Thread: Greetings

It is wonderful that you are able to contact her in your dreams.

Indeed it is, and I'm be remiss if I denied that seeing my wife (in one form or another) is one of the driving forces behind my getting into lucid dreaming. I made two separate half hearted attempts over the last decade, but this is the first time I've found myself emotionally invested to the point where I can keep at it.

If nothing else, it's nice to be able to remember some of my dreams on a nightly basis

Originally Posted by Mercen_505

Indeed it is, and I'm be remiss if I denied that seeing my wife (in one form or another) is one of the driving forces behind my getting into lucid dreaming. I made two separate half hearted attempts over the last decade, but this is the first time I've found myself emotionally invested to the point where I can keep at it.

If nothing else, it's nice to be able to remember some of my dreams on a nightly basis

I know that it's not nearly on the same level, but I was able to do this with my childhood dog who I had for 15 years. It is definitely amazing, therapeutic, and just... I don't know. I'm not sure it's possible to put into words how good it is to see and hug someone that you never thought you'd see again.

If you are worried about this negatively influencing any experiences with visiting the deceased, don't read what I've written below. It's just an anecdote I'd like to share to help warn you, but sometimes reading such a thing may "make it so" in your dreams if you believe that that is how a dream will turn out. The whole point of what I wrote is to stress what you should do in case seeing her takes a negative turn, but if you are confident that seeing her will be an all-over positive experience, don't even waste your time reading it.

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A word of caution, though. I would not attempt this until you are slightly more adept at lucidity, and until you are in a high and stable level of lucidity. My dog served as my dream sign and cued me in to lucidity, and she was perfectly healthy in the dream. My mother attempted to visit her mother in a dream. Her mother had died of cancer, essentially wasted away and been kept on life support for a while. When my mom finally got around to summoning her mother, she summoned her last memory of her, as she let her fears get the best of her, and saw a not-so spiritual, diseased and decomposing version. Just try to imagine how fantastic the experience will be, and focus on lucidity when it happens. If something scary happens, you can say something like, "Hey, don't be silly and look like that. Don't you know you're perfectly alright now?" or something like that. Definitely work on dream control before intentionally trying to summon her, is my advice.

I know that it's not nearly on the same level, but I was able to do this with my childhood dog who I had for 15 years.

Sure, I can relate. I've had non lucid dreams where I visited some of my friends from school, and it felt amazingly wonderful to speak to them and grab a hug or two. I awoke feeling... immensely refreshed, almost euphoric.

It's just an anecdote I'd like to share to help warn you

Sage advice, actually, although I never considered that possibility. As my wife has always appeared before me happy and healthy I figure that's how she'd pop up if I had to summon her. Assuming things continue to progress, I plan to spend my first few lucid dreams getting acclimated and simply trying to maintain them as long as I can. The two that I had (one ten years ago, the other about a year ago) were viciously short... as in seconds. I won't be able to do anything substantial until I learn to sustain what I have.

I have no underlying grief or regrets nagging at me that I'm aware of, so I doubt I'll have any trouble when the time comes to see her again. The last thing I did was hug her, give her a kiss, then tuck her into bed as I said "I love you, sweetie." It doesn't get much better than that.

Aww Well I'm glad I could contribute something helpful, but it sounds like you are definitely not going to need it Best of luck