Thread: 30 Some Years Of Lucid Dreaming

I am new and started dreaming more lucidly in my teens after several nightmares of being chased and dream paralysis. I thought I was awake and could not move. At any rate, I discovered that if I relaxed and went back to the dream I could wake up shortly. Then I decided to confront my dream chaser and all I had to do as I "cowered in a shed on a Halloween type night" was look up at at it and not avert my gaze. Amazingly, after the first deep rooted fear shook me, then the image began to fade and break up. It was very satisfying to know that I controlled the outcome. I have ever since foiling home invaders, terrorist plots in the 80's, problem-solving and often the outcome is pleasant, as though there was a misunderstanding.
My questions come, that with age my dreams have become much more detailed and prolific. I am flying more and I want to go up. It seems whoever I am evading cannot fly as high as me. Sometimes I can soar so high and others I can barely skim above ground. The plots are usually in houses that I need to fix up. Good basic home, just needs some work. I do lots of cleaning and sorting, folding, etc. But the detail! I tell people that in my waking life there is not so much intricacy, and the places are other-wordly, like architecture and styles never seen here. I feel like I am living in Lord of the Rings. It is pretty awesome and wish I could replicate those things. Is this what it is about? Am I experiencing what is "normal" for a lucid dreamer? I can soar in above a lake and come down into a woods and find a cabin made for me with an abundance of beautiful wood work and craftsmanship and it is really full of wonder at the emensity.
Another dream topic, a little embarrassing for a 51 year old, is unrequitted love. I often "fall in love", but it always fades with nothing more than a kiss (if that) and I wake up. Am I controlling that outcome, or is it my destiny? By the way, I am always young and lovely, not myself as I am now.