kanji in love...

[Kanji]

there's this girl at my school (i'm a junior now!!! ), and we went to the same daycare in 6th grade (yeah, go on and laugh ). i remember her and she is drop dead gorgeous, but she doesn't seem to remember me (her friend told me). well, i've been wanting to be with her since 6th grade but it never turned out cuz we went to different middle schools. then in high school my freshmen year when i transferred, i was at her high school, so i waited freshmen and sophomore year and now junior year i think i'll have the courage to ask her out, but how exactly do i go about this smoothly and coolly (she's scorpio-pisces year of earth snake, i'm virgo-virgo year of earth snake if it means anything). btw: i performed a breakdance routine at my last rally with my friends at the end of my sophomore year, and everyone thought it was the best rally ever, so i'm wondering if this could have an impact on her. so throw me sum advice, i'm open to all suggestions.

[jacobo]

it would help if, when you first talk to her, you don't act like you've been trying to get in her pants since the 6th 'effing grade. if you guys have the same circle of friends why don't you just move in that way... you know... when you all go out, for coffee or ice cream or whatever you lil' rapscallions are doing these days, just flirt with her and do that. it's best not to jump on someone and pronounce all that's in your head... you see... that's how you scare people. -- or if you're not in her friend circle you could just ask her out to coffee or ice cream or gelato or some super new form of dessert that i'm not yet aware of. i think the underlying thing to remember is that you don't pounce and assume that she's feeling the same way... you got to let her get used to the idea of you liking her. but what the hell do i know.

[docKnubis]

let me check the magic 8 ball do you have a big penis if not grow one then ask again

[Kanji]

dammit...i don't like things that take too long (generation x-syndrome ) isn't there a quicker way? i mean, i'm sure there're ppl who just go up to sum1 they like and say "what's up? u wanna go out?" and then get down from there. so maybe i should try impressing her or sumthin. maybe just go thru high school without a girl....or ask her friend to tell her for me (the elementary way ). i want to get with her like the first week or two into school. i know it's a bit quick, but i really want to be with her (without the whole time and flirting and 'let's be friends' and shit like that). but i need really good advice (docthory, i will definately consider yours, but it's just a body part, i want her to know me, not my dick, though she'd like it very much ).

[Joseph_Stalin]

Movies and TV often have a negative impact physcologically You always think you're going to look like the jock-asshole who says "hey hotstuff, wanna go out?", and gets the 'routine' comic bitching. If you had some classes or something, small talk really glides things over better. You not only get to know her better, but you get confidence to ask her out, but if you're in the 'worst case scenario', well.... Hmm... You might wanna bring up your history in 6th grade just to break the ice a bit.

[Roller]

Try one of these assorted pick-up lines: "Are you wearing a mirror? Because I can see myself in your pants." "Wanna fuck? No? Well do you mind lying down while I do?" "Yeah I'm here, what's your other two wishes?" "Fuck me if I'm wrong, but do I know you?" (Best used on a stranger) Hmm if those ones don't work on her, I can't help ya mate... she must be one of those 'femminists' huh. Joking... just talk to her mate.. it seems hard, but you'd be surprised how just talking and listening to someone can open up a lot of doors. You need to know a little about her and she needs to k now some about you, it's a little wierd asking s omeone out if you nothing about them.

[irishcream]

communication, communication, communication!! I cannot stress this point enough! you have to keep talking, find things you can identify with on a mutual level. I agree with what someone said about bringing up sixth grade, you can have a whole 'do you remember...?'

[Merck]

You know how people often say to just be yourself in situations like this? Well contrary to popular belief this really does usually work out, unless you have Down's Syndrome and the girl you are wanting to ask out doesn't.

[irishcream]

yeah, and if you've got the right girl, being yourself is as easy as breathing, in that you don't have to think about it!

[Kanji]

thanx yall--got sum good advice comin thru so i guess i'll be ready my junior year. i know i can find a lot to talk about with breakdancing. maybe just a "did u like the rally...?" or sumthin like that. but wut bout dress 2 impress? and i know her friends r cool with me so maybe this could work out, and if not with her--well, there r still a lot of other skittles in the bag and i never know wut i'll get!

[irishcream]

Dress to impress...hmmm...best thing i could say there is dress casual but smart, make sure you're tidy, your hair is combed. Teeth brushed! don't forget deodorant, but for gods sake, go easy on the aftershave! on a personal note, too much of that and i'm swooning..and not cos i like it! I know that sounds like old fashioned advice, but it's what i'd look for in a bloke if i was meeting up with him. How a man presents himself, i think is a good benchmark for how he's going to treat you. As in, if he comes along looking like he's made no effort on his part, he probably won't make much effort with me, other than to get whatever it is he came for, and then he won't see the need to bother... you with me? Counts for women too, but we're more fastidious anyhow!

[InTheMoment]

and try not too stare at her breast and/or ass while talking to her...women tend too notice that.

[Kaniaz]

This is what I'd do. You: Hey, Gemma* Gemma: Hi Bob*. What's up? Bob: Would it be OK if we married and then spent the rest of our days living in a crappy apartment, dying slowly and wishing we had never had children and were still free to roam the world? Gemma: No. Bob: I'll beat you unless you do. Gemma: Oh, okay then. I think it's so tactful. Woman will be swooning over you. Really! *Names made up, dumbasses.

[irishcream]

Originally posted by Kaniaz This is what I'd do. You: Hey, Gemma* Gemma: Hi Bob*. What's up? Bob: Would it be OK if we married and then spent the rest of our days living in a crappy apartment, dying slowly and wishing we had never had children and were still free to roam the world? Gemma: No. Bob: I'll beat you unless you do. Gemma: Oh, okay then. I think it's so tactful. Woman will be swooning over you. Really! *Names made up, dumbasses. you can always count on Kaniaz's opinion on matters of the heart...

[Kanji]

cool adive guys (even u kaniaz ). trust me i always dress nice and accessorize when i can, keep my hygiene good and everything--u know. and trust me--i'm not tryin 2 get in her jeans or anything like that. i just really really like her--her quiet, mysterious attitude and her boot--er--beauty. but how do u guys think it would work out: her: girls' basketball team quiet, mysterious, introvert scorpio-pisces earth-snake (chinese horoscope) conservative, yet chic dresser a few friends here and there me: breakdance club talkative, open, extrovert virgo-virgo earth-snake conservative, yet flashy dresser know everyone in school (almost) how would it work? and keep the advice comin 2--it's all good! oh! and does candy turn a girl on--not like sexually or anything (but tell me if it does), but are girls in2 like a guy that's eatin candy like starburst or sumthin--and if so wut kind of candy?

[irishcream]

well, open and extrovert is good, just make sure you give her time to open up and talk to you in her own way. Pay close attention and listen to what she says. Use paraphrasing. Try and keep your tone light, even, conversational, not like you're trying to hit on her, even though you are, in a way! as to candy, i have no idea...

[nerve]

Originally posted by adidas -- or if you're not in her friend circle you could just ask her out to coffee or ice cream or gelato or some super new form of dessert that i'm not yet aware of. HAHAHA GELATO

[Roller]

Ooo I know... Stand for hours in front of a mirror and practice moving one eyebrow up and down. Then every time you see here give her a bit of the old eyebrow-wiggle. To make it fun you can try following her all day, catching her eye from behind bushes etc. You should also try the library trick - wait till she's browsing, get on the other side of the bookself, then as she pulls out a book to read what does she see? Your face looking at her from the bookshelf, giving the eyebrow-wiggle for all ur worth. How could she not fall in love with you then? Try licking ur lips too if ur game haha. OR ring up one of those really cheezy love-doctors and ask him.

[Merck]

Another thing that might be a good idea is to not come on too strongly. You want to let her know in some way that you like her and would like to get to know her more but don't be too pressing about it. Do it in a way that allows her to comfortably make a decision on it and give her all the time she wants. This isn't something you want to rush if you really give a damn about it. I guess basically what I'm saying is to put the ball in her court (no that was NOT an innuendo) and wait for her to make a move. And pay attention to what she says to, as if there is a test afterward and your life depends on it. Women really like a guy who actually takes the time to actually listen to them. Afterall, everyone likes to have attention now and then. Just don't fuck it up by pretending. Anyway, I hope it works out for you.

[Kanji]

cool, cool. nice advice, merck. now i just gotta wait until august 22nd. i was thinkin i could talk 2 her and get 2 know her and then about a month from the first day of school after i breakdance at the rally (16th of september) i could ask her what she thinks about it, and then maybe ask her out then. it'll b a friday, so she'll have all weekend 2 decide. and if she makes a decision on friday, then i'd have all weekend to let it sink in.

[irishcream]

well, good luck to you! Keep us updated!

[Kanji]

how bout if i walk up 2 her listening 2 an ipod and wearin sum cool sunglasses (AND A HAT!) and start breakdancing like crazy somwhere in there pulling a blowpop outta my pocket and putting it in my mouth while doing a 1990 (spinning in a one-handed handtsand position), then land in the classic playboy-freeze stance and ask her casually; like nothin happened, "'sup"?

[Joseph_Stalin]

No, unless you've already lost any self-respect. You're trying to get a date, not a restraining order.

[Kanji]

should i tell her a rhyme--girls like rhymes right?

[Roller]

Originally posted by Kanji how bout if i walk up 2 her listening 2 an ipod and wearin sum cool sunglasses (AND A HAT!) and start breakdancing like crazy somwhere in there pulling a blowpop outta my pocket and putting it in my mouth while doing a 1990 (spinning in a one-handed handtsand position), then land in the classic playboy-freeze stance and ask her casually; like nothin happened, \"'sup\"? While doing the eyebrow-wriggle! Oh I like that style, you're on the right track here lol