Hey all. I've been working on dream recall/ reality testing, and unfortunately i've had almost no luck at all becoming lucid. But, my dream recall is pretty good, so i've been scouring my dream journal for hints to dream signs. One thing I have noticed though is that my girlfriend has never made an appearance in any of the dreams I have recorded....or any that i can remember for that matter. Could the absence of someone so important to me be a dreamsign?

Any suggestions or tips are welcomed for becoming lucid for the first time lol.

P.S. I have a very hard time willing myself to sleep, as all of these methods seem to require, i end up burdening myself and staying up until i just give up on the technique i am experimenting with and going back to 'normal' sleep.