I'd try to argue some sense into their irrational ass. |
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If you're an atheist, and someone you loved was on their deathbed and said stuff you don't believe. Like, see you on the other side, or i see spirit people around me, or something like that. What would you say? it's all your imagination, or believe it for them because they will soon cease to exist anymore, and last thing they would want to hear is something as good as that. If they asked you if there is a heaven, what would you say? stand by your beliefs? or lie to them to make them feel better in their last few seconds/minutes. |
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I'd try to argue some sense into their irrational ass. |
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I have been in that situation, and I put the person's feelings above my honesty. It really seemed like the right way to be in that terrible situation. My grandmother's dying wish was that I would rejoin the Presbyterian Church. When she was about to die of cancer, she encouraged me to go to her church's adult classes on what the Presbyterian church is all about. She said she did not want to spend her time in Heaven wondering where I was. So I went to the class every Sunday until she died. |
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See. It looks like not all atheists are soulless killing machines. |
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I don't think i'd say outright " yeah i'll see you in heaven" or what ever, |
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Ya i would humor them. Why ruin a good thing for them? |
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I don't anticipate the deathbed situation, being the most religious person in my family and a Buddhist, but generally in situations with a strong Christian overtone or where a Christian ritual is initiated, I play along. As a kid, I would just omit "God" from the pledge and boyscout oath and such without making a big deal of it. I found it irritating and oppressive at the time, but anymore I just treat it as an anthropological experience. |
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If you have a sense of caring for others, you will manifest a kind of inner strength in spite of your own difficulties and problems. With this strength, your own problems will seem less significant and bothersome to you. By going beyond your own problems and taking care of others, you gain inner strength, self-confidence, courage, and a greater sense of calm.Dalai Lama
If you have a sense of caring for others, you will manifest a kind of inner strength in spite of your own difficulties and problems. With this strength, your own problems will seem less significant and bothersome to you. By going beyond your own problems and taking care of others, you gain inner strength, self-confidence, courage, and a greater sense of calm.Dalai Lama
That is EXACTLY what it seems like to me. |
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Going in without significant baggage, church services are interesting anthropological experiences. Megachurch sermons are eerily similar to motivational speakers at business and sales seminars, which makes some sense given the overlap in membership between the two. |
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If you have a sense of caring for others, you will manifest a kind of inner strength in spite of your own difficulties and problems. With this strength, your own problems will seem less significant and bothersome to you. By going beyond your own problems and taking care of others, you gain inner strength, self-confidence, courage, and a greater sense of calm.Dalai Lama
Dude i knwo what you mean. Its like those "born again christians" who say halleuyay i found jesus! Then you gotta think did they really "find jesus"? or was the message repatedly and repeatedly pushed into their head by loads of chating like hail jesus jesus is the lord they just chant that bull shit and it brain washes people if you know what i mean by that. I know what you mean man its so scary. What goes on in chruches is real life brainwashing they just pump a message into your head through as many mediums as they can, song,motivational speakers,group sessions where they say stuf f like praise the lord!!! Jesus is the savior!! |
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In all honesty, I probably wouldn't respond in most cases. I wouldn't lie for their comfort, as cold as that sounds. Though most who know me know of my Atheist nature, so most wouldn't expect a comforting lie from me. Perhaps I'd say something like "We'll see" with a smile. |
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Its that comfort in God, to put a veil over the unknown, that has drowned our society in ignorance and held us back. Its actually that veil, that hiding from the unknown that, in my opinion, makes death more fearful. Its the idea of eternal life that pleasures people, so when death finally comes, its "an end to it all" fear that seems to take hold and drive them to tears. When that is removed, and one accepts the fact that they're going to die, it seems to be a lot more comforting. I think, that even as cold as it is not to give that comforting lie, that it'd be more comforting to say how you really feel and to help that person accept their death rather then ignorantly comfort them with false promises of eternal life. |
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I agree with what you said about the problems caused by religion. However, I make an exception when it comes to dying relatives who want to die believing they will see me again. I will give them that. It is an extreme and exceptional situation. They are not going to screw up the world. They are just going to be horrified for a little while and then die. |
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It seems like it should depend on what they are actually saying, Exobyte. I would agree with you if they are just asking you if you think they will go to heaven, but one of the examples the OP presents is that they are saying "I see spirit people around me." In that situation your options are either to give them the benefit of the doubt in their final moments or argue with them and tell them what they are seeing isn't real. I think in that situation it would be an huge dick move. If its just a matter of them wondering what will happen though, I agree that you should be open and honest about your beliefs. |
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This is a choose 1 or the other, so i don't hold anyone to blame if they choose either. Lie to make them feel more comforted, or be blunt and tell them they are going to cease to exist forever. It will be quick, and you will cease to care or anything human will be gone. I don't really care what anyone picked, just wanna see what Atheists would do when they come to this pickle. |
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I've been in that exact situation. I went along with it. Whatever makes people more comfortable in their last days or hours is far more important than my petty beliefs, IMO. |
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What's the point in telling them such blunt facts on their deathbed? If they don't believe it is the end, in most cases, if people were going to change, they would have done it beforehand. If they do realise it's the end, what's the point in reiterating what they know? |
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I think it's situations like this that actually work to bring out a person's true stance on the whole "is there an afterlife" question. Most of the time, I see atheists use the cover-your-ass technique of stating "I'm an atheist, but I reserve a .0000001 chance that the afterlife (God, etc) may exist," when it comes to an argument or debate. However, if a loved on is on their deathbed, and they were to say something like "I'll see you on the other side," I think it would take a person devoid of that alleged "margin of error" to disrupt an otherwise peaceful death by arguing with them about how illogical the belief in said afterlife is. |
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I would lie. Or at least just nod, or not say anything. |
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