Thread: Can´t stop dreaming about her

I think many lucid dreamers here can relate ^^ In the matter of fact there's a whole thread dedicated to people who've, at one point or another, tried to have certain feelings attached to a person in a dream. It could be anyting from a real person, or a dream person that actually don't exist in real life.

I've tried it myself, and it's weird how attached we can become to things in dreams, the feelings you can experience in dreams can be extremely strong, sometimes even stronger than what you've ever experienced in real life. This can create certain problems because we now how another kind of "reality" to seek, and it's very accessible for us.

That leads to one final question, what do we choose to do with this? We all know you can't live your life through dreams... obviously. What you experience in your dreams might feel very real, which is why we are more likely to overule/live with the fact that it's an illusion, because it's a very good one

And with the fact that she's dead(I'm so sorry to hear this)I don't think there's simple answers/solutions to it, it's more about(and this isn't meant as an offence), man up and deal with the fact that in the end, it is nothing, and it will always be nothing. You won't get anywhere with it, never. Face that fact, and get on with your life, go out and meet new awesome people Life throws unpleasent things in our face, it's all about keep on moving along! Keep doing what you're currently doing and you'll end up in an evil circle. Refer to that one question... what do you wanna do with it? ^^ It's your own choice in the end.

Good luck to you!

Do what makes you happy, bro. That's all that matters.

Don't sleep for the rest of your life, but definitely use your dreams for whatever it is you want. Improving your lucid dreaming ability will let you improve the time you have with your memories of her in your dreams. If it brings you happiness and helps you find closure, good for you.

If it brings you happiness and helps you find closure, good for you.

Yes, this is definitely also a good point. You CAN use the dreams as some sort of closure, as long as it is done in a healthy manner

Originally Posted by SomeDreamer

Yes, this is definitely also a good point. You CAN use the dreams as some sort of closure, as long as it is done in a healthy manner

You're saying I can't beat up Hitler?

You're saying I can't beat up Hitler?

uhm, I'm saying you shouldn't use a dream to continue an unhealthy obsession I don't quite understand what that have to do with you beating up hitler

I don't want to say I know how your feeling but I think I could relate in some way.

I don't see my old friends anymore. We kind of went our seperate ways with different highschools and such, half of them are enlisting in the military and just about all of them are getting into the drugs.

But i have the occasional dream that i'm still best friends with them and I want to end it but i keep forgetting that it's a dream when it's happening. I did have one that turned lucid but got distracted by wanting to try out things since it was a dream.

I haven't had these dreams for a little while but I want to become lucid in them so I can solve the problem. Tell them that I can't be friends with them anymore. Just simply can't and make sure they're understanding about that. I just get so annoyed.

Thanks for all the great reply´s, is nice to finally find some one that can relate to my dreams and diskus them with me

You CAN use the dreams as some sort of closure, as long as it is done in a healthy manner

Well that´s the problem, in the last couple of weeks I have accepted the fact that this isn´t healthy for me. The day after i have been with me love I can´t stop thinking about her, and it is really a problem because i need to get on with my life.
I now the easy answer is to stop dreaming about her, but unfortunately it´s not that simple. I know that there maybe no answers to my problem, and the main reason i made this post is to share my problems with you and maybe meet others with the same problem (not said that answers isn´t welcome).

anyone can link me to that thread? sounds good