Thread: What do I do?

So sorry for the late reply. I'm just now seeing this.
I don't want to sound condescending, but how old are y'all?
I ask because my first marriage was a nightmare. We married too young and I was exceptionally insecure and he was too proud. We were both too bull headed for our our own good.

Y'all need to have an honest and open talk. Lay your heart, your insecurities, your intuition out there and hope he does the same. Don't accuse. Don't say things like "You make me feel". Simply change it around to "I feel this..."

Don't completely rule out your gut though. Just because you're "paranoid" doesn't mean there isn't some (or a lot of) truth to what you feel.
Some people don't understand emotional affairs. Some people don't consider petting, oral or mutual masturbation to be cheating (my husband was one of them- lol, until I asked him how he would feel if I did x, y or z with some other man ) All of this is where honest dialogue come in.

I hope the two of you smooth things out soon.

This may sound inappropriate but if you have some extra cash stashed away you could hire a private investigator (one of my old co workers did this) again it may sound a little extreme but just a thought

Originally Posted by Zhaylin

So sorry for the late reply. I'm just now seeing this.
I don't want to sound condescending, but how old are y'all?
I ask because my first marriage was a nightmare. We married too young and I was exceptionally insecure and he was too proud. We were both too bull headed for our our own good.

Y'all need to have an honest and open talk. Lay your heart, your insecurities, your intuition out there and hope he does the same. Don't accuse. Don't say things like "You make me feel". Simply change it around to "I feel this..."

Don't completely rule out your gut though. Just because you're "paranoid" doesn't mean there isn't some (or a lot of) truth to what you feel.
Some people don't understand emotional affairs. Some people don't consider petting, oral or mutual masturbation to be cheating (my husband was one of them- lol, until I asked him how he would feel if I did x, y or z with some other man ) All of this is where honest dialogue come in.

I hope the two of you smooth things out soon.

We are both in our early 30's. I will talk to him this weekend and I will be honest as possible. Thanks

Originally Posted by PrisonPlanet

This may sound inappropriate but if you have some extra cash stashed away you could hire a private investigator (one of my old co workers did this) again it may sound a little extreme but just a thought

Too bad I don't have enough to hire one, but that's a nice suggestion though

We talked and we both agreed to undergo counseling, checked out a site that was referred by our friend.