I may not be a newbie, but my friend asked me a question today that I could not answer, and he is very new to the dream scene, so I decided to let you people have a go at helping him out:

what does it mean when we don't dream of something we want to?
if there's something you want to dream about
but it's never in your dreams

I gave him some general directions for attaining lucidity but I thought it strange that he is unable to dream about something that takes up so much of his attention. (i assume) Any ideas why he is unable to dream about this?
(probably love related, I will ask him next time we speak)