Non-muslim dating muslim

[Tracy123]

Im not sure if anyone has wrote about this before but i was dating a muslim guy, we met in a bar he was really nice decided to give it a go, he asked me out etc to make a long story short were dating for 9 months. He kept saying he didnt want religion to be a problem then he stopped drinking, which dosent bother me at all i think it was better no fear of him getting drunk and cheating not saying drink makes you do this but it was just one less thing to think about, i also gave up drink i got sick of it and feel much better now. So when Ramadan started boom never heard from him again just like that he is able to stop txtning calling i found it really hard i missed him so much thought about him every minute and i was heartbroken but wanted to respect his privacy because i know ramadan is a very important time. So i gave him his peace and waited for him to contact me....., Then 2 weeks after ramadan i txt him saying why didnt you finish it with me instead of me wondering and worrying what had happened. He said his feelings still hadnt changed but he could no longer have a girlfriend. I just dont understand how he could do that knowing his religion much better than me why did he start something he knew could never work..... so im the one dropped heartbroken mis-lead and humiliated because i know people would have said to me i told ya so........ I believed it would work have no issues with Islam think it is a beautiful religion i just dont understand why do muslim guys get easily mis-lead and start living how they shouldnt....date drink etc and then when they decide to be good they hurt people innocent wemon......... Sorry for ranting just having a hard time understanding this whole situation ive never felt like this before about someone i fell in love and feel totally mis-lead.... It seems so easy for him to just forget about me and he didnt even give me a reason......... i would be interested to get anyones point of view on these situations im not the type to say aw well ill just go and get another because i still have very strong feelings for him the thoughts of being with someone else makes me feel numb. i dont want to be with anyone else............

[Mes Tarrant]

Please, please use commas and periods in the future. It was very difficult for me to read that paragraph. Anyway, I was in a similar situation with this Brahman guy. Why do they start something, knowing full well their upbringing or whatever doesn't allow it? Because they're idiots. He probably wasn't expecting things to go as far with you as they did. Do you know for sure that he stopped seeing you because of his religion? One thing I gather about Muslims is they feel a strong connection to or bond with fellow Muslims. Perhaps some of his buddies pointed out that you didn't fit into this cult thing they've got going on. Meh.

[Tracy123]

oops sorry about that commas and periods........... we spoke when i txt him and he wanted to be with me, then heard nothing again for 2 weeks and he said he dosent know what he wants now......hes clearly confused. i thought about that too that maybe his friends are saying stay away because one did in the past. one of his friends was in a relationship that didnt work and was advising him to stay away because were all the same. I just find it hard to understand how they can stop everything i would find it so hard i wouldnt be with someone in the first place if i thought there would be issues....

[Mes Tarrant]

I just find it hard to understand how they can stop everything i would find it so hard i wouldnt be with someone in the first place if i thought there would be issues.... I know, right?? *sigh* Just give him time to figure out what he wants, but be firm and demand a coherent explanation for why he has done this to you. You deserve one!

[Siиdяed]

Yeah. Stay confident, this is clearly something that he feels he has to deal with, and clearly isn't your fault. Move on if you have to. Men are dirt. Yay! Girl-power! ...I started my post seriously.

[Tracy123]

Yeah. Stay confident, this is clearly something that he feels he has to deal with, and clearly isn't your fault. Move on if you have to. Men are dirt. Yay! Girl-power! ...I started my post seriously. ha ha thanks your right girl power i wish i was stronger but i guess time will help me!!!!

[Tracy123]

I wont be getting an explaination from him......i tried and he dosent even know what he wants ive never felt this bad over a man fair enough i know when things are going wrong and can accept that and move one, but this was different we got on soo well it was like we knew each other and im finding it hard to forgive and forget..........and walk away like it never happened ......i guess i have no choice but to................