*the last paragraph has the most important info, so you can just read that if you wish. sorry this is long.

this is my first post on this site. i have had sometimes frequent lucid dreams, though i didn't know they had a name until i found this site. the first lucid dream i can remember was in 4th grade. i was in school and i told everyone they didn't have to listen to the teachers because they were in a dream. it was a fun time, but i have a question about my second most recent lucid dream:

i was taking a nap between classes and having a dream about this little african-american girl in a brilliant green dress with a white trim who was tap dancing. it must have been a type of talent show, because there was an audience. however, the stage she was tap dancing on was blocked from the view of most people for some reason. i felt bad that everyone could not see her. i was standing right by the stage (actually a little platform) and was applauding her spectacular act. i looked away from the stage and saw the girl's mother smiling and waving at her little girl from a seat that was back further from the rest of the crowd. i said to the little girl, "there's your mom. she's waving at you!" after the little girls act was over i applauded more, and she leapt down from the platform and walked away with her mother. and she was waling away i said goodbye and she turned back and said while waving, "see ya later." but she was not a little girl anymore. she was in fact a few years older now. i was shocked at first, but then realized i was dreaming and attained lucidity.

i was attempting to call up a girl to have sex with (i hadn't had an ld in a while, so i got a little too excited), but i suddenly got the feeling of becoming aware of my body outside of my dream. i couldn't remember feeling that in that way before. i gained control of my actual fingers and feet. (not %!00 sure i was really doing this). then i got the idea of telling my roommate who was across the room from me (in real life, not in my dream) that i was dreaming and thought it was such a cool idea to talk to him in the real world while i was lucid. so i tried this. i did not feel exactly the same as when i moved my fingers and feet. when i spoke, it came out as very raspy. i said "jordan, i'm dreaming." but i struggled on every word and felt like i was becoming depleted of oxygen. i also felt like i hadn't really said anything in the real world at all. but i was still gasping for air. i was scared i had attempted something i shouldn't have. i knew i had to wake up and was shaking myself and doing whatever i could to get back into the real world. i was sincerely panicked. i was scared at one time of being stuck in my dream, but then i suddenly woke up with a start. i was panting and looked over at my roommate who was looking back at me. i asked him if i had said anything in my sleep, and just as i had suspected, he said no. but i do still think i was able to move my fingers and feet. but now i am scared to try the feat of talking in my sleep when i am lucid again because of what happened. i really didn't like what i was feeling in my dream and for once feared real world pain while i was lucid. does anybody have an explanation for what happened, or had a similar experience?