Thanks much for the response Kamskun, JoannaB and Benni. It is much appreciated and I now realize my mistakes and that would have probably taken me months to learn if not for you guys. I will question my reality and looking for proof starting right this minute. and thanks for the links and the paperclip idea. Going to take some colorful paperclips home today and see whether that helps. Have an awesum day all

Thanks again
Cheerz