I guess this is so unoriginal its practically a cliche, but here's a thought I had a few days ago that seemed meaningful.

We all want to have good experiences in our lives. Good jobs, loving relationships, fun activities....I think what matters a lot more than what we experience is what we are. Of course the two are intimately connected. What we are generates our experience, and what we experience feeds into what we are. But the mentality of wanting better experience seems to me to be a distortion somehow. Better to be authentically what we are, and to truthfully recognize what we are. Better to make choices for the sake of becoming something better, and helping other people become something better. Experience flows from that.

Krishnamurti said that its best not to aspire to be something better, that this is a mistaken projection of identity that involves conflict, that the Self is not something that becomes. Maybe that's sort of true at some level. But it seems to me that the self does contain things that become, that experience and temporal identity are a part of the self. And those things can become better. Not because the self wants to gratify itself in a pleasant illusion, but because the self wants to express itself in an honest and true way. The self is the center that life emanates out of, not a parasite on life that's trying to suck experiential sustenance out of its environment.

I'm not sure I said that well. Listen to understand better in your mind. Help me to understand better.