I don't know what inspired your user name, but perhaps your inability to take control could be attributed to something your user name describes. my belief at the moment is that we are all more than one person-- there is the person you are at the moment, and there is the person that has always been and will always be. Someone else may call this your conscious self and subconscious self, respectively. Anyway, blah blah blah, perhaps the person you are at the moment really really REEEEALLLY wants to break into lucid dreaming, but for some reason, your subconscious or eternal or whatever-you-wanna-call-it self just isn't ready yet. Are you afraid of your own possible creations (if you take control of a dream, you may accidentally produce a monster like the sta-puff guy in ghostbusters) or is it a fear of the unknown (if you lucid dream, you may accidentally die by flying into a light or you may encounter situations or characters you wouldn't want to meet in the waking world.) My suggestion is you tell yourself over and over when you're awake as often as you can, whenever you think about it, "it's all in my head. i'm safe and in total control." eventually, your subconscious will accept this fact, and you'll be able to take over when you realize you're dreaming.