paying attention to her no more, and just trying to lucid dream to have sex with those other girls again. If that happens, okay then that's a bit of a problem. Otherwise id have to say having lucid sex is healthy and if she tells you that she doesn't want you to do it anymore, you should really break up with her and find someone else. These are all my own personal opinions of course, and feel free to disagree with them (just try not to be too negitive)

[spockman]

Males need by nature to have sex with multiple people. No relationship ever works out unless you have sex with more then just one person. just because you have sex with someone else, doesn't mean you love them or want to be with them. Do you really think all that, or did you just comit adultry last week?

[TheMoon]

Do you really think all that, or did you just comit adultry last week? No i really think that honestly. I know it for a fact in fact No i don't get into relationships, too many problems Dont mind having sex, but none of that emotional stuff

[spockman]

Had to ask. I couldn't tell if that was your philosophy or if you felt really guilty and tried to justify your actions...

[12g951ad]

depends if your like having fun with your naber or you girl friend

[Lusense]

Nope, nothing even remotely close to that. That's like saying if you have an unintentional dream that involves having sex with someone you aren't in a relationship with you are cheating even though it may be beyond your control. To be honest I probably just wouldn't mention those dreams to her as long as you aren't actually cheating on her or would say I stopped intentionally doing it. I don't see a problem sometimes you have to hide small things like that to make things work.