No.I can not relax.Have you some method to share, please ?

**ld1** · 08-08-2010 08:21 AM

I tried thought stopping, observing them, counting, 61 point relaxation and even if i am almost relaxed this stupid itching coming or leg hurts.So i have to move them, and reset.

Shit. i dont know what to do.

And i dont know how to stop my thoughts.

**SillyDreamer** · 08-08-2010 10:44 AM

Try directing your Consciousness to your Consciousness only.

Focus your consciousness on your consciousness. That's it. That's all there is to it. Ignore what you see & hear around you; focus your consciousness on that part of you which is aware, & not upon the objects of your awareness. Words & thoughts will stream through your mind; ignore them: focus your consciousness on your consciousness. Images & even emotions will come to distract you; pay them no heed : remain calm & concentrate on only one thing, your consciousness itself. When you are meditating, do not become distracted by external or internal phenomena. It is so simple.

**Amethyst Star** · 08-08-2010 03:45 PM

Are you trying to WILD or just get to sleep? Personally, WILD doesn't work for me for much the same reason (I can't get my own mind to shut up), and I have to just decide to fall asleep "normally." That doesn't mean that it won't work for you if you continue to practice and work towards it.

If you're trying to WILD, how long have you been trying? If it's only been a couple of days, don't give up. Keep trying for about a week as sometimes it takes a little while for a technique to start sinking in. Also, try to not let yourself become stressed. Stress will not only make it more difficult for you to fall asleep, but it will affect your recall as well. If you find yourself becoming frustrated, just take a minute to step back and take a few deep breaths and calm yourself.

If you're just trying to fall asleep, that's another matter. Do you watch much TV or play video games before sleeping? Do you exercise before bed? Those things can stimulate your mind and make you feel more awake and it may take a while for your mind to quiet down. I'd recommend taking about 10-15 minutes before going to sleep to do something a little less stimulating such as reading a book, listening to some music, stretching, etc. It can also help if you start making a steady routine before going to bed. If you get into a routine, eventually your mind and body will start realizing that when you start this routine, it's time to calm down and prepare for sleep.

I understand how frustrating it is and I hope that you're able to find a way to fall asleep better. I hope this was helpful in some way.

-Amé